Has anyone ever got an 100% match with someone on OKC? Is that even possible?
Now that I’ve answered over 2,000 questions, OkC says my highest possible match is 100%, but I’ve only seen 99%. I wish I remembered what the minimum number of questions was to get 99% matches. I think it’s around 200. Obviously the more questions, the higher your highest possible match. I always look at number of questions answered when considering match % accuracy. If match % means anything, then hypothetically, if a woman has also answered over 2,000 questions, with over 1,000 in common and we were 99%, we’d obviously be perfect for each other, right?
1.) It is possible if you answer enough questions. If you click over to the questions section of your own profile, it will tell you the highest possible match percentage you can achieve. If that number is under 100%, you need to answer more questions if you want to raise the ceiling.
2.) I’ve answered over 2,000 questions, and I’ve never seen a 100% match. Given the sheer number of potential answers, coupled with the fact that most of them aren’t going to be mandatory or even important answers (regardless of what someone might think would be nice but not required in an absolutely ideal match), I would expect that it would be very, very hard to find one.
ETA: Chimp, I see what you did there.
I never even considered Craigslist, but I may recall seeing someone 'way back in this thread who had a little success??
Considering the flaky bastards I have to deal with just trying to sell a table on CL, there’s no way I’d try to date that way!
That kinda depends on how their algorithm works. If it’s just a simple “you answered the same way on these questions” then I don’t necessarily think so. From time to time I’ll have friends tell me they have someone they want to set me up with, then they’ll go on to explain to me WHY we’d be perfect for each other to which my reply is almost always that “I’m not looking for a female version of me.”
To give another example.
One of the questions on OKC is
How important is it to you to have your own unique “thing” (like a weekly Girls’ Night Out or Guys’ Movie Night) that you don’t share with your partner(s)?
* Very - I need some ME time to be happy
* Sort of - I need friends outside of my partner
* Not much - I like sharing stuff with my partner
* I’d prefer not to have exclusive things
Now, I know it’s worded a bit clunkily, but I chose “Very - I need some ME time to be happy” (I’m a bit introverted). For me, a perfect match would choose “Sort of - I need friends outside of my partner” because, IMO, when she goes to hang out with her friends, I get my ME time. But I suppose that’s where the “Answers I’ll accept” comes into play. :smack:
Also, is it just me or does your highest possible match % going UP with answering more questions seem counter intuitive? If I set up a profile and answer a single question aren’t I more likely to be a 100% match with people then if keep making things more and more restrictive?
I don’t know what you’re talking about. 
Seriously, how could they say you’re 100%? Until you meet someone in person, how can you say for certain, anything?
Match percentage isn’t based on identical answers: it’s based on how your answers match the answers that the other person wanted to see. (E.g., if one of you prefers giving backrubs while the other prefers receiving, it would mark that question as a match, even though you had opposite answers.) Presumably, if you both marked a lot of questions in common as irrelevant, that would help drive up the match percentage. (I’d assume that the algorithm weights complementary answers proportionately higher the more important you and the potential match consider them to be.)
No, it actually makes perfect sense. Because otherwise, as you observed, someone could answer only one question, at which point they’d be listed as a 100% match for half the damn site. The ceiling is puposely designed so that you can’t be considered a high percentage match for someone else until you’ve answered enough questions that the percentage is actually indicative of something other than a small comparison pool.
I just always assumed it was understood that the match percentage is an indication of how your answers to the questions line up, not something like the actual literal odds that you will get along with this person, because obviously there are going to be a lot of things that the questions just can’t cover, since a multiple choice test is not a living, breathing human being.
Does anyone know why OKCupid will not let me see some people? I have a gay friend on there and wanted to know what she wrote. I can search for her and find her no problem, but when I go to view her profile it says there is no user by that name. She says she’s still using it so that can’t be the problem. Oddly enough she’s the only one that that’s happened to for me.
I also tried to delete my Match.com profile and it says you can’t. They actually say that they must keep it for legal reasons. I ended up going through and deleting everything but I don’t like that it’s still there.
I must be going through a bad dry spell as I haven’t had anyone respond to me in weeks. I’ve sent out three in the last day and a lot more in the last week or so. I’m actually running out of women in my age range and area. Is it cool to email a second time months, or in some cases, a year later? I’ve seen a lot of the same women on but I emailed them a long time ago so I’m not sure they they would change their minds or not. I also hate that I feel like I’m bugging them.
Yes, but the point of match % is that OkC believes there is a strong correlation between “how your answers to the questions line up” and “the actual literal odds that you will get along with this person” in spite of “there are going to be a lot of things the questions can’t cover” and “a multiple choice test is not a living, breathing human being.” Do you believe otherwise? Is there any relationship between them at all? Are you saying me and my hypothetical woman from post #1843 would not make a great couple? Impossible to say, since she’s not real, but I think we would.
The only thing I can think of is if they have you blocked. But if your friend is telling you to check out the profile, then… I got nothin’.
