I would consider “letting that irritation show through” as being a jackass. Which is what I’m saying, as long as you’re email doesn’t make you sound like a jackass, if she likes you, she’ll probably write back even if the wording is a bit off.
I mean, I go back and look at all the questions in this thread, even if I just look at all my questions and look at how many of them are asking why a girl didn’t write back and we all offer opinions, support, ideas on how to better word initial emails but when you really think about it, how many of those girls didn’t write back because they simply weren’t interested?
Having said that, I’m not sure how to ask someone to answer more questions without sounding annoyed. As I mentioned above, they simply might not realize that they answered them privately. But them problem is, there’s a chance that they might not want to make them public just because someone asked them too. Maybe you could try a different approach. Write them a nice email and at the end invite them to look through all your questions. They would be forced to go public to see your answers.
ETA, I’ve been rethinking the questions lately though. I’ve always felt exactly the same way as Invisible Chimp when it comes to the questions. They really give you a good read on someone. People don’t sit there and think about them like they do the rest of their profile, they just answer them and move on, plus, they cover a good bit of ground. OTOH, sometimes I wonder how many people I may have passed up because of them. Sometimes I wonder if I use the questions as a reason NOT to email someone. Like I sift through the questions until I find a dealbreaker for myself. I know there’s been girls that, based on the profile alone I would have emailed, but then I find one or two offputting answers that change my mind. Often times they’ve been things that in the normal course of dating it may have been a long time before I would have known.
I can hear that and understand. I know that the OKC questions were something I filled out initially at the time I created my profile and never really looked at again.
I had someone ask me about some of my answers a year or so later, and I didn’t even remember being asked them and certainly didn’t feel the way about them that I had evidently answered. People and opinions can change. I would definitely go off the profile before I would go off the questions.
I do actually attempt to keep my questions somewhat updated. Partially because I know making changes to them and adding descriptions/summaries will put me on other people’s front pages. I know people’s opinions can change, but if you said that sex before marriage is wrong or that you’re pro-choice or that you live with your parents and it’s since changed, you really do owe it to the dating community to go back and change it. (Of course if it’s something trivial it’s not as big of a deal). I know some of those are reasons I’ve held off on emailing girls (also, you won’t receive an email from me if you put that the earth is bigger then the sun).
But, as with anything else, as much as I might want everyone else to do it MY way, I understand that everyone else is sitting there wishing I would do it THEIR way.
The woman who only answered 16 questions publicly contacted me first, so she’s obviously into me. As I said, I like her message and profile.
Would she have even looked at my profile if we weren’t an 86% match? I doubt it. Why are we an 86% match? Because of the questions. I believe the questions are important.
I haven’t replied yet because I’m not sure how to ask about her questions the right way. I really like to read people’s questions and want to read hers specifically.
I direct readers of my profile to look at my questions to get a feel for who I am. She obviously didn’t. I may have to discipline her for disobeying me, if she’s into that kind of thing. How would I know if she’s into that? It’s not something people usually mention in their profiles, but sometimes do answer a question about.
Incidentally, my first post in this thread was about a lawyer who contacted me last year. I never replied back. She looked at my profile again last night, but didn’t message me. My main profile pic is different now, but my old main profile pic is still there (the one with me sitting on the steps.) She might have seen that and remembered me as the jerk who never answered her last time.
Well then you really picked the wrong day to make your triumphant return now didn’t you. You should have come back yesterday, announced that I was picking you up, and then went on a 2 month break.
That would have been much funnier…maybe not for me though.
PSSSST, Invisible Chimp, I told her about the odd coincidence…but don’t tell anyone. Shhhh. (I think she embarrasses easily)
Unfortunately, the rest of my week is booked: date tonight, probable date tomorrow, doctor’s appointment Thursday, a show that promises to be fucking amazing on Friday, bachelorette party on Saturday. I may have an opening for murder *next *week, though.
Works for me. The ricin got backordered until Monday. Watch for some snail mail from me, make sure to open it when there’s a good stiff breeze in the room.
::Crosses fingers that Guns doesn’t actually get murdered in the next few weeks, that would probably make me look really bad::
That’s right! I’d totally forgotten about that. I think I eventually got directions to that place from you, but I still haven’t gotten around to checking it out.
A woman gave me four or five stars on Quickmatch. I’m certain I know who it was because only one is in my visitors. I looked at her questions and she wants the father of her children to be the same race and isn’t offended by racist jokes. She might be a white supremacist! I think I dodged a bullet. This is further evidence that questions are important.
I replied to that other woman by saying that I like to compare and contrast answers, but since she only publicly answered 16, she remains a mystery.
