My profile is pretty long…I combined the stuff from my OkC and Match profiles the other night, and ended up with a monster. When is it too much?
I don’t think you can have too many pictures (current ones)!!! But I do feel, after reading so many, that it’s easy to get lost. While I feel that everything in mine is important, I understand that it may be overwhelming and I may need to stick to the bare bones.
See, I just typed that, but now I want to say that I really want someone to see all of it. Gargh! Hence the post.
Personally I like a long profile. If a guy can put up a wall of text and it’s witty, interesting and engaging enough for me to want to read to the end of it, signs are pretty good.
Ok, I am going to trim down…I have decided that. If anyone sees any crap that needs to go, feel free to let me know!
Of course, as always, no pressure to contribute Going out to the deck to watch the T-storm come in. When it arrives, I’ll scurry back inside and begin the profilectomy.
Your link’s borked, hun. You need to have /profile/ between the okcupid top-level and your profile name.
IMHO it’s not too long. Rather than just having a list of stuff you explain a little bit about what you like, why you like it, for each one. That’s useful.
The bit about music though - those numbers are radio station call numbers? Otherwise they mean almost nothing to me. There’s a couple of typos (“be” for “me” in the spot where you’re talking about cribbage for example), but nothing hugely egregious. I can’t point to anything in particular that I’d say “Chop it out” about.
The women it will turn off are the women who wouldn’t be interested in you, or you wouldn’t be interested in anyway. Length doesn’t really matter. Is “War and Peace” too long? Some people would say it is, but I think it’s interesting enough to hold my attention.
Whoops on the link! Well, too late to edit and Dopers should figure it out, right?
Yeah, the radio stations. I really don’t expect to find and am not looking for anyone outside of Kansas City, and anyone here who would recognize those. Still, you have a point. It doesn’t really say anything anyway, since that pretty much runs the gamut of available music selections.
Yeah, that’s where I was leaning…but you know how it is when you think or -want- something to be a particular way…you have trouble seeing the faults or weaknesses in it.
Thanks for the feedback, I guess I’ll just clean up those spots and leave it as is…and wait for another ‘reader’ to come along
My personal opinion, which may not be shared by anyone else: I don’t like it when someone lists “a woman”, “significant other”, or some variation of a relationship in the “can’t live without things”. To me, it’s a tiny pale pink flag that could indicate that the person isn’t capable of being happy alone.
On the plus side: You play cribbage?! I thought I was the only person under the age of 70 that knew how.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t, I guess. Or, as I feel with this whole thing, pretty much just damned (or doomed, or some similar sounding word).
Actually, when I first started a few months ago, I had a long profile up and a couple of women got back to me to congratulate me on my profile, except they didn’t think we were a match. That was interesting. I don’t even remember contacting them. Honestly, considering how much it sucks to be outright rejected or ignored, I think that was pretty cool. The highlight of my experience with online dating!
Ahhh, yes, I see that now. Wow, that is something I can actually live without…have and am, in fact. Just consider it a nice thing…deeeeeeelete!
Yeah, I play cribbage…my Dad’s side were big cribbage players. There is a picture of me at 8 or 9 playing with my great-grandfather. But as I said, it’s been 3 years or so.
Haha! Got a laugh out of that. Now that I’ve been in it for awhile, I would consider a compliment on the profile and no date a better use of time than no compliment on the profile -with- a date.
If it’s boring or poorly written, any amount is too much. If it’s witty or interesting, it can keep going on forever.
In general, I prefer longer profiles. The well-written ones give me a better idea of the guy, as well as ideas for things to talk about; and the poorly written ones serve as helpful warnings to stay away.
And again, here’s something that I *like *people to state if that’s how they actually feel, since that would mean they’re probably a bad match for me.
IMO, if there’s something that’s important to you, the more people react negatively to it, the *more *important it is for you to include it in your profile. Unless your purpose on OkC is to fuck as many people as possible, regardless of long-term prospects as partners or friends, you’re only doing yourself a disservice if you cut out anything that people can use early on to figure out that you wouldn’t get along well.
As always, the most important rule is to be yourself. You want to find people who are attracted to you, not to some theoretically idealized version of you that was created by a committee of strangers from the internet.
Another vote for long(ish) profiles, OTOH, there’s one girl who’s profile is so ungodly long and full of rants, anecdotes, stories and information, that I just couldn’t make it through the whole thing. Reading her profile was like being on a first (and second) date.
A while ago there was a ton of fake profiles on OKC, all with URLs in their profile making them easy to spot. I used them to send messages to in order to attain my 100%. Oh, and a journal entry that says “Look, I have a journal”.
Probably the similar syndrome that makes a fairly out of shape guy (who sent me a very vaguely creepy email) put “She has high-maintenance looks with a down-to-earth attitude” under the “You should message me if” section of his profile.
Ah, the old I-don’t-have-to-take-care-of-myself-but-you-do-guy. And of course by ‘down to earth’ he means low self-esteem and lower standards. :dubious:
Going out to the deck to watch the T-storm come in. When it arrives, I’ll scurry back inside and begin the profilectomy.
