It is a common misconception that women are “attracted to” all guys in the same way.
For reasons rooted in evolutionary psychology, there are two distince categories of female attraction toward a guy:[ul][li]Attraction toward a guy she’d like to boink, and[/li][li]Attraction toward a guy she’d like to settle down with.[/ul]The first cateory is typically made up of big grunting hairy apes. They don’t have to be jackasses, but being a jackass won’t act against them. This category triggers the subconscious instincts in the woman which say, “Wow, get a load of that great breeding stock! If he gets me pregnent, my kid is going to have great survival odds!” Sexual attraction is the initial response to guys in this category.[/li]
The second category is where the “nice guys” fall. They don’t have to be bad-looking, but less-than-perfect looks won’t act against them. This category triggers the subconscious instincts in the woman which say, “Wow, he’s seems pretty likely to stick around and help protect and provide for me and my offspring!” Often, there is no sexual attraction to guys in this category initially.
Of course, ultimately, what the vast majority of women want is a guy who falls into both categories: Strong, handsome, and confident, yet at the same time caring and compassionate and generous (to her). But such combinations are rare.