Dark Prince and Spooje,
I sure hope things start turning around for you real soon.
Spooje: you do know a soul in Boston…your lady! Plus, moving from baseball heaven (snort-Giants fan here) to another baseball heaven might not be so bad. Boston is certainly a baseball town.
Good luck to you both 
Just GO, Spoojie! You’ll never know what may happen if you stay where you are! Sometimes it’s good to play it safe, but in this case, I think it’s a good idea to take a calculated risk!
Hope things get better for you and Darkprince!
Moving far away can really be a great, life-altering adventure, with our without an SO. It did wonders for me.
I’m feeling really bad for Dark Prince. 
He isn’t acting.
OK, I made a dozen phone calls yesterday trying to reach the insurance company of the guy who hit me. My insurance company gave me a number, that was changed to a 900 directory assistance number that charged me 2 bucks and still didn’t give me the right number.
I called the guy that hit me. Who gave me his mothers number and said she had the right number. I call her up and she gives me the number. She also tells me her son says the accident was MY fault!!!
It occured to me that if he sticks to this, I will be powerless to refute it. There were no witnesses. It will be a push for the insurance companies and I will have to pay my deductable and rental car out of my own pocket. I can only wait and see if this , eh, man…has a conscience or not.
I quit smoking 12 years ago. But if this keeps up, I may take you up on that.
About the no witnesses thing; any chance that it was one of those lights that snaps your picture?
It was not.
spooje–weren’t the police called to write up a report? Shouldn’t that back up your story at least a little? 
And I’m quite sorry to hear about your roommate–but good on you for knowing when it’s time to go. Looking out for #1 and all that–it sucks but it’s worth it. Talk to your girl, find out what’s up—Boston could be fun!
bella
On the one hand we have spooje, whose love of his life is heading to Boston from LA where he doesn’t know anyone and where he would essentially be depending on her for just about everything (at least emotionally since he doesn’t know anyone).
On the other hand we have DarkPrince, who was living with his gf and was depending on her for everything emotionally far away from his family. His gf cheated, and he had to leave because his sole supporter was gone.
And now everyone is telling spooje to enter the same situation which did wonders for DarkPrince?
This isn’t a romance novel where everyone lives happily ever after, The End. spooje had a good job with family and friends and a National League team without the blasted DH.
To both of you I sincerely hope things get a whole lot better very, very quickly. You were both dealt a rotten blow, and that just plain sucks.
To spooje, you have my deeper sympathies in trying to figure out what to do. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. Just don’t ever regret it. If that means letting her go, that is what it means. If it means moving to Boston just because, then go for it.
What you own is your own kingdom.
What you do is your own glory.
What you love is your own power.
What you live is your own story.
In your head, is the answer. Let it guide you along.
Let your heart be the anchor, and the beat of your own song.
Good luck.
Boston can be a very fun town but its a lot diferent than LA. Smaller city. Fatter chicks. Colder weather. Drivers are probably as bad or worse than LA. Lots of Irish. Wicked bad accent. But you are close to skiiing, Cape Cod, Newport RI and about 4 hours from NYC. It has a pretty young crowd and a decent night life. And sports. I don’t know what you got going on in LA but Boston is definitely worth a look-see.
Also…If a Spooje has a car accident in the woods and no one is there to witness it, did it really happen? Something to think about 
I tried that for a while, but I couldn’t get good dental.
Incidentally, the fact that your girlfriend left you for a guy she met whle playing a game you got her for Christmas is just about the most tragically pathetic thing I’ve heard in weeks. If they were still doing that old Queen for a Day game show, you’d have a definite shot at a new refridgerator. Anyway, I’d tell you things can only get better, but we both know that’d be a bald-faced lie. Best of luck to you.
spooje, I say go for Boston. It’s not like LA won’t still be there if things don’t work out.
Actually, drunkenness, madness, and buggery sound like a fun weekend to me!
Spooje and Dark Prince, you got my empathy. I’ve been in both the drugged-up-roommate and the ain’t-got-no-money situations, and I promise it will get better.
I don’t get it - why should spooje care about the plumpness of the fowls thereabouts?
spooje, how about an update? Please tell me you haven’t been back because you sacrificed your internet connection to get away from your roommate.
I know how you feel. Your support is here, you’re comfortable here. I don’t think I would advise someone in your situation to just pack up and run, you know? It’s a tough situation, and I’m sorry you have so much bullshit on your plate right now.
No advice, just concern and happy thoughts!
OK, here’s the update.
The roomie is not clean yet. But he’s trying. He’s calling people and going to meetings. So I will give it some time. It’s a decent living situation when he’s clean, and it’s pretty cheap, so I don’t want to leave. I also don’t want to leave the guy hanging, as he is my friend. I’ll only bolt if I find it intolerable. However, if he’s still getting loaded in a couple of weeks, it may well BE intolerable.
The other guy’s insurance company will be inspecting my car next Friday when I take it into the body shop. They sent me letter (a form letter, basically) saying if the body shop charges more per hour than the going rate in the area, I would be responsible for the difference, as they only pay the going rate for labor. They also said that his policy may not allow for a rental car.
Still no clue as to whether the guy is gonna fess up or lie and say it was my fault.
I’m seeing my true love next week. We’re spending a few days camping at lake in central California, then coming back here and spend a few days. I’ll be glad to have a week or so off work. We will have a talk about where we want this relationship to go. I.E., does she want me to come to Boston and be together for life, or what.
I hope all this stuff works out OK.
Oh, and thank you for the happy thoughts.
I really appreciate it.
Update to my hellishness:
Told love of life I wanted her to be mine for the rest of my life. She told me she was afraid of commitment. More on that in a moment. It wasn’t what I wanted to hear. I’m going to Boston next month. She bought my ticket.
I dropped off my truck to be fixed. No word yet if the lunkhead who hit it will do the right thing or not. So I’m driving my POS Volvo for a couple of weeks. Disgusting.
There have been lay-offs at my job. I wasn’t one of them. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not.
My roommate seems to be staying clean and going to meetings. That’s good. He also has a friend who brings him fish that he’s caught. Roomie likes to cook said fish. Said fish stinks like the damned and lingers forever. That’s bad. The only living thing in our apartment building(besides the roomie) that thinks it smells good is the psycho-dog next door.
I’ve heard people say that they are afraid of commitment. I’d just like to say that they are mistaken. No one is afraid of commitment. What they fear is being stuck with a bad choice. They fear that their options are not all that good.
I believe she loves me. I believe that she would like me to be in Boston, and has said as much. But, it has taken her 2 years to get there. It would probably take me a year to be able to make the move, if I decided on it today. (ya know, find the job, have enough money to set up house, clear up my obligations here…)
I’m trying to stay positive…
The bad driver that hit my car fessed up and said it was his fault. But the insurance company tried to low-ball me by sending me a check that would not cover the repairs to my beautiful truck.
I sent the check to my insurance company and will have the work done through them. They said they will go after his company, using my check as leverage.
I hope I don’t have to pay the deductable…
Best wishes to you, spooje.