So, the PUA movement is a scam. I feel like I’m saying Ms. Cleo can’t tell you your future if you call her now. I mean, this is so outdated. The only reason I’m bringing it up is because it came up in another thread and I was taken to task by a poster for not believing that the scientific community smiles on these pick-up artist shenanigans. And I really didn’t want to hijack that thread.
Now, look…if they were to say to young socially retarded men, 'Hey, if you just start talking to girls and practicing being more social, you will see more success." I would be cool with that and not regard it as a scam.
But when they pretend that it is their techniques and tricks that get the pussy, well, that is where the scam comes in. They are just trying to get your money for their books and t.v. shows and DVDs or whatever.
That stuff aint gonna work for shy awkward Poindexter. If he tries those techniques on hot women in a bar, he is going to look crazy as hell. He is never going to turn into the kind of smooth playa that the scam artists are promising him. He will eventually get better at getting dates through sheer practice and increased opportunity, but that isn’t what the PUA sold him, so it’s still scammy, sammy.
Let’s take one of the favorite techniques…negging. Or whatever name they gave the back-handed compliment. That actually WORKS. Yes, that works, lots of times, on lots of different women…not just dumb women, and it works on men too. You know how I know this works? Because it is something I did all the time as a saleswoman. But it worked when I did it. It didn’t work when my co-workers tried. You know why? Because a lot of my coworkers didn’t have the charm to pull it off, and I couldn’t teach it.
Know what’s interesting? I could teach them to get their numbers up. I taught them that by telling them to take the calls they were dodging and to ASK FOR THE SALE. You would be surprised how many salesmen weren’t doing that. But, I could NOT teach them the charm and style that it took to pull off stuff like negging the customer. If they tried that, it was a disaster for them…they ended up looking silly. Just like guys who try that crap at the bar look.
It works for the guys who already have that inborn je ne sais quoi.
Every thread we have ever had on this topic seemed to focus on the objectification of women with this movement, but the men are the true victims if you ask me. They are being exploited with what amounts to a load of pseudoscience that appears to be based in EP.
Again, I realize this topic may be dated, but I get the feeling there are a few stragglers out there, still paying for seminars and books. Stop it. It’s junk.