Multiple posts, how embarrasing.
Ralf_Coder
“Does your daughter know any of these women? If not, can you introduce her to some of them? Maybe a few words with one can make an impression on your daughter. I know, it may be difficult, because they may not be allowed to visit you without a male chaperone who wouldn’t allow them to talk openly to your daughter.”
That is a good idea but as you mention, gaining access to them is a problem. I’d be iffy about the male chaperon as well. I believe it is probably the best short-term thing I can do for her though.
“Another tough question - you could be considered anything from a bigot to a concerned parent. I think you’re justified in taking actions to keep her from what could be an unhappy life.”
Well, in the worst case I get considered an Archie Bunker type. If that’s what happens, I guess I can live with it considering the alternatives.
Your friend that married the Kuwaiti was mostly right. She would have been able to leave after having a boy but the child would have been kept there. Believe it or not, the Saudis consider Kuwaitis as somewhat lax in their religious duties.
Thanks for weighing in on this.
Kid_Gilligan.
You’re right, the value I place on my sense of racial tolerance is WAY down the scale from the value I place on my daughter’s welfare. Thanks Guy.
Danalan.
Yeah, you’re right. Probably time to move on down the road. If there’s time though I think I’ll wait a bit for the job market in the US to improve before I do it though. Damned family economics keep interfering with what I’d really LIKE to do. S
Thank you for pointing this out. This is what I really NEED to do, just a bit difficult at the moment.
reprise.
You ask how much Arab culture she has picked up over the years. Life in Saudi is odd in that most Westerners live on compounds. (Think of a luxury jail designed to keep people out.) She watches some Western TV, reads American books, attends American school etc. but it is still surprising how much Arab culture she has acquired. On our last visit to the US she kept wondering where the police checkpoints were. She does have a lot of experience with Thai culture from her mom. Maybe I could use your brother’s idea as a stop-gap measure. Europe is easy to get to from here and would make a great antidote for what she’s learned.
It’s an idea and as she’ll be out of school in a month or so I think we’ll give it a try.
Thanks reprise, it’s a good idea and I’ll do it.
Hey Manda OJ.
Finally, direct action! Yeah, if it comes right down to it I would indeed hog-tie her and ship her or take her out of the country. My daughter will NOT become someone’s part-time hobby. (Not to use a much cruder term)
I’m going to pitch the “wait till you’re older to get married” idea as strongly as I can without making her contrary/obstinate. Unfortunately, she knows quite well that I was married the first time when I was 20. Oh well, my sins and screwups coming back to haunt me. S
She’s lived her entire life here. We take holidays in the summer but this is what she thinks of as normal. Her male friends are western but her female friends are from just about everywhere, including local. A strange thing there, her local female friends are unable to spend the night with our family as it is considered likely that I would molest them. That’s nothing personal, their parents don’t even know me. It’s just assumed that any male will have sex with any unaccompanied female over the age of puberty.
I think I’ll check into the Swiss boarding schools for the next semester though. OUCH! S
Thanks Manda OJ, it was kind of you to take the time to respond.
Best regards.
Testy.