Joey ya just gotta ask the question, a lot of people are looking for any reason to move on to the next email.
Hi, I’ve been lurking on this topic for awhile, and thought I would let you know that I checked out your profile, anonymously at first because I was not registered on okc, and then again using my newly minted profile which I won’t name here right now (absolutely nothing like my username here). I am not in your desired age range (too elderly) and I haven’t even completed my profile at all but did answer a few questions.
I think your profile looks good and interesting. I like that you included such things as a photo of you in a Halloween costume!
Your profile must be totally public because I was able to see it directly without even registering. The photo of the ship (in the journal section) is really great, btw.
No. Leave it alone. “Good luck out there” translates to “I’m not interested.”
OK, I admit it. I’m drawn towards the ‘romantic wanderers’, the busybodies, the people who create and sing and travel that I can’t help but want to meet up.
I guess that I have no one but myself to blame when trying to find time to meet, and they think they can pencil me in the third tuesday in October, between horse riding and guitar lessons, because they’re just getting back from ice climbing in kathmandu, but that’s a pretty busy week with the basket weaving championships and they’re flying to Thailand for seven years after that.
But damnit, why are you on this website if you OBVIOUSLY DON’T HAVE TIME TO DATE?
Thank you.
Every now and then there’ll be someone in my visitors list from a few states (or more) away. I sometimes wonder how they happened upon my profile.
I get that a lot, but then I have more out of state people in my ‘feed’ then near by people. Now, what I want to know is why I get people from way farther away then that. I had Indonesia a few days ago, New Delhi a few days before that, The Philippines about two weeks ago, Germany two weeks before that one, North Carolina in June (I’m in Wisconsin), Canada etc… Then, there was this girl from Osaka, Japan that used to check my profile about once a month.
I have three thoughts on this.
1)Totally random, no reason for it, they’re just random people that set their range really really wide.
2)They’re friends with someone over here and that person said “Hey, check out this guy” and sent them my profile, but it seems to happen too often for that and doesn’t coincide with someone else looking at my profile
3)It’s someone here or on another message board just going though the old posts and finding my name that way.
I’m leaning towards random. Of course, I’ve never looked at their profiles, maybe they’re from around here and just traveling or (since they all ‘look’ native, so to speak) maybe they’re about to travel to Milwaukee and checking out the people in the area.
Ya know, one last thing. I did have one girl send me an email about something I posted on the OKC forums. I wonder how many of these people just see my handful (like 5) of posts in the OKC forums and just click on my name there. That’s probably it. The topic I started is an issue for people so a lot of people search for it, the thread gets read a lot and it does get reanimiated from time to time, plus I found the solution to it.
More boring dates.
Is there something wrong with me or what? Who do I have to shoot around here to find someone who is smart, interesting, and fun to be around? Maybe I need to get off the internet, because I’m having trouble escaping these carbon copy wannabe artists in plaid shirts who drone on and on about what special snowflakes they are and their boring-as-shit jobs. Newsflash: The only thing that bores me more than my job is yours.
And then I died of a WTF overdose yesterday when my OKC feed showed me a photo update of someone who appeared to be pretty cute. So I checked out his profile, which was brilliantly funny and fun to read, then moved on to his photos after he passed the “I’m Not Stupid” test, before realizing, hey I know this guy. And he doesn’t look anything like that in real life! I go back to his info page and he described himself as 5’10" and fit! Motherfucker, no you are not! This dude is my height (5’7" or 5’8" depending on who you ask) and pudgy. And don’t you even think about telling me “Oh, but MOL, pudgy people can be fit.” Ugh, just… Do not describe your body type as fit if you are fat, and don’t display all this camera magic that makes you look 30 lbs thinner and more attractive than you are.
Now I already knew that people on the interwebs aren’t always honest, but it just galls me when I’m staring into the pixel version of a face I know and thinking “These are lies!” Next time I see him I’m going to ask him why, precisely, does he enjoy deceiving people on the internet? Is it because he has no soul? Heh, okay, I need to simmer down. Fridays aren’t for angering up the blood. They’re for drinking and not feeling bad about slacking off at work. I’m not going to ask him that next time I see him… although I should.
Anyway, I think I’ve had my fill of terrible dates for now. I have a playdate with someone who I already know is cute and boring in person because I’ve known him for a year. Moving on…
Like George Costanza, if you’ve followed your instincts and they’ve always been wrong, it’s time to do the opposite. Go out with the boringest guy you can find on OKC.
I expect to hear from you shortly.
There was a girl, quite a while back, that I was thinking about emailing. After a few days, she popped up in my feed again and I thought about emailing her again, but then, something seemed famialir…hey, it’s her name, I’ve only seen that name in one other place, a FOAF on facebook. I was just at a wedding that this girl was at and I didn’t recognize her. Not only that, even going back and forth between her facebook page and her OKC page, you’d never know it was the same person. Somewhat because her OKC pictures were getting to be a bit older, but also because on OKC it was “Here’s a picture of me and my sister at the museum” and “Here’s a picture of me and my mom at a restaurant having a nice quiet dinner” but on OKC it was “LOOK AT ME DANCING ON THE TABLE!!!” and “LOOK AT ME SHITFACED!!!” and “LOOK AT ME SINGING WITH THREE OTHER PEOPLE” and “I’M BEING LOUD AGAIN LOOK AT ME!!!” The funny thing was, I had seen her on FB all the time (as the FOAF) and never realized she was the girl I was thinking about emailing on OKC.
