All that guilt.
Are you sure you’re not Catholic? :dubious:
I find I only care about answers under “The Two of Us” in sex and religion. Everything else is meh to me, but if they want sex only half as often (or twice as often) as I do, why bother, and if I’m going to feel disrespectful of their core beliefs, again, why bother?
Favorite book The Bible? Unless you specify that it’s your favorite to mock and deride, Houston, we have a problem.
My dad was Catholic, but I was not raised in the faith. I don’t really feel guilty about any of my guilty pleasures. There just not as snobby or high-brow as some of my other favorites. I had a hard time coming up with an example for books.
Time for the token rant about this sort of thing: Don’t lie about stuff on your profile. The sort of people you attract by lying won’t be interested in you, but instead in the false version of you you’ve presented. Unless all you want is a quick fuck (which is also acceptable), you’re much better off just being honest about your beliefs.
To me, for example, “'Spiritual but not religious” would be a tick in the negative column, versus “Atheist” being one in the positive.
Absolutely; that’s why I did nothing of the sort this time around. Could you not sense my guilt? 
ETA: Intersting to note that I have been scrupulously honest this time around, and am having much better luck. Not sure what the connection is, if there is one. Maybe I just rock so much F-ing harder now than I did 5 years ago.
Perfect segue to my current dilemma: I’m getting braces next month. I’m not particularly photogenic at the best of times, and as I’ll probably be getting ceramic braces, unless I do an extreme close up of my face (not happening) an updated picture won’t really show the braces.
Should I put it in my profile somewhere? Kind of as a Caveat Emptor type thing? Mention it when/if someone contacts me? Don’t mention it at all?
For example: I don’t wear glasses except in one of my pictures, but do wear them every day. However, I don’t ever bring this up prior to meeting someone. But I would consider braces more of a deal-breaking thing (for some people) than glasses. I don’t want to lie/mislead anyone, but I don’t know how important it should be, if at all.
If you don’t think they’d show up, I wouldn’t worry about it. If your current photo is an older one anyway, though, it might be a good time to do an update. Then if anybody complains, you can honestly say that they’re in your profile photo already.
Hm, that type of braces are pretty hard to see even face-to-face, aren’t they? It’s not something that would probably bother me, and I wouldn’t consider that I had been misled if it’s something I didn’t notice until meeting.
I think if I had to add it to my profile, I would take the humorous route. Something about hoping to get your braces off in time for prom. Or something actually funny!
The glasses would probably bother me more, if it came as a surprise to me that you wore them every time I saw you. Not a deal-breaker, but it would strike me as odd.
Good call.
I don’t know - I haven’t seen anyone face to face with these type. Also, as long as I have to be in braces, as soon as I can, I’ll be using colored ligs (rubber bands around each bracket) even though these are self-ligating brackets. And when it comes time for the power chain, I’ll do colors as well. It may well be the only fun that comes from the actual wearing of braces. The colors will make them more noticeable. But not in the same way the clear/light color chains would when they inevitably get stained from something I eat or drink.
Plus, at some point during my treatment, I’m going to have elastics as well (rubber bands attaching the top brackets to the bottom brackets). 
No, the prom thing is funny! At least I think so.
I wear them all the time out of the house, but almost never wear them at home. I can’t wear contacts.
My main photo is from last month. But I’m not really smiling in it anyway, so even if I updated, chances of me getting a “good” smiling picture vs. a “good” introspective picture (in which case the braces wouldn’t show because my mouth would be closed) are not great.
But say I do manage to get a decent smiling picture in braces, where the braces aren’t really noticeable. Is that really any different than lying? I mean I would consider it lying. Is it really any different than people that post photos from 10 years ago when they no longer look anything like that?
Maybe I’m misunderstanding, but are most people really turned off by eyeglasses? If that’s the case, then I guess I’m screwed. I’ve tried contacts and hate the maintenance involved. I just like to put them on, get as close to 20/20 as possible and live my life. To be honest, I hardly ever notice if others are wearing glasses or not. For that matter, I was never self-conscious about balding either until I started dating again.
