My two buddies who both went through divorces this last year are throwing a Thanksgiving party. The last few holidays and kids birthdays have been realy depressing. But last night we got together and they told me the PLAN. Man ,I am glad to see them snapping out of thier funk. We used to all support each other (I divorced but remarried earlier this year) but now they’re helping themselves.
The party will take place at my apartment and theirs (did I mention we all live in the same building, they’re roomies and live in the next apartment). It was so refreshing to see this guys smiling again for a change. Anybody else have any heart warming stories?
I’m there in spirit!
This will be my first Thanksgiving w/o the kids. It doesn’t seem to be as bad as Halloween because it will be an opportunity for me to talk to my family and see friends I haven’t seen in a while. Also, I have to drive up to Kenosha, pick up my mom and sister, drive back to my uncle (who lives less than a mile from me), eat, etc. and then drive them back!! Lotsa miles that day- and they won’t be easy ones
The kids are spending four days with their cousins up at the summer house so they’ll have fun w/o me.
stuffinb hope this warms your little heart.
my family is scattered (2 siblings live in the same state, our father who art in Florida is there). So turkey day will be my SO of 14 years, my 16 year old son and me.
The “warming” part is the discussion about the holidays that I had with my son’s dad. We’ve been divorced for almost 15 years, and well, it was a good thing that we got divorced. At this point, we’ve done stuff like:
Turkey day is usually with mom, except the times that his dad had out of town family around, then we made special trip to drop him off to be with them, too.
Christmas, has typically been with his dad, except for the (this year will be the 4th) times we’ve gone out of state. We celebrate with my in state family on days other than Christmas, we’ve also co-ordinated with his dad if there’s a chance of out of town family with that side.
New Years pretty much whoever didn’t get Christmas.
So, even after a really bad marriage, some nastiness in the divorce etc., we’ve been able to cooperate about holidays and make sure both sides get time and that our son sees family as much as possible.
MikeG I know what you mean about Halloween it use to be the worst, being so kid centered an all.
Wring I’m glad to here things are civil with your ex and all, I wish I could say the same. Luckily I have physical custody (three boys) for the time being, pending a court hearing in January.
I’m kinda concerned about that part. Howie’s daughter is out of the country with her mother, and right now there’s still too much venom in gerald and his ex wifes situ, to make an appearance of his daughter likely.
I’m just glad they won’t be wallowing like our last get together.
We’ve already invited guest from work (howie and I work together) and mutual aquaintances. Between the three of us we have the dreamcast, ps1 and n64, Howie and I will cook from both stove/ovens. We plan to make my living room Football friendly with two TVs and his place videogame friendly the same way.
My wife has volunteered for keeping the women company (and I suspect matchmaking).
Let me give you some hope: At one point (about 10 years ago), things were soooooo bad, Ben’s dad threatened to take me to court 'cause he didn’t approve of Ben’s hair cut. swear to God. So, if we can get to the point of cooperating about holidays, I believe it’s possible for damn near anybody.