I’ll keep saying it, someone’s going to like you, but you have to be yourself or you’ll just keep having crappy dates.
A friend of mine had a guy walk out on her because of that. She put athletic and toned (she’s not), doesn’t smoke (she does) and rarely drinks (she drinks plenty). The guy was a teetotaler and got up when she had her third beer with dinner. Don’t lie about who you are, there’s someone out there looking for you, and if he’s looking for a a girl with a few extra pounds that smokes and drinks, he’s going to miss your profile.
I’m pretty sure I already have gone out with the boringest dude imaginable on OKC. Didn’t work.
That was you? You looked so peaceful that I didn’t want to wake you, so I just paid the check, tipped the mariachi band, and left. At least you weren’t injured in the earthquake.
Right? I know some (by which I mean a lot) of guys like snuggly, cutesy girls, but I didn’t write some lame ass profile about what a positive person I am and how much sunrises remind me that I’m glad to be alive, accompanied by similarly schmaltzy photos of me smiling with my sorority sisters or whatever, because that’s not me. Guys who like girls like that aren’t going to be into me, and I’m probably not going to be into them. I sat down and wrote my profile in one shot and wrote whatever came to my head. As a result, it reads like me. I’m not selling anything; I’m not trying to make a product look as appealing to as many people as possible. I’m trying to find someone who I want to hang out with. Not sure how I’m going to do that if I present to the audience someone other than me.
This really isn’t hard, and yet…
And then, OTOH, when I got divorced I’d have friends that would come up to me and say “Joey, you should meet my friend, she loves this and that and blah blah blah [all things that I liked]” and I can’t tell you how often I had to say “I’m not looking for a girl version of me.” That’s great that she loves old classic black and white movies, I’ve seen them all, she probably has too, I don’t need someone to sit around and talk about them with and I don’t want to sit around and rewatch them with someone that’s already seen them.
What I want is someone who hasn’t seen them (but has some interest in them), so I can show her some old classic black and white movies (and sort of vicariously watch them for the first time again through her) and she can show me things that I’ve never done. Make sense? Not that I’m looking for my polar opposite mind you, just someone that compliments me.
Picky, picky!! 
AhhhhHAHAHA! I had to go dig up my login to tell you that I too think that is hilarious.
Perhaps you will appreciate my answer to, “Do you believe in dinosaurs?” “Yes, because they believe in me!”
Sure there is. Doesn’t that site have a chat function? Then you speak on the phone, and then you go on a date.
I hate it when people insist on that. Nervous about emailing, then nervous about chatting, then nervous about the phone call, then nervous about meeting. We can throw Skype in there too if you want. If we hit it off in the email let’s just meet in a few days and see what happens. But that’s just me. If you insist on all the middle steps and I like you, I’ll play along, but if I’m on the fence or think you’re just stringing me along and it’s not actually going to go anywhere you might end up with the 'let me know when you’re ready to meet" email.
I have to share this one. I saw a profile the other day, the pictures, while not my cup of tea, seemed perfectly normal, but the first line of the profile was “i am not a psycho” a few sentences later she said “i’m not damaged, i don’t come with baggage”
my first thought when I read the first line was “Um, no, gonna just block this one” but I kept reading it out of shear interest and thought “Who are you trying to convince”
In fact, that’s something I’ve come to learn from reading a lot of profiles, sometimes they’re totally honest, but in some of them, you can read them and think to yourself “are you trying to convince me or yourself” For example, almost every person that says (usually in the first line) that they are ‘educated’ usually doesn’t have a college degree. People with post college education usually don’t even mention it (unless they’re still working on it) other then the check box. Two people that I’ve either gone out with or exchanged emails with that very specifically mentioned that they weren’t clingy or were very independent, were, um, the opposite.
It get’s me thinking, if you’re (in this example) super clingy and you know most guys don’t like that, you might say (and even believe) that you’re not. If you’re not clingy you wouldn’t even have thought to mention something like that.
Yeah, I like to eliminate as many of the bullshit middle steps as possible. I just want to meet because that’s ultimately what’s going to tell. Of course there are some e-mails first in order to determine if there’s anything there at all, and usually we talk on the phone once, but sometimes we don’t. It’s still (obviously) not the same as being around the person face to face. I just do it to weed out people who are clearly incapable of having conversations (yes, I get that the phone is weird for some people, especially when talking to someone they don’t even know, but if they’re super weird or super quiet, then I raise an eyebrow) or folks who are going to yammer on about sports. Cubs suck, people; stop talking to me about sports.
And oh yeah, the people with the “I’m not crazy” or “I hate drama” disclosures are always complete freaking loons.
after an e-mail or two shows there might be something there, I just want to meet. I do NOT want to talk on the phone, especially at length, with someone I have not yet met.
phone call should only be to set up a meeting, IMO. so there.
Went looking at POF, found the following “headlines” (for people trying to sell themselves???)
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No drama zone (yawn)
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I have very little free time. (wtf then why are you trying to date??) (this wasn’t a headline, but I just really really hate when guys on dating sites say this)
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Something your not worth (huhh???)
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Looking for A Angel (uh yeah let me know when you find the n)
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Life’s to short. (your word is too short)
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If you we’re a fish which type would u b (the kind that could spell were)
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Life give’s you one shot…(to spell correctly and know when and when not to use apostrophes)…