Where (in summary) i received a mental kick in the right direction. I must admit that…
hangs head in shame
…i bottled it last night and didn’t ring her.
BUT
'tis lunchtime at work and with Hugh Jass’ threat of an arse-kicking hanging over me…
I rang her
She sounded really embarrassed and started to apologise for her behaviour on saturday, that she’d made a fool of herself and wouldn’t do it again etc. etc.
I think she was expecting me to do the “BACK OFF YOU FREAK!” speech.
Anyway, i kinda cut her off and said that she didn’t need to worry and that actually i’d been thinking a lot about her over the last couple of days, and that i’d kinda realised that the more time i spent with her and the more i found out about her, the more i enjoyed her company and looked forward to seeing her again. (Kind of muddle up i know - but i’m no good at this stuff) And that i was thinking that maybe, if she was still interested, she’d like to come out for dinner with me.
After a short silence in which i completely forgot to breath she said that she’d love to!
So what can i say guys, but thanks! You are right - it may end really badly and cause untold pain and suffering to all involved…
but then again…
maybe not
oh yeah and for those who were interested…
she’s about five - ten, her dad is classic anglo-saxon english whilst her mum is oriental (from hong kong i think) and she’s inherited the best features of both (and a slight permanently tanned look) she’s slim - but not stupidly so, i think i remember her saying she was an eight (?). She has fantastic legs and a (relatively) small but perfectly formed…um…“chest” and finally she has long brown hair and deep brown eyes.
Oh yeah - and she wrinkles her nose when she laughs.
You don’t need luck. What you need is to relax. This time with her should be no different than other times you’ve been with her and you’ve both enjoyed yourselves. Don’t try too hard, just be the person you are and let the same chemistry which brought you together at parties do its work. You weren’t trying to cater to her in those situations and they were fun right?
If possible plan something that will help make relaxation easy. Casual dining at the very least, perhaps something active(dinner theatre? Not sure if that’s your speed, but if you hang out in rugby circles I’m sure there is some sort of activity you’d be up to**) so you don’t have to try to support every moment with talking. Almost nothing kills a geeks chances with a woman more than trying too hard on a date. Be together and be yourself. If you’ve got chemistry, as you seem to, then the time together will be naturally pleasant.
Be real; be yourself, not what you think she wants you to be.
Well done! It sounds like you did great on the phone. Just stay calm, don’t rush things (i.e. don’t talk about love and long-term relationships on the first date), and just have fun. To echo Mtgman, don’t try too hard! Play it cool!
Don’t let it be weird. Be yourself and don’t try to do anything different or think of the situation differently than you did other times you’ve hung out together and had fun. The situation will be more intimate just because it’s the two of you alone, no need for you to try to make it more special or approach it with a significantly different attitude. If something romantic develops, handle it then, don’t look to create it or expect something to happen. That’s a good way to kill the fun.
Thank God! Honestly, I was dreading the flight over there.
Congratulations for working up the nerve and good luck on your date. Remember, open the door for her. Pay for everything. Tell her she smells nice. Compliment her on her clothes. Take a shower before the date so you don’t smell.
Does anyone remember the guy that told all about this girl that wore her pajama bottoms to class. They started up a relationship and he had a thread telling about it and asking for advice. This thread is sort of “Deja Vu” to that one.
