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*Originally Posted by Pam Beesly
Jim, I called off my wedding because of you. And now we’re not even friends. And things are just like weird between us, and that sucks. And I miss you. You were my best friend before you went to Stamford. And I really miss you. I shouldn’t have been with Roy, and *there were a lot of reasons to call off my wedding. But the truth is, I didn’t care about any of those reasons until I met you. ** And now you’re with someone else, and that’s fine. It’s … whatever. That’s not what I’m … I’m not … okay my feet really hurt. The thing that I’m just trying to say to you, Jim, and to everyone else in the circle I guess, is that I miss having fun with you. Just you, not everyone in the circle. Okay, I am gonna go walk in the water now. Yeah, it’s a good day.
OK, I missed the part about her calling off the wedding because of him. But she still doesn’t confess to having “feelings” for him. It still seems to me that she liked the person Jim made her (more fun loving, relaxed, her own woman so to speak, sought her opinion and participation on stuff, where Roy took her for granted and kind of did what he wanted anyway) but not necessarily on a romantic level, though.
She misses the goofing around and fun times because she senses an awkwarness there that (to this point) really doesn’t belong there. I think she was addressing the awkwardness.
I’m not saying that I think there aren’t torches being carried, it’s just that in this speech, it’s more about the friendship aspect of it than any romantic aspect. She can still be a girl friend without having to be the girlfriend.
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Yeah, but even the phrases that you bolded like “and now you’re with someone else” make it sure sound like “we were sort of together even though we weren’t really together and now I’m not the main object of your affections anymore,” which if I were in Jim’s position, would elicit an internal response of "with someone else? Since when was I ever really with you? You were engaged forever to a jerk and when I confessed my attraction for you, you rejected me…we were never “together” in the same way that Karen and I are “together.” So it’s like Pam assuming that because Jim liked her and she liked him (but rejected him for whatever reasons) that they were “together” at some point. She probably feels like he broke up with her, that he’s an ex, when in fact, he is a never was. If I were in Jim’s situation I would have taken her aside and asked her “What the hell are you trying to do, ruin my life? Get over it, move on - I did.”