I have nothing profoud to add other than my good thoughts and prayers are with you, Pain N Diaz. The others on this thread have given you very good advice. My best wishes to you.
My circumstances were very different, but there was a time in my life where I was pretty much rock bottom, and felt it was “all over”. But I was most definitely wrong. Oh, how different things can look in a year. Or two. You just never know.
Thank you, hon. There were a few other things that happened along the way that I didn’t put in there, and it truly was the worst three years of my life. Particularly the last one, since mom and Rob died almost exactly one year apart.
But it isn’t about who had it or HAS it worse, and your burden right now is heavy. Mine is…well, it is actually pretty heavy right now too, but in a better way. My father, whom I adore, is 84 and although he is healthy right now, he needs a lot from me. I am happy to give it, but that doesn’t make it any easier. There are other things, too. But…
The thing is, I think you have to find a way to accept that you ARE moving away from the train, and the tunnel won’t last forever. And every step you take toward the END of the tunnel takes you one step closer to the light at the end OF that tunnel. I know that is simplistic, but I found that simplistic works best when you are dealing with truly awful things. Don’t think too much about the big picture…just make a list of what you can DO something about and what you CAN’T do something about, and start working on the first list. And try not to think too much about the second list. It is hard, but I found that once I got to the end of the first list, I had somehow let go…at least a little…of the things on the second list.
If you want someone to talk to, I am happy to lend you my shoulder. My email address is on the bottom of this post.
I’m praying for you.
My Love,
Cheri
Pain, I cannot add to the wisdom here of others. I am sorry for all your troubles.
But, if your credit is slowly going downward, wouldn’t your wife’s credit also being swirling down as well? that can be comfort in some sick, twisted manner.
Can you file for divorce from her? do you know where she is living right now? What about filing for bankruptcy to protect yourself from further damage? If you can afford the paperwork for the bankruptcy, you could probably save yourself from futher headaches and be able to start afresh.
Even though you don’t think your house is inhabitiable (sp?), possibly talking to a real estate agent could tell you the possibilites of having a renter.
Could you arrange for a ride to work with coworkers?
Take care and take it one moment, one breath at a time.
Payne, first of all ditto all the supportive things that people said above. You CAN survive this, even if it doesn’t sometimes feel that way. I am glad to see you are feeling a bit better.
The only other helpful thing I can think to say is about the meds. How long have you been taking Wellbutrin? If it has been more than 6 weeks and you don’t see any improvement, talk to the MD who prescribed it. Psych meds are funny and sometimes what works great for one person doesn’t help another. It is pretty much a guessing game, so if you have given the Wellbutrin a shot, it might be time to try something different. There are lots of other meds to try and one might work better for you.
Best of luck to you.
Dude pray. just pray and even if you don’t believe in God just scream it out until some one here’s you. You need help we all do but if you seriously start looking for you gun you never find out who helps you in your most desperate hour. Trust me on this. This is your hero trial it will get worse before it gets better but when it does you’ll come out a stronger person for it.
My goodness that sounds too creamy even for me. But hey I’m thinking its true for now cause I’m doing the whole suffering and despair thing myself.