Today, I recieve a tearful phonecall from a friend from work. We will call her “Lisa.” On Thursday night, at work, her supervisor, we will call her “Marge,” took her into the bathroom and started wiping her makeup off! This is the capper to a statement made previously in the week by Marge, and I quote: “Oh, you have a twin? Is she as fat as you are?” :eek: :eek:
Now Lisa is overweight, and she does wear a lot of makeup (because she doesn’t feel good about herself). But that doesn’t give you the right, bitch! I have been hoping, however, that my friend would be avenged after talking to Marge’s supervisor. And today, the supervisor ruled. He apparently doesn’t see what the big deal is, and thinks Lisa is making a big deal out of nothing! :rolleyes: Lisa was so taken back, she quit right there, and he just smiled, and showed her the door.
YOU MOTHERFUCKING GOATFELCHERS! NOT ONLY HAVE YOU LOST A GOOD, HARDWORKING EMPLOYEE WHO LOVED HER JOB AND GOT ALONG WITH EVERYONE AROUND HER, YOU HAVE LEFT YOURSELVES INCREDIBLY VULNERABLE TO A LAWSUIT!
God, I just feel sick… “Lisa” is the sweetest hearted person in the world. And while some tease that she is reminiscent of Mimi from Drew Carey, she has a heart of gold…
Not only is that inappropriate, it’s arguably assault. If someone starts touching me without my permission, you had best believe there will be some trouble. :mad:
It sounds like they were trying to get rid of your friend, and so tried to “drive her out”. It’s chickenshit
What kind of sick freaking pinheaded moronic bitch says a thing like that?
I’m really sorry for your friend… I guess I don’t know the whole story here but it sounds like she works for profoundly insensitive dicknoses and I hope she can feel all right about herself and find a better job.
I’d sue, in a heartbeat. I am also one of those that things people iin this country are too quick to run to a lawyer everytime their neighbor crosses their eyes. But that was at the very least grounds for emotional distress or as someone else said MAYBE assault.
She should do it, it could be a boost of confidence for her.
~J
As a side note, maybe you could take her for a girl’s day, and try to get her to change the style of the makeup she wears. Get yours done too, maybe at the Foley’s counter, or whatever department store or spa you have there. Show her what she can look like with makeup properly applied.
I am going to agree with those who have suggested that she sue. I hate the idea of people using the legal system for every little thing, but this is severe harrassment in the workplace. Now your friend is out of work, and I would have quit too if I were her.
She is lucky to have a supportive friend like you who is so outraged at what happened by her side.
I was considering taking her somewhere to get a makeover, actually, but I wasn’t sure of how to bring it up. I think I will wait a little, to let feelings heal, before trying to broach the subject.
Unfortunately, I think the bastards are going to get away with it. She doesn’t want to stir up trouble (which I can understand), but even now, I’m livid about it…
It’s too bad Lisa didn’t take her pound of flesh by kicking and clawing the bejesus out of Marge when she was getting dragged to the bathroom.
I hope LIsa sues and winds up owning the company. It’s about time the underdogs started coming up on top for a change! Good luck to your friend, liirogue.
From what little I know of law, ISTR that “assault” is the threat of force / harm, and “batter” is the actual causing of harm. So it seems to me that Lisa has a possible case for assault and battery. Two charges (or torts) for the price of one! I fully concur, Lisa needs to follow up on this and take Marge to the cleaners. Oh, and Marge could also be liable for making harrassing comments.
I really like Jaade’s idea; take Lisa for a makeover to cheer her up.
As a follow on, I suggest you get Lisa into a martial arts class (best accomplished if you join her in taking the class), to (1) help her get in shape, so that (2) next time this happens, Lisa can kick that annoying person’s unfucked, ramrod-filled ass into the next zip code.
(I do not advocate violence as a primary method for resolving problems. However, if someone starts putting their hands on my face without permission, that calls for self-defense techniques pronto!)
I would argue that Lisa not only has a case for assault and battery, but harrassment (hostile work environment) and discrimination as well. Too bad she probably won’t pursue it.
I would suggest some esteem-building activities for your friend. Take her shopping, do a spa day together, and for crying out loud, help this girl find a job where they won’t treat her like crap.
liirogue, print out the replies to the thread advocating that she take legal action - perhaps if she sees that there are others on her side who don’t even know her, she’ll feel more confident.
I swear, this steams me. Your poor friend deserves something for this, and “Marge” deserves to go work somewhere that’ll humiliate her with the same kind of stunt - maybe then she’ll know how it feels.
#1 Police Charges. Assault and Battery. #2 HR Complaint against Manager. #3 Civil Lawsuit naming Manager and Company.
No matter the outcome, her career isn’t going to go far there. Bring a Problem to the attention of management and YOUbecome “the Problem”.
So go for maximum $$$ as compensation, then look for a new job.
Good Luck to her. It will be hard, but if she stands up through this, she’ll have earned some self-esteem. If she backs down and keeps quiet, in the long run it will hurt her even more.
WTF?
Doesn’t want to cause trouble?
She already quit right? It’s not like she is going to make a big fuss and then have to sit there in the same space as those idiots anymore.
I am the type who doesn’t like to make waves either, but it’s usually with people that I know I will still have to be around.
She has nothing to lose persuing this and everything to gain.
And the everything to gain isn’t even monetary stuff either.
I second what most have already said. Even though today people sue over everything, this is a just cause.
Spiff, I know she said that she had self-esteem issues, but just once I would like to see of us door mats stick up for ourselves.
It takes a starting point, and I know this is a big jump for a start, but her employer really shouldn’t get away with this.
And you’re right, it sucks.
It sucks to feel that you are beneith your peers. It sucks to feel you can never do anything right, that the words comming out of your mouth are meaningless, that you don’t wear the right clothes.
But I really hope she takes this forward and finds someone to support her and help her keep her self-esteem on the up rise.
Don’t tell her you are taking her because you think she wears too much makeup, tell her that you know she’s been through a rough time, and you want to do something fun with her.
It’s an instant confidence booster…and honestly, if she looks the way you described her, it will help her find another job. Employers shy away from hiring people with garish makeup, hair, fingernails, jewelry or clothes…
