returns smile
I’m pleased to meet you MissTake. You have a lovely smile. I hope I can see more of it as the day continues.
I really wouldn’t worry if I were you about making a good first impression or how to make the first move. You’re much better than you give yourself credit for.
But if you are indeed looking for the Underwater Basketweaving class, it’s down the hall, second door on the left. But since you just got here, why don’t make yourself comfortable. Can I get you anything?
Hmm… this is the hardest part of the whole flirting process… finding out if someone is flirting with you. Some people are much more obvious on that than others. What are some of the things she does when you’re together?
I’ve told you the solution to this. Move down here!
That’s actually not a bad idea…
A) Well, yes and no. I think if you’d gone over and hung all over him, that would have been a bad thing. But to just go up and say hi… that may not have been a bad thing. It would have let him know that you were still interested, but not pushing things too far.
B) I wouldn’t. It could be that he was feeling a little uncomfortable with having you right next to his ex. It could be that he honestly didn’t notice you next to his ex. (I’ve done that before, been looking for someone and found them literally right under my nose… usually, in bars or at Dopefests). Until you have enough information to determine otherwise, don’t think the worst.
C) I don’t think I’d go the “Hey, remember me?” route, but saying hi and starting up a conversation again wouldn’t be a bad thing to do. What do you have to lose, really?
I can understand where that would make it more difficult in the dating world to make the first move. The key is to always read the signs. Most women don’t have a problem with your interest, even if you aren’t interested, as long as you don’t keep it up when they show they aren’t interested. That’s what turns you into “jerk”, “perv” or “stalker”. If you start off as just being friendly, that’s the best way. Start a conversation. And if it’s misconstrued, you can always fall back on saying that you were just being friendly. As I said, you just have to keep an eye on the signs they are giving you when you decide whether to proceed or not.
nice smile and a small laugh Yeah, I like stuff. A lot of stuff. And I’m doing pretty good. How are you doing? bites lip with a smile
I don’t remember you flunking out. I don’t remember ANYONE flunking out. But, yeah, it’ll be two years in April since the thread was started. Are you back for the refresher course?
I’d have to say no on that one. Definitely not. Especially not with Doper Wimmins. We can hold out own, and you might just find a surprise once you get us back to the cave.
Damn, you WERE paying attention on Sunday! If you’d said this then, Verrain there or not, I would have been blushing to my toes!
God, I love guest profs! 
Oh, I dunno… peanut butter is a pretty good word in my book… 
Ah, another natural flirt! I’m the same way. The best way, I’ve found, to work through this is to be honest and upfront with people. I’m engaged, but I flirt. I make it known to everyone that I’m very HAPPY in my marriage-to-be, so they realize that any unintentional flirts that come from me are just me being me. It’s a lot more difficult when you don’t know the people that you end up flirting with, I admit. However, if you find that people DO get the wrong idea, the best thing I can say is that you need to correct the wrong impression as soon as possible. It saves hurt in the long run.
Oh, definitely a double entendre. Those are some of my favorite things to look for. They’re so much… fun.
As for other things you might enjoy… feel free to explore and find out. There’s a lot to me, and it’s hard to know what might interest you most.
And it looks like you and MissTake are in good hands with one another. You’re off to a really good start!
That’s happened to me more times than I can count. You can’t let one failure get you down. You just have to keep trying. Seriously. I can give you links of times where I’d started flirting with someone, and then they either dropped me like a hot potato or I killed the thread or… who knows what else happened. So, really, don’t take what happened personally. Chances are, no one else saw it as bad as you did.
Oh, I dunno. There are some good flirters on the Board. UncleBill, back in his day, lindyhopper… they’re both very suave flirters. They know how to make women feel pretty special.
I’ve never been really good at pointing out role models, other than people I know personally, so let me hit the mindset. First, you have to realize that flirting is FUN. That’s the most important thing. Flirting with someone isn’t a life or death situation. Something may come out of it, something may not. You never know. Try to be yourself, but don’t think about what “being yourself” is too hard. That’s when you start to freeze up. Flirting is also different for everyone. If you can think of a good double entendre, those work wonders around here. It gives someone something to play off of.
I’ll probably think of more advice as this thread goes along.
This is excellent advice. It may take awhile to find what the right balance of enough/not enough detail is, but once you do, you hang on to that for life.
Remember, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. There are always people out there waiting for your own special brand of flirting.
Dang!
Um, she smiles a lot, but then she’s a smily person. All I can tell is we both seem pretty comfortable just sitting and chatting about anything, alone or with friends.
Oh, and she hugged me goodbye the first time, but then she was a bit down and a little drunk at the time… (she also said I’m sweet)
She’s quite a tomboy (but a cute one ) and doesn’t seem to be an obvious flirt at all, though.
But then I could be completely wrong. I usually am.
Sorry I can’t be more specific, I’m fluent in five languages but none of them are body language.
BLUSH
Really, I DO blush extremely easily
Why, thank you, Bish.
And no, I was looking for the flirting class. I tried the underwater basketweaving last semester, but I could not hold my breath that long.
Just point me to the sodas-- shall I get one for you also? It would be my pleasure.
Puts her hand on Bish’s shoulder as she stand up, smiles at him again…
GGGGGGAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
SORRY ABOUT THAT!
BLUSHES WILDLY AND RUNS AWAY!
Perhaps “flunk” was the wrong word; call it an “incomplete”.
wonders whether to be insulted or flattered. Decides on flattered. Gets up to look around.
Miss? It’s okay. Really. I’m new at this too. Usually I would be in the same underwater basketweaving class since it’s easier to avoid people and conversation under water. But this sounded like so much more fun. And I am having fun too. I’m also nervous, but still having fun. So, why don’t you come on out of the coat closet and we’ll try this again. Don’t make me come in there after you.
(did I really just say that? :smack: )
I’ll go grab you a soda, and I’ll wait over here by . . . whatever sort of thing we wait by in here. I promise to be more entertaining than the coats when you decide to come out.
Explore you? Don’t mind if I do.
I’m catching on I think. And I must say it is due to your excellent skills as a teacher. You deserve so much more than just a mere apple. Can I stay after class and slap the erasers together? 
I could tell that you were a woman of depth and not just some frivolous tart by your easy confidence. You’re controlling this rambuncious class of social novices with grace. That I find to be extremely interesting. Kudos and thanks to you. Have you always been the easy going around people, or was it something you had to work at and learn?
Professor, I don’t feel I’m in need of your services, but would it be possible for me to be…well, a guest lecturer?
If you need a refresher on my flirting credentials, I’ll be glad to conference with you…or with any DoperChick, actually.
:eek: <furious blushing> So… uh… <frantic attempts to think of something>
Uh, well, a lot better now. Uh… <sweat breaks out on brow>
so prof,
what do you think I should do, start a sperate spin-the-bottle thread? or just live live with my 5K1LLZ the way they are now, and hope I don’t accidently seduce an Australian.
smiles and starts doing some finite to pass the time