Does it really matter who is to blame?
The OP can only affect what she does, and (as someone who isn’t in a committed relationship) is only responsible for her own happiness and stability. Clearly she made some moves which were wrong in a number of different ways. Thankfully, she seems to have learned from her mistakes and wants something better than the bad scene she as a part of.
Thank you even. That’s a very true statement. I’m trying and succeeding for wanting better for myself.
I thought about it this way today… I don’t have a suspicious spouse who likely knows to deal with.
Just feeling a bit bitter…that’s all.
Yeah, just you keep telling yourself that.
As a person who’s been happily married to the same guy for 25 years, I will keep telling myself that, because it’s the truth.
As the cheated-on wife, I have to agree with PunditLisa. The “other woman” owed me nothing…she and I are never going to be best buds, obviously, but all of my anger is directed at my ex-husband. He’s the one who made the vows, he’s the one who broke them. Honestly, I hardly ever even think about her except to be glad that she’s the one stuck with him now.
Listen, I have no sympathy towards Tremblay, and frankly I think there is a double standard on this board with regards to cheating. Members here seem a lot quicker to forgive a woman’s indiscretions than they will a man’s.
But PunditLisa is right, there is no such thing as a “home wrecker”, that’s all on the husband.