If being in the messy room is honestly inteferring with your enjoyment of sex in the room, then, yes, it would be acceptible.
If you’re blowing your discomfort of the room out of proportion in order to pressure your girlfriend into cleaning it, that’s not acceptable.
IMHO, or course.
The sloppy girlfriend, checking in and defending my man.
Robertliguori told me up front when this started that if I really was pissed off about it, I could tell him it was none of his damn business and he’d drop the no-sex thing. Since, from the second example he showed you all, I’ve learned to actually SAY when something he does pisses me off, this wasn’t a problem. I actually thought it would be kind of fun to have an incentive for me to clean my room, as I never can find anything anyway and I get too distracted to finish cleaning on my own (usually). I also thought it would be fun for us to focus more on being close without orgasm.
It may have been manipulation, but if both parties are in agreement, is it a bad thing?
What is the point of this exercise? Everyone has pretty much chimed in saying it’s weird or creepy. If he doesn’t have a problem with it, and you don’t have a problem with it, where the hell are we supposed to go from there? Are we supposed to tell you how to have a relationship?
I was bad enough when he insisted on the “I think it’s wrong, but I don’t get it” schtick, now you’re going to do the same thing too?
We don’t have an investment in this. He can take a shit in middle of your room to highlight his point that your room looks like a shit hole and needs to be cleaned up. But if you don’t mind and he doesn’t mind, best of luck to you both.
Wait…that might have been too harsh. He’s not forcing you is he? Are you under duress?? Did he threaten to not give you any sex unless you log on and defend him???
You can tell us, sweetheart.
If both parties are in agreement, it’s called “a deal” or “an agreement.” Or if you actually sign something, perhaps “a contract.”
Personally, I would not accept it from my husband. But I’m not in your relationship, and you aren’t in mine. What does my opinion matter?
If both parties agreed to this deal, it sounds to me as if y’all have the makings of a Dom/sub relationship. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Heh, no. I told him I wouldn’t give him any until he let me defend him.
Just kidding. But no, no manipulation here. I defended him of my own accord.
Excuse me, I have some cleaning to do.
Can’t breathe… Laughing…
Yeah, if you don’t mind his behavior that’s all that matters. Of course, if you guys ever break up, the poor bastard is going to have a rough transition when he tries to date someone else… “Did you just tell me you wouldn’t kiss me until I cleaned my plate?! mace”