If you happen to take a picture where the braces barely show, and you post it because it’s a good picture, that’s not lying.
If you have 25 pictures of you smiling, and choose the one that shows the braces the least, that might be iffy.
I know I’m not turned off by eyeglasses. I mean I suppose if one was wearing really hideous outdated frames it could detract from the person’s over-all attractiveness.
As for the balding, that doesn’t bother me in the least as long as the guy doesn’t try to hide it by creative combings. That never hides anything and usually only looks completely ridiculous. I’ve dated completely bald guys, guys with thinning hair, and guys with full head’s of hair. That truly isn’t a contributing factor to me.
No, that’s not what I was getting at. I wear glasses to work as well, and wear contacts. Glasses are not a turn-off as far as I’m concerned, and good glasses can be very complementary.
It would just be a surprise if all of a sudden a person I didn’t picture in glasses, was constantly wearing glasses I guess. Nothing I would hold against them, though.
Hey…now that I think about it…I don’t think there’s a pic of me wearing my regular glasses on OKC. Match yes, but OKC no. I’m a damn liar. :eek:
I read this as “…in time for porn.”
Getting to pick and change the colors of the bands on my braces was indeed the most (in fact, only) fun thing about braces. (Well, other than the eventual outcome, which is that I can actually chew my food.) Sounds like you’re going to get all the same fun stuff I did (I also had headgear at one point)–hopefully it hurts a lot less for adults than it does for kids. (Or at least we have better pain tolerances now… plus the ability to drink. :D)
It’s absolutely different. I’d say it would be more like being a person who looks 10 years younger than your actual age, and posting photos that reflect that, while not bothering to specify when you were born. You wouldn’t be posting deliberately inaccurate and misleading photos–you just happen to have braces that don’t show up in them.
I don’t think it’s that they’re a turnoff so much as the same person can look noticeably different (better or worse) with or without them, especially depending on the style of the glasses in relation to the person’s face. Same thing goes for hair styles and colors, hair length, facial hair, etc.
My general rule is that maximum attractive hair length is directly proportionate to the surface area of the hair a guy has left: the more you’re balding, the shorter your hair should be. Like **Mauvaise **says, nobody’s fooled by combovers; they just look like ass *and *scream that you’re self-conscious about your hair loss. I’ve dated more than one guy who got to the point where he just said “fuck it” and shaved the rest off, and I can tell you it looks pretty damn hot. (Plus: fun to rub.)
Hahaha! That would be funny too, but I already get enough sketchy one-liner from OKC; I don’t want to encourage the pervs. 
Apparently my orthodontist figured that out, which is why he keeps plenty of different colors around even though he uses brackets that don’t need them. I don’t care that I’m 41 - I want to wear orange & black bands for Halloween, and red & green for Christmas, and purple just because it’s my favorite color, etc.
From the reading I’ve been doing, it’s not any less painful for an adult. But yes, the ability to self-medicate may help. I’m just glad I don’t have to wear headgear, because I would not leave the house with it on and I can’t afford not to work.
Ok, then after the install, I’ll work on getting at least one decent picture of me smiling in braces, even if they don’t really show up. I may add a comment (maybe even steal Sick Ants direct quote) about having them somewhere in my profile. My only concern is apparently there are brace fetishes… seriously?! :eek:
I don’t think it’s that they’re a turnoff so much as the same person can look noticeably different (better or worse) with or without them, especially depending on the style of the glasses in relation to the person’s face. Same thing goes for hair styles and colors, hair length, facial hair, etc.
Damn straight!
Mine was in fourth grade. I wore it religiously except when eating or at dance practice, with the bonus that I finished with the horrible thing *months *ahead of schedule. At least with kids it’s more common to see; I can’t imagine how much it would suck as an adult.
Rule 34.
There’s a fetish for everything?
I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised. I remember when a friend’s father was first discovering the internet a few years back (he’s blind and old, so that’s why he came late) and we were talking about what a magical place the internet is. He commented on all the amazing things he kept finding.
I told him the internet has two rules:
- You can find anything on the internet
and
- It all leads to porn.