It’s possible you (AT) sort of misread that. She might just mean that she’s sick of talking to people online that aren’t really interested in ever meeting IRL…or not that they’re not interested, but they’re never going to work up the nerve to make it to that point. Basically, if you’re not willing to meet her in meatspace just keep moving, don’t waste her time. As opposed to ‘ask me on a date in the first email’
There’s a question on OKC somewhere that says something to the effect of ‘how willing are you to meet someone you met on OKC in real life’ I’ve found that if they don’t put “Totally willing” the discussion tends to fizzle out after a while and I’ve learned to not even bother with the people that put ‘not willing’.
Tell her you have no intention of quitting coffee within the next few weeks, so let me know when you are free, Babe. And don’t forget the Babe or Hon or some such.
It is how you and him answer all their goofy questions such as Do you wash your underwear in the sink or in the washing machine with your other clothes.
I met a gal on OK Cupid and drove 100 miles to meet her in Boston. We went out a dozen times. She claimed to be a retired doctor from the Dominican Republic and we decided to go there and live together. She also claimed she had her own house we could live on free and she had a pension of about $500 USD, but in pesos. So we arrove in the Dominican Republic and it was all lies. The house wasn’t hers, but belonged to her brother. She had been living there for free, but he expected me to pay $350.00 a month rent, and she had no pension. I don’t know if she had ever actually been a doctora or not. So I moved out, but am still in the Dominican Republic. I can almost survive on my social security and have found a gal only 44 years old who earns all of $200 a month, but with my pension we get by.
I ended up saying, “I can relate to a 60ish-hour workweek. Are you on a rotating schedule?” I figured it showed some confidence that I understood the nature of her job but allowed her to give me another clue.
I had a date from online on Sat night. sent a text when I arrived home telling herI hope she made home ok and wished her luck on her presentation
She responded 2 days later with
“Thanks for the message. I got home safely and it was a pleasure meeting you. My presentation went very well”
Sounds like she is interested?
A)Yes, otherwise she wouldn’t have responded.
B)Her response is why you should always ask a question. What do you have to go on now.
C)Text is even better since you don’t have to write a whole big email. It’s perfectly appropriate to say ‘glad it went well, any interest in meeting again next week?’ You could send a similar email to her as well. If she’s not interested she’ll either shoot you down or just not reply.
That could be the case as well. I’ve talked to some people (online) that are just terrible at holding up their end of the conversation. I’ve felt more like I’m interviewing them than talking to them. That is, they just answer my questions and don’t discuss them or ask me anything.
I don’t know what she’ll make of a random phone call from you but it just sounds like she’s busy or doesn’t carry her phone round all the time. I would have just sent her a reply text, possibly asking if she wanted to see you again.
Agent Foxtrot, That girl is just making a distinction between chatting for flirting and chatting to organise something. go for it.
Re: Foxtrot’s question -> 99% sure that she’s just having a busy week or a week with prior engagements scheduled so she’s waiting for you to ask her out some time next week. The “we can chat for a bit” is more or less a throwaway line.
I’ve had a decent time on Coffee Meets Bagel. I like that it only gives each person one match per day. I live in a major metro area, and with things like Tinder I think a lot of people jump from one online profile to the next without much thought (including me). CMB forces people to slow down a bit.
My friend uses that site, but what’s with it having to go through Facebook? My friend said to me, and I’m pulling this directly from a text, to “stop being a paranoid asshole,” but I automatically don’t bother with anything that needs to link to a social media account. I’m not “paranoid,” I just don’t like it.
Should I get over it? He’s having bad luck with it, but it could very well be him. He’s… weird.
Yeah, the Facebook thing sucks. I used to fight that battle, but eventually gave in. I just try to limit the stuff I share as much as I can - not show apps on Facebook, etc.
I’ve definitely noticed a different demographic with the people on CMB compared to OkC. A lot of OkC matches are 25 year old baristas/artists/students. CMB appears to be composed of 30 year old lawyers/consultants/account supervisors. I’ve heard the male population is heavily skewed towards Asian/Indian dudes.
Hmm, well that’s encouraging. By the time I quit OKC I was like, “Is anybody a grown up with a real job?” I don’t get hung up on what people do for a living in general, but I was getting tired of every guy with a ratchet-ass beard calling himself an artist. Maybe I’ll give CMB a chance. The idea of going back to online dating gives me mild heartburn, but I can take some Tums and get over it.