Jeez, you two, get a room.
You’re just jealous that someone isn’t completely, arrogantly, and repeatedly missing your point. 
Jesus, Misnomer, nobody missed your fucking point. God…
I know, but this one’s eating my popcorn.
Ulp! I’m not entirely certain I’m ready to date again. My last first date was during the first Clinton administration. But a guy popped up on OKcupid who lives in my town and likes a lot of the same things I like. His profile was properly punctuated, and one of his profile pictures showed him with Robert Osbourne (a host on Turner Classic Movies). We’ve been emailing for a few weeks.
So I’m meeting him after work today at a coffee shop. Is this a date? Is it a pre-date audition? I’m a mess. All of my relationships have been with men that I knew socially for months and months before anything turned romantic.
It’s in daylight and I’m wearing my work clothes so I’m leaning towards “not a date date”. I don’t know why it matters. Wish me luck.
Ooh, act fast; a prime specimen like that will get snatched up in a heartbeat.
But in all seriousness, good luck.
Did that sound arrogant? I really didn’t mean it too.
I don’t know if this happens to everybody, but since posting a profile on OK Cupid I seem to get a lot of one sentence messages from men prohibitively far away. (I list that I’m looking for local casual dates.) Many of them are in “text speak” “How r u?”
I’m not sure if what I was just on counts as a date or not. It wasn’t unpleasant but I think it might have been too soon. It is NOT like riding a bicycle (which I can’t really do). I felt like a giant phoney. I wore an underwire bra for the first time in years. Maybe my elevated boobs will keep him from noticing my double chin. I’m not sure what I’m hoping to achieve by dating. Do I really want to get out there and DO stuff, or am I actually looking for someone to sit home and watch movies with? Blessings on the folks who find online dating easier than I do, or than dating used to be. I’m intimidated.
No, not in the slightest. I was just trying to make a joke on the levels of expectation, or desperation, that are shown in online profiles.[sup]*[/sup]
If you are looking for a sit-home-and-watch movies guy, he’s not going to come in to your house and plop down on the couch uninvited. You still have to go out and find him. One of many ways in which the world is not fair.
- Truth be told, I’m a little disenchanted with online dating at the moment. I kinda feel like I should be more bitter than I am, though.
That’s not phony. The giant roll of silver dollars taped to my pants, that’s phony.
What’s the game on this one?
Okay, a few days ago, a new person popped up in my search. Actually, she popped up with (I think) three profiles. No big deal, that happens from time to time. Usually, IME, two of them disappear and one of them gets used. I looked at all of them and they all had the same (cut and paste) summary, same picture (just one), but the details differed ever so slightly. Just enough to make me raise an eyebrow. The height varied by an inch or so. One of them had the age off by a year. The education was different in all of them. So I figured it was fake. I GIS’d the picture and it came back to a facebook page right in my area. The facebook info more or less matched her summary. She had friends, they all talked about stuff that matched things in her summary (like where she moved from/to). So it seemed legit. That is, that FB page doesn’t appear to be part of a fake match page.
Anyways, she set up 7 match profiles, then they all disappeared (presumable by Match), she’s since set up two more. I have no idea if she’s sending out spam and her summary isn’t spammy, so I don’t know if it’s fake or if she’s that clueless, but something’s going on. If it’s not fake…who has 9 email addresses? Let me rephrase that, who can juggle 9 email address but can’t manage to set up a dating profile?
I almost have to wonder if the spammers are trying something new and getting people to sell their likeness that way they can set up a profile in an area, ask for cell phone numbers and then when people like me do a GIS search they find the FB page and assume everything is on the level.
I have to wonder how often the old way was working. The broken English was always a dead giveaway and lifting profiles sometimes made it pretty obvious, especially when “you’re” 30 and you steal the profile from someone that was pretty clearly in their 60’s. “My husband died of cancer when he was 45 and I spend the last 20 years traveling, working on my garden and getting back into painting, but I’m ready to share my life with someone now”.
Maybe it’s a psychology experiment.
are you going to ask her, Joey? let us know what happens.
Does Match offer a free trial period? It could be she’s just signing up with a new account every time it expires.
No.
Most of the accounts showed up within hours of each other. Most of the time when I see two or three accounts pop up at the same time, I just assume someone was setting up an account but for one reason or another abandoned it and started over. But seven? or nine or eleven or whatever it was, something didn’t seem right with that.
I did however send out three emails last night. We’ll see if anything becomes of those.
Extremely belated good luck! How did it go?
Well, I’m just here to report it’s one year since I took the initiative and contacted a guy on OKCupid even though he lived quite a distance away. We’re still together, he’s even joined here, and I’m seeing him tonight, so umm, happy virtual anniversary RealOmegaMan
(I’ll try and not stealth-brag for the first-meeting anniversary, first-agreed-we-were-dating-exclusively-anniversary, etc!)
congratulations, Cinnamon Imp!! I love to hear this kind of happy ending. 
Thanks! We’ve talked about the whole marriage&kids thing, and it’s certainly not been ruled out, so we’re not quite at the traditional happy ending yet 
Awesome! Congrats, Cinnamon Imp and RealOmegaMan! 
Well done but remember traditional is what our grandparents did!
I very much apologize if these questions have been answered before but I’ve never opened this thread before today and I would get a headache trying to read through 64 pages of posts for my answer.
I didn’t seek her out, but she messaged me on OkCupid even though I hadn’t checked or updated my profile for a year. Our replies to each other kept getting longer and longer until she said, “We seem to be writing novellas to each other at this point. Wanna meet for a beer?” It’s been a little over a week since we started talking. Other then one occurrence of the word “vagina” when referencing someone else’s bad tattoo, there hasn’t been any discussion of a sexual nature yet.
So we’re meeting tomorrow. Is there anything I should know about meeting someone from a dating site? Is it okay for me to ask for her phone number so one or can call the other if we’re running late? Sorry, this all just kind of fell in my lap and it’s been happening fast.