I need some lessons from you Tasha. I harassed him some more about the custody thing this morning, filled out all the paperwork for him and figured out how to file it without having to make the two hour drive to the appropriate jurisdiction to file it. Now, all he has to do is sign his name. Her family is willing to serve her (that’s how whacked this chick is, even her own family wants my SO to have joint custody).
Next week, when she gets notice that he filed, should be real interesting!
Thanks for your understanding, Beadalin, it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
Yo! lezlers old buddy! I have the solution to your problem. (And what are good friends for anyway, if not to help with problems?)
In this part of Alabama, you can get somebody whacked for $40. If y’all can get her over here, I’ll take care of the details.
Plan on a three-day weekend. We’ll take care of the business first. That won’t take over an hour, two at most.
It’s a good time of year to visit here. The weather’s nice and there’s lots of stuff to do. I’ll take you and the SO to a dove shoot, we’ll go fishin’, and even attend an Auburn football game. I’ve recently acquired two quart jars of the finest Macon County moonshine whiskey and y’all can help me dispose of that before the high-sheriff gets wind of the situation and claims my ‘shine for his own personal use.
Y’all will head back to the Left Coast exhausted, with bad hangovers, but with a major problem removed from your otherwise blissful existences.
No need to gush with thanks, I know you’d do the same for me. Just give me about three days lead-time so I can round up the extra football tickets, which will be the most challenging part of the weekend’s details.
Your best friend forever, JCoM
PS: Something actually, you know, constructive? I got nothin’.
I also don’t think you should say anything to the crazy ex, lezlers. The advice that is always given to people leaving abusive relationships is to not engage with the other person at all - not in positive ways, and not in negative ways - I guess the rationale is that any attention encourages them. I really don’t see any good coming out of you engaging your SO’s ex at all, in spite of how good it would feel to tell her very clearly how she is messing up everyone’s lives.
My best advice at this point - document everything she does like others have said. Don’t talk to her at all - let her calls go to voice mail. If she continues to call you and/or the messages are harrassing, document those as well, and decide with your SO on the best course of action - charging her with harassment, or just changing your phone number and not letting the crazy affect you too much.
I think I can understand why you’re all het up about this - I think all of us nice, non-confrontational people fantasize about just tearing strips off people sometimes. I myself fantasize about just screaming and hitting out at people who really, really need it occasionally. It’s just a healthy outlet for frustrations and anger.
Is it possible that she’s blacked out while she’s making these calls? And if so, perhaps she’s that much of an alcoholic that it would help your SO in the custody appeal.
Friend of mine and Mr. Rilch’s went through a rather nasty divorce a few years ago. Luckily no kids, so it’s over and done with now. But I well remember one fine Saturday during the divorce proceedings. “George” and another guy were here for dinner and so forth; Mr. Rilch was going to make the dinner and I was going to make the dessert. The guys went out to get the dinner fixin’s, and while I was making the dessert, the phone rang. Well, it was chocolate mousse I was making, and I wasn’t going to interrupt that for Og Almighty, so I let the machine get it.
It was “Martha”, George’s soon-to-be-ex, of course. It wasn’t a tirade, just a long, long, looooooong message (our machine lets you talk indefinitely), punctuated with those snippy "um"s and "uh"s. “Uh, I really need to know this…Um, I really don’t appreciate that you did that…So, um, if you could just call me, we could settle this, okay?” I just let her ramble on, then alerted George to the message when the guys got back. Long story short, when the divorce was final, Mr. Rilch summed it up as, “She got a house out of it.”
Anyway, my point. Let her call you if she wants to. Let it go to voice mail, and then you have proof.
Yes, I know I should just ignore her and hope she doesn’t call. She hasn’t called since Monday and she’s drunk dialed the SO since then so I guess if she was going to call me in a drunken tirade, she would’ve by now.
The custody paperwork will be filed on Monday and she’ll be served not too long after that (a deep dark part of me so wants to be the one who serves her since she has no idea what I look like) then the shit will surely start flying. If she doesn’t call me after she gets served, she’s not likely to ever call, so this whole thread will be moot.
Until then, I will have to keep chanting “be the adult, don’t call her…be the adult, don’t call her…be the adult, don’t call her…”
I harassed him some more about the custody thing this morning, filled out all the paperwork for him and figured out how to file it without having to make the two hour drive to the appropriate jurisdiction to file it. Now, all he has to do is sign his name. Her family is willing to serve her (that’s how whacked this chick is, even her own family wants my SO to have joint custody).