I’ve noticed a behavior (okay, sample set = 2) and I’m wondering if it’s a full blown behavior or just my personal group of friends. Forgive me if this isn’t completely clear, I’m not developing it into a thesis or anything.
It seems to be an equivalent to the Male Mid-life crisis only for women and is characterized thusly:
- one (or more) children at 2 - 4 years of age
- Depressive state due to loss of freedom, money, appearance, low self-esteem, etc.
Which leads to the following:
- Marital stress
- a wandering eye
- lots of things in an attempt to ‘fill a hole in your life’ - largely unsuccessful.
(for the sake of arguement, lets assume there are no other dysfunctions, alcoholism, abuse, etc.)
It’s as if the built up stresses of marriage, aging, loss of freedom, make the woman lash out, the end result being a big marital conflict. Near as I can tell the likelihood of the marriage staying or dissolving is about 50%.
Please note: THIS IS NOT TO SAY THE HUSBAND DOESN’T PLAY A PART IN THE PROBLEM. He’s just one of many factors and may or may not play a role in the solution.
I dunno if it’s a seven year itch thing, or a life period people go through. Let’s face it: When you’re young, you can go anywhere and do anything you want, there’s a social set you hang out with, theres the excitement of dating, there’s the feeling you can accomplish anything. That’s replaced with a lack of adult interaction, diapers, the physical ravages of pregnancy, the loss of income that comes from buying kid furniture and not being able to work 50 hours a week on a career.
I’m just wondering if it’s a syndrome or not.