The reason suit photos probably don’t rate high on OKC is because of the type of person uses OKC vice Match.
OKC users, IME, tend toward the more progressive, eclectic, tattooed, artistic; not that there aren’t exceptions. That type of users is less likely to rate a photo in a suit highly.
So, if you are the type of person who wants to attracts a woman who likes to see her guy in a suit now and then, absolutely leave the picture up. Do you wear suits every day? Or even on a regular basis? Then that’s you, leave the picture up.
If wearing a suit is a fundamental part of his identity, then…okay, I guess, but I wear a suit every day and I wouldn’t dare post a picture of me wearing one. It just looks like you’re trying too hard, sort of like photographing yourself in your car.
I’ve also been indecisive about the suit pictures for just that reason, but on the other hand, they do represent certain recent points of my life pretty well, so I’ve put them back up (with explanations) for another trial run. I’ll be adding a couple more casual pictures to balance them out in the next day or so. Sadly, my rate of response seems to be relatively low so far according to the stats for Hispanic males, but with continuing tweaks to my messaging style and profile, I’m hopeful for improvement.
The second pic is really good and I’d definitely leave that up. The third one is just a normal pic except you’re wearing a suit, so I’d replace it with another casual pic. Personally I think a man can look really good in a suit, but I’m really casual and if 2/3 of someone’s pics were dressy I’d probably assume we wouldn’t be a good match. Of course, if you’re mainly just looking for women who do like to dress up a lot, then you might want to leave it.
If you temporarily make it available to nonmembers I’ll look at it.
Okay, I’m definitely no expert, so probably ignore me but your profile looks good to me and there are just a few minor things I might suggest about it.
-The picture of you next to the plane could use a caption maybe? And your photos are nice but you could use at least one more I think.
-I don’t care about height but I keep hearing how important it is to a lot of women and you mention being tall, so why leave that blank in your stats?
-I would guess that most women who are looking for long-term relationships might be a little turned off to read that someone is also looking for casual sex partners, and you probably won’t get many offers for that anyway, so IF the main thing you want is real dates, I’d leave that off.
-You’re “getting” financially independent? That leaves one to wonder what/who you’re dependent on now.
-Overall you might want to make your profile a little longer? I haven’t looked at many OKC profiles so disregard if I’m wrong, but are there quite a few things you’ve left blank? I think I’d want a little more info.
OKC has a feature called My Best Face, where you submit your pictures and others rate them a la Who’s Hotter? In return for rating 30 pairs of pictures, you get a report in a couple of days on how your pictures rated with others, and what kind of people preferred them.
Why is your height omitted? That’s one of the first things I look for. But you did mention you were tall, which redeems things a bit. I like that it was to the point, and didn’t get into the pretentious, boring ramblings that many OKC users get into, but still gave the impression that you’re smart and good humored. Liked the working in of the guitar (means you’re talented and creative), sports (means you’re fit), travel (says to me you’re adventurous), trivia (which suggests you’re pretty smart), but without harping on any of these things. Then for the shallow portion, my review of the pics is pretty cute.
I’m sure some people will tell you to beef up your profile more, but these people are wrong. If you can get your point across in few words, you’re gold. I’m sure you’re already aware that women receive gobs and gobs of e-mails everyday, so we don’t want to read everyone’s entire autobiography when we’re checking out the profile of people who messaged us.
You’re good to go, kiddo.
Edit: Oh wait, right. You might wanna get rid of that casual sex bit. I know you’d be down for that if a cute girl suggested it, but having it in your profile is going to turn a lot of chicks off. Scratch that. Also, an extra photo and some witty captions couldn’t hurt anything. So make these minor adjustments, and then you’re good to go.
So this week I had another first in online dating. I was e-mailing back and forth with a potential date. When I recommended a face to face meeting, she asked if I would reimburse her gas money if she showed up and we didn’t click.
Has anyone had that happen before or did I discover a new corner of the internet?
You guys haven’t torn my profile apart in a while. It’s Joey—31415 (without the dashes).
I update it regularly…as in I tweak a few bits here and there whenever I’m online so from time to time it gets disjointed and things that are there now (new car/stuff about investing) probably won’t be there in a few days.
On the one hand, I do it so that it pops up on other people’s home pages, OTOH, people that are sick of seeing it have probably hidden me. I know I’ve done that to a few people who update their profile constantly.
Also, I’ve knocked down the amount of questions I’ve answered. I liked having 1000+ questions, I think they (with explanations) say more about a person then the actual profile, but there’s times when I see someone’s profile, see 3-400+ questions and even I think that’s overwhelming. So, I started getting rid of questions that, while I think they might be important, I’ve never seen anyone else answer, or questions that are just fluff and I was just answering so people would click on my profile. Also, by unanswering them, I can reanswer them at a later date.
Oh, and that one picture, I had it as my main picture for a few days…but it was even scaring me. My current picture, I had one person (a relative) say it doesn’t look like me, I’m not sure what to say, I think it looks like me. I think she’s just so used to seeing me without a full beard (and a sweatshirt). Whaddaya gonna do.
I was taking a nap this afternoon and suddenly I woke up and thought: My profile is terrible! So in a flash of inspiration or madness I wrote up an almost completely new one. Feel free to judge it, all criticism is welcomed and appreciated.
Yeah, dude, what the hell? I read the first sentence and thought “Is this dude even for real?” I liked the old one better, and the other non-glamour shot photos too. One might be okay, but two and then a picture of a cake? Nope.
but your profile looks good to me and there are just a few minor things I might suggest about it.
