So, a month or so ago I signed up for OkCupid. Pretty much a waste of time except I got a lovely response from a woman in Canada, but she lives like 2,000 miles away. We traded messages and joked around a bit and had some fun. We have a tonne in common.
The thing is, we then traded phone numbers, and started sending a few texts here and there. I have yet to speak with her but we have traded enough personal information that I know this is legitimate. We get along famously.
We have traded pictures with one another; nothing untoward. She is quite pretty, and I assume she finds me attractive also. But we have our independent lives 2,000 miles apart and that is tough to deal with.
We like the same food, we are compatible with music tastes, we share the same beliefs on all major topics including religion, in which we’re of the agnostic/atheist viewpoint.
She’s a wonderful lady, and to be honest we have, by text and email had some rather erotic exchanges to the point of “happy ending.” We communicate daily now. Sometimes dozens and dozens of text messages. We are both wondering what to make of all this as we are really compatible and are spiraling into something that doesn’t seem sustainable, given the geographic divide.
This is unlike me. And by the sounds of it it’s unlike her. I’m 51 and separated for a year, and she’s 43 and divorced. So, now I find myself wondering what to do about all this. She seems unlikely to give up her career and move to my location, and vice versa. There’s no easy answer to this so maybe I’m just rambling.
Anyone else go through this? We have communicated, and if our personal situations were different it would be a no brainer to get together, but alas I have kids from my marriage here, and she has a life there. Woe is me, I know.