While watching King of the Hill a couple of times I noticed that one of Hank Hill’s co-workers called pretty much everybody “honey”.
That reminds me that when I lived in Bakersfield there were several men who did the same. They were southerners, I think, but I’m not sure exactly where they were from. Could have been Texas. Everything else on that show about Texans is authentic. 
Is this usage common in your neck of the woods?
If so, I’m cool with that. 
Peace,
mangeorge
When I was accepted into female society as a woman, I found the socialization usually included adding little endearments liberally as tags after phrases, dear. I loved the woman-to-woman bonding. It was a pleasant habit to pick up. For a while I got so into the habit, dahling, that once I said “honey” to a butch, just in a friendly way.
Whoops.
She told me in no uncertain terms, “I am not your ‘honey’. I am not anyone’s ‘honey’.”
Now I listen more carefully to the tone used in a given conversation to have a more accurate feel for the sociolinguistic register that’s appropriate to the situation.
In Australia, a lot of older people will call another stranger ‘love’, typically over a retail transacton (from either side). Men do it to women and girls, and women do it to anybody. When I was a kid, I swore I’d never do it, but now in my middle thirties, I do it sometimes. I live in a very multicultural city, but this does remain a white thing, I think. And yes, it’s casual. You’d hear it in a suburban hamburger shop rather than in a BMW dealership.
‘Honey’ can be used, but isn’t much. It’s a bit too intimate. I do notice some Australian message board users picking up the American ‘hon’.
Ditto in Yorkshire, England.
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Moved.
samclem Moderator, General Questions
But this is men using the term with other men. Usually, I think, with familiars.
Women everywhere, as far as I know, use such terms casualy.
‘Honey’ is throughout the South - it used to be more prevalent.
Jimmy Carter got in trouble in the first couple of months of his presidency when he addressed a reporter as “honey.”
In my circles, we use “babe” to address close platonic female friends.
Actually, samclem, I did post a question. No opinions called for. To wit;
So, Is it?
mangeorge
Same here in South Berkeley.
But we almost simulposted. I’m looking for male-male non sexual usage.
Babe, baby, sweetie, sweetheart, sweetie pie, love, honey, hon, dear, darling, girl, girlfriend, sugar, sugarcakes, honeycakes
and my favorite, only for the special people I really really care about…
cinnamon buns
Are you saying that men were calling other men honey?
Nope. Never heard of that. Around here, it’s ‘mate’ or nothing.
I’ve been called baby by guys and I’ve called guys baby. I’ve never heard guys calling each other honey, though.
I’ve never heard men calling other men honey in a platonic, non-ironic way.
Teenage girls tend to use pet names for their peers. (I don’t, unless I don’t remember their actual name.) or for children (I do.)
Grown women do too, but it tends to be more “sweetie” and “honey” than “babe.” and it tends to be directed more toward either younger women or the elderly and not so much toward peers or people ten years older or whatever
I’ve heard men call girls and younger women “honey” or 'hon" just as a sort of, “ma’am who is younger than me” address, “sweetie” either as a familiar address or in a sort of ironically condescending way, and “baby” if they want something from you (be it a date or a quarter.)
teenage boys use it platonically for female friends. Not as much for acquaintances, and certainly not platonically for other boys.
One of the Aussie (male) Doctors I’ve worked with calls every single male “tiger” and every female “darl”- no matter their age, or whether “tiger” or “darl” seem remotely applicable.
I had a biker friend who used to call me “doll.” I liked that one. I use all of 'em, but not until I get a vibe that it’s ok.
I know a doctor from Kentucky who calls everyone “babe” or “babes.” Men, women, doesn’t matter.
Thanksgiving: “Get yourself some more of that turkey, babes.”
I’ve been called honey, dear, babe, sweetie, etc. My only request is that if you want to use such terms with me, be at least as old as I am. There’s something weird about being called ‘hon’ by a 16-year-old girl. Otherwise I’m pretty cool with it.
Sorry for the double, but while I don’t use such terms myself, where I grew up there is one which is common–‘son’. Everyone called everyone else ‘son’. Male, female, old, young, doesn’t matter. You’re ‘son’. Or occasionally ‘sonny-bub’.
I was really hoping to find out whether Platonic honey was amorphous or hexagonal.
The only example I know of male-male “honey” is in the novel At Play in the Fields of the Lord by Peter Matthiessen. A man’s little boy gets sick, and when he notices this he says “You wet your bed, honey.” I noticed how unusual it seemed when used from one male to another, and I thought it must have been because a sick child gets extra endearment and tenderness. That line was included in the movie too.