Not a lawyer, but I’m quite sure that’s bullshit. Possibly there could be something that would require them to retain the information for a certain number of years offline, but I can’t think of anything that would require them to keep it active and viewable.
As long as you never got a concrete rejection, I’d say it’s fine to reach out again once you’ve hit the point where it’s been actual *months *with no response.
I believe OkC has an option for gay profiles to only be seen by other gay people, in case they’re not out, for example. Make sure your friend doesn’t have this turned on.
I don’t know about any *hypothetical *situations, but on the real-world front, I’ve met and/or talked to quite a few guys with whom I’ve had match percentages in the high 90s whom I have zero interest in dating. However, they *have *all turned out to be guys who I could definitely be *friends *with. My bestest in the whole wide is a guy I originally met through OkC, went on two dates with, and decided I had no attraction to, but otherwise thought was awesome.
So (and my apologies but I’m having a hard time phrasing this in a way that doesn’t come off as condescending), if you’re placing a lot of faith in the match percentage, that just means you haven’t been dating enough people from OkC in person yet.
You are entitled to take this for whatever it’s worth to you, and it’s not an attack, but as an occasional reader and mostly non-participant in the thread, I’m starting to feel a little uncomfortable about you and the hypothetical woman by now. Honestly and seriously just throwing it out there.
I’m sure you have more experience, since it’s easier for women to get dates off this site than men. Of course, I know match % isn’t everything, but I also believe it isn’t nothing and I think match % has to weighted by number of questions answered. Also, you never can truly really tell until people meet in person, as I already said. After all, there is usually a non-zero enemy % too.
Put it this way: from my experience browsing the site, a high % doesn’t necessarily guarantee a good match, but a low % almost certainly guarantees a bad one. There’s exceptions on both sides, I’m sure, but a low % generally means you two disagree about some very fundamental things, while a high % indicates you’re mostly in agreement on the big things, but the details might be a problem.
I have no idea what you’re getting at.
I’m considering suicide. Attractive info on my profile or no?
If nothing else, it’s very emo.
How’s this for forward. I singed on, within seconds got a wink. Before I even looked at it, I was going through my Daily5. Just as I was signing off, she sent me an IM that said “Hi”.
Now, I should mention that my profile makes it pretty clear that I prefer emails. Ten minutes later I got an email from her saying she was going to be offline the rest of the day so “here’s my phone number” and she gave me that.
Her profile was in ALL CAPS with no relevant info, so it was already a no for me, but then I got an email and thinking maybe there would be something redeeming in there…nope. Absolutely nothing of any substance and an incredible amount of spelling and grammar errors. Makes my brain hurt.
Oh, and have I mentioned my OKC stalker? Since June 21st she’s sent me 6 emails, some of them just a simple : ), but most of them just a few words. Also, since then she has checked my profile a minimum of once a day. Sometimes more often, but at least once a day (and if could be way more then that but since she jumps to the top of the list, I can only see the most recent view when I sign on). I was thinking of sending her a nice “knock it off” email, or maybe a less nice one. Then I was thinking of just blocking her so she can’t email me and hiding her so I can’t see her when she looks at my profile. But then I figured it’s not hurting anyone and even though I have zero interest in her, it’s still a bit of an ego boost.
Now, to go back to when I said I had email a whole bunch of people in two days. I think only one ever looked at my profile. The one that was 92% on OKC never checked me out (unless she’s browsing privately) which sucks because it seems like we actually did have a lot in common.
Bah, this is getting boring.
Ya know what’s funny. I remember when I first got started and was reading all the tips for online dating on various website, one of them said not to send nasty letters to girls. My first thought was “Who would do that?” But as time went on and the frustration set in, I have to say, I understand why people would do that. There have certainly been times over the last year, that I just need to vent and want to sent someone a message along the lines of “What the hell bitch I sent you a perfectly nice, well thought out email, we seem to have a lot in common, I know I write better then most of the crap you probably get and you can’t even look at my fucking profile.” But of course, I would never do that. Just take a deep breath and move on.
There have been one or two girls that I’ve wanted to email and say something to the extent of “I know I’ve emailed you once or twice over the last year, but I just wanted to say that you’ve been on here for at least as long as me, we have a lot in common etc…blah blah blah…” and try that angle, kind of go at it from the POV of There’s nothing better to do/nothing to lose/etc Again, I wouldn’t do that, I don’t want to imply that we’re both losers so we should just go on a pity date with each other. Besides, the one I have in mind doesn’t look like a loser to me. 
Oh and full mailbox girl. I went the award route. Knowing people can post the awards I didn’t want to send anything she could post, so I sent her a youtube clip of Otto yelling “Zeppelin ruuuuules” from the Simpsons since she appears to be a huge Zeppelin fan. As soon as I sent it I realized I should have at least mentioned that I was doing it because her mailbox was full, but I suppose that window has closed, I don’t want to just keep sending her awards, that would be strange.
Make that 7 messages from the stalker.
Maybe she’s thinking “What the hell bitch I sent you a perfectly nice, well thought out email”! :eek: