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Of course I’m not either, but I could always be persuaded.
Whenever I join a website, that pretty much marks the beginning of the end for it.[sup]*[/sup] I figure I’ll let the twitterati enjoy themselves a while longer before I bring about its downfall.
- With one notable exception.
So is there any catch to OKCupid? Warnings or gotchas?
Nope, it’s pretty straight forward. Some fake profiles, but that’s about it.
I give up. After reading profile after profile on OKCupid they all seem to blend together. They also seem to all be superheros who travel the world and have WAY more money and ambition than I do. Craigslist is full of spammers, fakes and no responses, Match.com wants to charge me just to email someone(it’s like pissing money away!), plenty offish had few prospects I want to date (seriously, it’s like their mission statement is “single moms sign up here!” and I’m not dating anyone with kids) and then there’s the whole eHarmony debacle. Thirty fucking minutes of doing their questionnaires only to be told “Sorry, we don’t know what to do with you GOOD LUCK” without even a half-assed attempt at trying to bilk me out of $60 a month. I may as well accept that I’ll look like this pretty soon.
TL; DR The cat will subsist on my flesh until my landlord finds my corpse.
There are couple of geek-centric dating sites, such as www.sweetongeeks.com, www.soulgeek.com, and www.gk2gk.com, www.nerdpassions.com, etc.
I know the lady at www.sweetongeeks.com and they are a pretty cool bunch.
I met my geeky man on OKCupid - he had something about muggles in his profile and I knew we had something in common.
Good luck!
I’ve got profiles on 3 of them, but Sweet On Geeks is only free for the introductory period, which has now expired for me. Nerd Passions has a horrible layout, kind of baffling. Geek 2 Geek is the most promising of the three I knew already.
Too bad you don’t live closer - I run a group called The Charlotte Geeks - we get together 3-4 times a month for social events and then attend things like ConCarolinas, DragonCon, and the Geek Gala - all cool places to meet geeky singles 
Isn’t that the way it is everywhere, though? Everyone likes to travel, everyone is a “nerd” or a “goofball”, they’re all looking for someone with a good sense of humor, and (my personal favorite) they like to “have fun.” Very specific. “Fun”.
Mine started out that way, then one day I said “fuck it” and started making it a bit more specific. Especially, the most common of all vague sayings “I’m just as happy going out as I am staying in” No you’re not. If someone put a gun to your head and said “Stay in and watch a movie or go out to a loud bar” what would you choose? There’s nothing wrong with wanting to go out to the loud party bar and I promise if you just put that in your profile you’ll end up not wasting time with ‘wet blankets’ like me and narrow your search down to other people who like spending time at bars.
In short, get rid of the vagueness and be specific. Go out or stay in, country or rock, mexican or italian, house or apartment, cats or dogs, want kids or don’t want kids…you don’t want everything, you’re not a special flower. I know you THINK you want everything. But (and I know this sounds odd) anywhere in your profile where you said ‘either’ or ‘both’ or ‘I don’t care’ or ‘whatever you want’ or anything like that, pretend like someone has a gun to your head and you have to pick one or the other. It’s not that you can’t go back on your choice or go the other way on some days. But it’s really hard to get a ‘read’ on someone when they claim to like everything and anything. Have a damn opinion once in a while.
Yes, it’s a pet peeve. Mainly because regardless of what your profile says, IRL you probably actually do have some feeling about these things and it’s easier to get them out of the way now. Sure you say you’re just as happy going out or staying in, but when you end up with a guy who’s not interested in going out 4 nights a week and that’s a problem, it might have been easier to just mention that you like going out a couple of nights a week.
My favorite is “I have no typical Friday night” on OKCupid. Yes, you do. You might do different things sometimes, but there’s something you do more than others. That’s your typical Friday.
I was reading one girl’s “You Should Message Me If…” section and I liked until she said “Please be funny.” I hate that. Some people find Carrot Top funny(somebody has to, he has a career.) Others like Woody Allen, Monty Python, or Martin Lawrence. I can usually figure it out via their favorite TV and movies, but I still hate it.
Yeah, I think when I used to list compatible sense of humor (somewhere in my profile), I would make it clearer by saying, “Think Cohen brothers, not Farrelly brothers).”
I hate that “You should message me if” section.
I also dislike all the people that answer the “Most private thing you’re willing to admit” with some quip about if they told, then it wouldn’t be private. Reading comprehension for the LOSS.
You’re probably looking at the exact same girls I am. We live in the same area and are around the same age, IIRC. I am willing to date single moms, though. I was rejected by eHarmony too. We would probably have better luck going to bars together.
Similarly, I’ve seen people who say “I’m looking to meet someone with similar interests” Well then list your fucking interest dumbass.
It drives me nuts when people fill in the “6 things I couldn’t do with out section with” Water/air/food. You think it’s funny don’t you, it’s not. It’s not a deal breaker for me, but it certainly puts you on the short list for not getting a message.
Heh. HeroesCon, just this past weekend. I know a lot of folks in the Charlotte area, too.
Well then, make plans to come to my Geek Gala over halloween weekend, dangit!!
That’s far!
I used to be guilty of this until I realized it was all too common. In the final round of Wheel of Fortune, they give the contestants R S T L N E. These should be a given for your six things air/water/food/family/friends/Internet. I’ve heard God is also common, but I’ve never seen it because most of my matches are militant atheists like me. What ELSE can’t you live without. This shouldn’t be taken literally.
that’s far away? Dude, you were just here for HeroesCon! Or that’s too many months? Because we are doing a Mel Brooks/Monty Python pub-style trivia contest next Friday - usually a very good time - and there’s alcohol!
No, I said HeroesCon was a thing that happened in Charlotte this past weekend.