no - i think i told him I was too much potatoes for his lean meat and closed the IM . . . 
Not if she keeps turning him down like that, she won’t be.
I had a 21 year old guy message me and the message contained only one word:
Sex?
Insta-block! Though I thought about just writing back “Female.” 21 is outside my age range anyway. What’s even more funny is his photos all show him looking like he’s about to beat the living daylights out of a motor vehicle. WTF?
On the bright side, he was very up-front about what he was interested in, and he wasted an absolute minimum amount of your time ascertaining whether you’d be a good match.
I’ll have to try that. I wonder how many responses I’ll get if I just shotgun-message a bunch of women “Sex?”
That’s probably what they’re looking for, yeah, but you’ve got your terminology wrong. A cougar is an older woman who pursues younger men. They’re the aggressor. As the person being approached, you’d be a MILF, whether or not you’re actually a mother.
You sure about that, Aes? I thought a cougar was any middle-aged-or-older woman dating a much-younger (probably 20-something) man, regardless of who instigated the relationship.
I think Aes is the one with the correct definition, Guns. I’d be happy to call a cougar any older woman who prefers relationships with younger men but in my mind they’ve always been older women who cruises bars looking for young guys.
Edit: The infallible and omniscient editors at Wikipedia agree:
The even more infallible editors at Urban Dictionary agree, too:
There you go, then.
I’m sad that I knew that without checking either wikipedia or urbandictionary.
I knew that without checking either of those places and I’m not sad. :3 Why are you?
Never take pride in ignorance!
There are a number of things I’m proudly ignorant of: American Idol, daytime television, Ed Wood’s fimography, and anything written by L. Ron Hubbard, just to name a few.
Is seekintimacy .com a legit site? From time to time I’ll see someone’s profile that says that if you want to contact them it would be better if you did it on the other site. Now, I’ve seen where people say that it’s better to email them direct or catch them on OKC because they don’t have a paid subscription on match and therefore can’t read an email and that makes sense, but Seekintimacy .com just doesn’t sound like it’s totally legit. I just clicked over to their home page and it mentions that it’s a partner of heartdetectives .com, a site from which of recived several emails saying that someone or other is interested in my profile or sent me an email and I should check it out. I don’t have an account there, but oddly enough, the username/PW they sent in the same email were the same as the ones I have for a throwaway POF account (who also sends your username/pw in every mailing).
If they’re redirecting you to another website in their first message to you, it’s generally a very bad sign. I’m not sure if they’re a scammer, spammer, or what but they’re almost certainly up to something.
I made a few changes to my profile. It’s probably fine but I’m curious how you all would critique it anyway.
It was right in her profile too. The only thing I don’t mind is when they come out and say that they aren’t a paid subscriber and that it’s better to contact them on OKC, which I know is legit. I didn’t go past the home page on the other site, I wonder if you need a CC to email someone.
I just realized that the person who winked at me with the link in her profile, never actually viewed my profile, she just clicked the wink button from the search results. I guess that answers that. I wonder if there’s a way to report that?
ETA, nevermind. Her profile is already gone (and she was “NEW” yesterday).
yup - it’s a scam, Joey P.
Hey now!
You haven’t *lived *'til you’ve thrown paper plates at *Plan Nine from Outer Space *at B-Fest.
Hey all, my future MIL is ready to (finally) jump back into the dating world after dozen years. To give you some background, she’s a lit professor at a midsized college, and has been for the past 21 years (she’s 51). She’s not terribly computer literate (uses email/word processing and online surfing/shopping as needed, but not more than 1.5 hours/day on average), and was hesitant to jump into a bunch of paid sites. She asked me for advice.
Can you guys recommend 1-2 paid sites, and a bunch of free sites that have worked for you? Neither the SO nor I have ever tried online dating, so I’d have no clue where to direct her. I don’t even know if the biggies are any good anymore.
My personal experience with OkCupid (free) has been good.