She reached out to me - and I responded to her email tonight - I told her we’d take it as easy as she was comfortable with - but what a wonderful gift! She’s OUT there!!
And Oh LORD would I love to talk to her!!! 26 - almost 27 (in about a month) years since I’ve even seen her - I’m in tears!!! GOOD tears!
A friend of mine was contacted a few years ago by the son she gave up for adoption. The relationship that has blossomed has been wonderful for both of them. I wish the same for you and your daughter!
I’m scared - she hasn’t gotten back to my email yet.
Let me start from the beginning - (no not 26 plus years ago - don’t worry! :D) I got a call on my home phone (which is listed on adoption registry sites) from her last name which I didn’t answer because I didn’t recognize the number and no one left a message. So I thought nothing of it.
This morning, I get an email from the same last name as that phone call with the right dates and names and everything that I had on the adoption registry (I’m looking for my birthmom too but also put her info in too in case she was looking for me) and emails from her and I confirmed everything and now I’m kinda freaking out. No. I’m not kinda freaking out. I’m REALLY freakin out.
I still have the phone number she called from last night in my phone - but I’m afraid to call. I think it would be too pushy if that makes sense.
Oh Good Lord - it’s my DAUGHTER - I’m not making ANY sense!!
I found my birthmother 16 years ago-and it’s been a pretty rewarding relationship. Not only did I find 2 beautiful sisters, but now one of them has given birth to 3 wonderful nieces. I hope you are as well rewarded.
I hope so - she apparently is in Texas - my google-fu is working OVERTIME right now - I’m still just scared. And Happy as Hell. And ready to throw up. And all of that stuff. Thanks for being here - I appreciate it you’s guys!
I THINK this covers it but if you have other questions that weren’t addressed in that thread, please don’t hesitate - I have no problem talking about it.
As for birth dad’s whereabouts I have no idea. I haven’t spoken to him since 1999 (I tracked him down to let him know my dad had died - and that was really hard to do. Track him down, I mean. He’s basically a waste of air.) But I mean that in the nicest possible way! So I’ll ask her, if and when I ever meet her (I made it clear in my email to her that this would all be on her terms) that if she wishes me to find him, I will do my best. She deserves that. And I’ve tracked him down before, I can do it again. This isn’t about me - it’s about what SHE needs and wants. Does that make any sense?
How are you dealing with it? I hate to sound selfish but can you maybe give me any insight into how she may be feeling so I can try to figure out what to do/say/how to act/whatever/I’m freaking out?
I have no idea even what to SAY if we talk on the phone - would I be to out of line to ask you what things you would and woudnl’t want to hear? Anything??? Please???
I just glanced over at your old thread and I am sorry if these questions have already been answered somewhere: Did you get in touch with your own birth mother and build a relationship with her? What does your son think about this? Does he know that your daughter has reached out to you now?