The Other Shoe is dead.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I’m crying for you. I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what you’re going through.

102

I am so sorry to hear the news. My prayers are with you.

103

(((purplehorseshoe))) :frowning: You will be in my thoughts.

104

Wow, this post was a punch in the gut. About the most heart-wrenching of a death announcement I’ve ever seen on the Dope.

You have my condolences.

105

Oh, what a shock it was to see this thread. I’m so very sorry.

RIP Johnny.

106

I’m so sorry purplehoreseshoe. It is such a shock. It sounds like his priority at the end was just time at home and with you. Having faced death before, I can say that suddenly having “normal” days, and being as small a burden as possible in my passing were the most important things to me. (I got lucky, danger passed decades ago.) If he’d shared the news, he would have had to face constant visits and intrusions of other people’s feelings. His priority was time at home with you, so he kept his secret and let you go on to work because he knew you’d need that resource when he was gone. While the secrecy may look baffling, it’s probably just an indication of his love for you and the home that you shared.

Others have already assured you that the numbness is normal. The stages of grief come with different intervals and intensity for everybody, and the best you can do is to keep putting one foot in front of the other and protect your boundaries as you see fit. It sounds like you are already doing a great job of that.

We are always here, and more than willing to listen or help. Please let us know when he feelings of being overwhelmed come, or nay time you need to vent.

{{{{{{purplehorseshoe}}}}}}

107

So sorry to hear this, I had so hoped he was getting better

I wish I could reach out and give you a hug, hold on and vent at us

My sincere condolences

Capt

108

I’m so very, very, very sorry - you’re in my thoughts and heart.

109

Oh no! Our thoughts are with you.

I opened the Dope and saw the title in the index and had a second or two of doomed wild hope that there was something – anything – else this thread could be about. I’m so sorry.

110

I’m so sorry.

111

I’m so so sorry to hear that. Please keep coming here for support - the nice things about message boards is that when it gets to be too much we don’t get offended when you shut off the computer for some space.

You did everything you could and more - there is nothing to blame yourself for.

112

I’m sorry for your loss,

113

… thinking, ‘Wait. Mr. Shoe, who was in the hospital and finally recovered?’ Having just gotten out of bed, too groggy to realise I’d gotten up too early, it didn’t make any sense.

My condolences to you, purplehorseshoe.

114

I am so so sorry for your loss.

115

I am so very sorry to hear it. Your posts brought tears to my eyes. I’ll be thinking of you. Don’t blame yourself.

116

Sincere condolences. You are both in my thoughts.

117

I am so sorry for your loss. please, please take care of yourself. :frowning:

118

Oh, no. I’m so sorry to hear not only of his passing, but that you were both struggling more than anyone really realized. My heart goes out to you. Please lean on us, and know that if there’s anything that you need, all you need to do is ask.

119

My deepest condolences on your loss <3

120

So sorry to hear about this. I am another who lurked in the previous threads.