The Libido that ate Denver

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Scene: A well filled basement. Sunday afternoon sun filters in from the window well.

A woman, while searching through a box of halloween decorations notices an adjacent box labeled ‘wedding misc. 5/7/1996’. Curious, she opens it up to find ads and pamphlets for her honeymoon in Jamaica. a Drink recipe book, some paper umbrellas and, folded neatly underneath, her libido.

She holds it up to the light, pulls it to her to find that, after 10 years, it still fits, still looks fashionable, and drapes excitingly off her shoulder.

Her husband never knew what hit him.

Narrator: I’ve been happily married, for better and worse, richer and poorer, less and more children. Our 10th anniversary is approaching and we’ve just closed a chapter on a VERY difficult time in our lives. Sick kids, Sick grandparents, Sick parents, financial issues, the works.

Our sex life started out normal enough, then to listen to folks, faded after the marriage normally enough. She’d gone through the usual toolbox of birth suppression (Norplant, pill, etc.) and we both suspect it played hell with her hormones. After going off the meds, she had twins. They’re three now, and it seems like raising them is taking less effort now.

Then she turned all succubus on me. We went from having sex on average almost once a month to 5 or 6 times a week.

We’ve got our theories, that the hormonal changes from the birth control and pregnancy have finally sorted themselves out, that the kids are getting to be less maintenance, and a really stressful time of our life is past, and she’s re-discovered herself after spending years being a dutiful wife and mother with no time for her own interests (this is changing), and I’m certainly a willing partner, but I never thought we’d reach a time where her desires extended beyond my abilities to fulfill them. It’s been a challenge, I LIKE this challenge.

So, on this forum I’ve heard LOTS of folks with varying degrees of sexual function and disfunction, but I don’t recall anybody mentioning a long-term marriage libido change for the better.

Am I the only guy this has happened to?

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I thought it was common for a woman’s libido to pick up with age. Throw in maybe some spare energy from not hustling over babies… sounds like a good aphrodisiac recipe. Maybe throw in a little more help around the house and with the twins if you like what you’re getting.

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Oh, believe me, there’s no ‘single parenting’ with both kids in the house.

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Well at least you have “man-on-man” coverage, it becomes more complex if you have to go a zone or cover two.

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I don’t know if this is a fact or a myth, but I’ve commonly heard that women reach their sexual peak around the ages of 30-35 - is that about your wife’s age?

I had friends back home who, as they got closer to 30 or settled into their early 30s, suddenly “perked up” sexually, unable to get enough of it. However, this is only from people who confided in me, or had vague, second hand information.

I’ll be 28 this year. I’ve always had a high libido. If there is such a beast as a “sexual peak”, my early thirties are going to be pretty booked up.

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Mine was pretty high in college, and always really seemed higher than my wife’s…but it kinda fell off with the aforementioned ‘usual post-marital’ phase. I’m recovering nicely, tho.

**Twins:**zone defense works best, they know how to pick-n-roll. It really DOES take a team, but occasionaly one or the other is in the pnealty box…that takes fortitude, they can smell fear, ya know.

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Hmm. Men are supposed to peak around 18 years old. Maybe there is a ring of truth to it?

Of course, I feel everyone has their own individual “peaking” time, or some perhaps not at all.

Ah well, I’m just thinking out loud, now. Enjoy your wife! Meet the challenge! :smiley:

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It’s for damn sure you’re the only guy with 3-year old twins it’s happened to!

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Speaking from personal experience as well as research, I can tell you that women tend to get libidinous around the time of ovulation. So if you’re taking something that suppresses ovulation, and then stop, the difference could be marked.

FWIW, I’m 32.5, my only child is 2.5 and sleeps 12 hours a night now, and I’m no longer taking the birth control pill. Previously my libido was no match for my sweetie’s. But now I’m telling you, at times I think to myself, “If guys feel like this all the time, I don’t know how they get anything accomplished!”

Regardless, enjoy!

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Well the kids are actually getting LESS sleep than they used to…they’d go to bed at 8:00 and we’d get a good 90 minutes to ourselves…now they may go to their room at 8, but I frequently hear them lumping around at 9pm. Good thing they still can’t open the squishy doorknobs on our bedroom door.

On the down side, it also seems like her monthly visitor is quite a bit more severe too.