That’s not necessarily true. I think if someone was browsing through their own quickmatches, they could rate you without showing up in your visitors list.
SFG, I don’t recall your OKC handle; what is it? And the list of potential suspects grows.
They can, yes. But if you get an email with 9 people and it says one of them gave you 4 or 5 stars and one of those people looked at you at roughly the same time you got the email, it’s a pretty safe bet they gave you the stars.
That’s not fair, I email nice intelligent people like you all the time, with no response, but clearly people like you are responding to someone. In the mean time, I get emails from girls that use words like “wot”, “yud” (you’d), “ur”, “n” (and), and “hunan” (no idea). Makes me all kinds of stabby.
Well, common factor and all… 
Like I should talk. I tend to attract the mentally unstable.
Perhaps they just love certain provinces of China.
Okay, I’ll give her that one. I’ve never heard of Hunan, but the whole ‘sentence’ is, under the category of favorite stuff, “food that hunan italian hispanic or spain egyption and more”
So that’s probably it.
u r full of grrr.
Well…I joined OK Cupid. I am annoyed by a lot of the questions because they try to pigeonhole you into a yes/no answer when the question itself can be answered in myriad ways depending on the situation and they don’t account for any grey areas.
So here’s my profile…be gentle!
That there would be a rookie move…that we’ve all made
You need to add your user name to the end of that link. It should be http://www.okcupid.com/profile/username
Whoa, he looks just like me! And we have all the same interests.
You should send him an email. I bet you two would really hit it off, probably have a date with him tonight if you act fast…the night is young.
What’s the “rookie move”? The link goes to my profile?
[Joey voice] Hey, how YOU doin’? [/Joey voice]
And Chick-a-go isn’t that far away!
Oh yeah…and I pray that you are a female!
It goes to the profile of whoever clicks it. When you click it, it goes to your profile, when I click it, it goes to my profile, etc.
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Ah. Oops then. Apparently** interface2x** got to my profile somehow. Let me fix it so you evil bastards can tear me to shreds…
Is this any different?
One of my top matches used to say, as her first line, that she was separated, but not yet divorced and if that scared you, to check back later when it was official. I would check occasionally to see if it was updated, but it never was. Just before her profile disappeared, she checked out my profile. I would have been interested if she was divorced, but I personally won’t message separated women.
That works
Well, this experiment has been a disaster for me. No dates after one month, only two or three replies that fizzled almost immediately. Is it my profile? My pictures? My job? My pets? I have no idea. One of the first things people say you should do in a profile is make sure your grammar is perfect. I have no problem with my grammar. I don’t know what it is. Am I saying the wrong things? Should I be funny or serious? I always figured one should just be himself.
Anyway, I thought this could help me out. I’m somewhat shy in the real world and painfully afraid of approaching people. I can handle a conversation if someone starts one with me but rarely start one with a stranger. But women never approach a man so I’m pretty much screwed. It’s different if you know someone over time, like in school. It’s easier to break the ice that way. But I’m not in school anymore and am pretty much limited to women I see in the neighborhood and it’s pretty intimidating to just ask some woman for a date the first (and potentially only) time you see her.
Anyway, I still have two months on the subscription and might as well give it a shot. I honestly don’t think there is anything I can or need to do to fix up my profile. Some guys just don’t have it, I suppose.