This kind of thing has happened to me so many times it’s not even funny. It’s even happened to me IRL. I asked a woman out, she said yes, then when I went to give her my phone number and stuff the next time I saw her she didn’t say much. We ride the same commuter train a lot and she’s since changed cars.
Hell I dated someone for a couple of months only to have her stop all forms of communication, even blocked me from Facebook. She did still want to play Words With Friends though. She never even told me she didn’t want to see me again.
Unless I hear from them saying they’re not going to be around for a bit then then after a few days I might send something else, but usually not.
Hey guys - long time no see! So something kind of unusual (for me) happened on Okcupid last night. I was messing around answering a lot of questions on my profile, when I answered one about dinosaurs that the site apparently posted in some public feed. I got a TON of messages about my answer. Is this something new they’ve implemented, or are people just really passionate about dinos? One guy said it showed up on his activity feed, but I don’t see any such “feed” on the site.
We all get those. For a while I had a line in my profile that said “Don’t wink, send an email”, then I got emails that said “wink” or “I’m following your instructions and sending you an email, hi”
Anyways, here’s the latest message I got that I had to share, copied verbatim.
The feed is your main page. You can’t be browsing anonymously to have it though (I think). Every time you edit your profile or answer a question it displays it on other people’s pages (seemingly at random). The same thing should be showing up on your front page as well.
It should be showing just to the left of your “Recent Visitors” list.
I’d leave it be and try not to overanalyse, hard though it may be. I suspect SicksAte might have it right, and the guy had another woman going, and has decided to concentrate on her
I left PoF and moved to OKC when I joined this thread, as PoF just got me lots of “hi how r u”'s and OKC seemed to give me guys with a lot more wit in their opening messages!
As for me, I’ve got coffee with ginger-beardy-doesn’t-want-kids this afternoon, and then I’ve got my BFF staying for the weekend and we’re hitting the clubs. So I get a text at 5am from Mr-My-Ex is back saying he “might see me as he’ll be out too” this weekend.
What Joey P said: it’s part of the main page. Though for me, it shows up kind of in the middle of the page. I usually just ignore it, but the other day I actually saw something from hermette.
Yeah, my You Should Message Me If section includes, “You will write more than just ‘hi’,” and I’ve gotten a few smart-ass messages, too. Some people just can’t resist.
A smart-ass “hi/‘wink’” followed by a real message is one thing, but if all they do is write the word “wink” or “I’m saying more then just hi”, well, then, you don’t know if they’re being a smart ass or they didn’t actually read your profile or that’s really just the best they can do. Speaking of not reading your entire profile, another thing that bugs me is when I get a pop up saying that someone looked at my profile and then get an email 2 minutes later. My profile is long, I’ve answered over a thousand questions, more then half have explanations. I don’t expect you to read everything, but I do expect you to spend more then 2 minutes reading it. Hell, even if you spent a half hour reading it, I’d expect you to spend more then 2 minutes writing the email.
As for the feed, I like it. It lets you see little glimpses of peoples profiles, recent answers, new pictures, without viewing the same person over and over. The problem (for me) is that I get a lot of people out of my area. I’m in Milwaukee and 90% of the people in my feed are from Chicago. Also, I try to use it to my advantage. When I’m online, I’ll make changes to my profile so it pops up on other people’s feeds.
Yeah I will probably post my profile soon. It is terrible right now, many of the sections are blank or one sentence. Maybe that is why I have not been getting many bites
Is there a way to post my profile link here without it getting indexed by Google? Or do I need to just PM people who ask? I would hate for a potential suitor to Google my profile and find my posts here
Just post the screen name, but perhaps break it up somehow (“her followed by mette” for example). I posted my screen name and only later realized that I basically linked my OKCupid profile to my SDMB profile for anyone who cares to google my OKC user name. Of course even if someone really did want to troll through my thousands of posts here, I don’t think I’ve said anything I’m embarrassed by and they’d probably learn a lot about me.
Yeah, my posting here is as much a reflection of who I am as my profile is. I suppose I do put my best foot forward on OKC, but if some woman was really going to message me, I hope there’s nothing posted here that would change her mind. All the profile does is get you to a first date, anyway. After that, you either fly or crash-and-burn based on who you really are.
Besides which, I’m not sure I’d want to go out with someone who did that sort of virtual stalking in advance.
Robot Arm, you will see from my profile that I am in desperate need of some help. My profile is pretty much empty. I am so bad at talking about myself. I need you guys to help me make a profile!
My OKC screenname is the same as my username here, except without the space and all lower case.
Let the teasing begin!
p.s. I don’t think I would want a new beau reading my SDMB posts, not quite yet Too much personal stuff about past relationships and girly stuff.
Howdy!
