What is the average lifespan of a housecat? I almost don’t want to know. I apologize for rambling in this, but I have to say it.
We have 4 cats, 'Stache being the oldest. We got her in 1995 and she at leat 6 months old then, so she has got to around 15 by now. And it shows. She sleeps most of the time. She wants little to do with the other cats, even Banshee who is only about a year or so younger. She’s visibly lost some weight.
When we moved back to the US last year, the vet told us that 'Stache was in good health but her age meant she might need more care in the future. My wife doesn’t want to accept it. For the last few months I’ve told her 'Stache needs to see a vet just for general purposes. She has lied to me about it. Yes, lied. I had to go away for a week in October and she told me 'Stache had a vet appointment during the time I was gone. When I got back and asked and how it went she made some off hand excuse about having to cancel it. I know my wife. She never made the appointment and only told me she did to get me to ease off.
I know she’s scared that the vet might have bad news. But other than old age, 'Stache is healthy as far as we can tell. She may need some extra care, or maybe some medicine to make her comfortable in her final years. I told myself that if the wife doesn’t take her to a vet by new years I will. Looks like I’ll be taking her. My wife doesn’t take loss easily, or at least not as easily as I do. I’ve lost a lot of pets and she hasn’t. I’ve lost my entire immediate family and she hasn’t. So I tend to not take the hit as hard. But she’s got to realize that 'Stache is not the kitten she was in '95. Heck, Banshee is only a year or so younger and she’s been in the animal hospital twice in the last ten years. (Banshee has documented health problems, but she’s ok). Jet Jaguar and Patches are realitively young.
The thing is, even if the vet says 'Stache is perfectly healthy she can’t have more than maybe, what 3 years left? And if they’re going to be painful years (I.E, she becomes sick) I’d rather put her down than have her suffer. While my wife is “closer” to the cats than I am (except for Banshee…Banshee believes I’m her mother) 'Stache means a lot to me too. She was the first cat I’ve ever had. We’ve been to Europe 3 times together in the last fifteen years. She’s cuddled with me when I was sad, made me laugh when I was angry and shown me kindness in a cat way when I thought I didn’t have a friend. I just don’t want her last years to be miserable.