I’ll get the the question about opinions in a second. Some background is needed for this. I recently became single, I had dated this woman/girl for three years, broke up for three (she left me, had to find herself or something) and then got back together for a year. This time, I left her. She was a live in girlfriend, with me.
I started to get annoyed at certain behaviors, she was really messy, to the point i would have to do some mild cleaning every day, sometimes twice (sweeping, mopping, she spilled stuff daily, left fridge door open (forgot to close it), walks into the apartment with rain on her shoes after I just cleaned. Now I could deal with that but then she kept badgering me about my sleeping schedule, I like to stay up late and sleep in, I work nights. She also works nights, but she likes to get up early. My sleep habit has been this way for about 10 years, works just fine for me. She constantly would bring up how I don’t show feelings very much, I don’t like talking about the future (stuff that is years away, kids etc.) how because I have a low sexual desire she feels unattractive (sex is not the most important thing to me). Besides all of those annoyances, she would talk about guys her hit on her and how it bothered her (she works at a sports bar), I would tell her to quit, not to worry about it. But she stays and would complain all the time. Then she would complain about anything and everything, multiple times a day, about stuff that makes her unhappy (in general, not with me) then we would fight and she would say things like she thinks I’m a dick, I haven’t done anything with myself (decent job, one class away from my degree). It Got to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore, and I feel as if I fell out of love with her, so I broke up with her and I even packed up her stuff and dropped it off. Now she won’t stop texting me and my family talking about how much she loves me, I told her how I feel and that I need to be alone and carry on my life without anyone else, with no holds barred, no constraint and focus on myself. She will not stop texting and it is making me feel guilt.
Sorry about the long background, on to the question. Dopers, in your humble opinions, did I make the incorrect choice or is she just trying to make me feel bad because she is still in love with me?
I already feel great living alone, doing what I want, when I want, It feels WONDERFUL! I’m sure pangs of lonliness will come in time for myself, but I’ll deal with it, the benefits outweigh it all.
Were my reasons legitimate? How would you dopers had handled this situation? I tried talking about it, didn’t change it, so it built to the point I couldn’t take it anymore.
Thanks. Looking forward to the responses.