Dont you dare do that. Theres plenty of good men out there (me included…haha). I feel bitter as well but thats only because of a recent thrashing by a girl who decided she wanted to dump me for my best friend. Eh, life. But at least Im free to find the right person. This in on itself calms my bitterness. Its hard for me to fall in love and theres nothing wrong with that. I know that the right girl will come along and crack my shell and everything will feel right. What we dont need is you giving up. We cant have anyone giving up or we may miss an opportunity. Hope this helps. Actually I hope it makes sense because exhausted.
I think being single is fantastic.
I got out of a 3 year on-again-off-again relationship that was, in retrospect, horribly suffocating. The freedom that came with singlehood was so fantastically marvelous to me. I took pleasure in the little things, like knowing that I wasn’t going to be scolded for not taking out the trash, or for not sorting my mail the second I took it out of the mailbox. I let hy house get dirty and I didn’t have her there to yell at me about it. I went out with my friends and stayed out late without worrying about the guilt trip that would come when I got home.
I had all this free time I didn’t know what to do with. I started exercising again and got into good shape and lost a bunch of weight. I strengthened my friendships with my buddies who I had sort of drifted away from when I was in a relationship. Things were marvelous and fantastic.
That almost-year of singlehood was the single greatest thing for myself and came at the perfect time. There was a virtue in singlehood for me, but it looks like I had a completely different outlook than you do. You’re not even trying to see a positive.
And now, I’m dating one of my best friends. I’m taking the lessons I learned from my failed relationship, and the lessons I learned while single, and I’m making this the best relationship of my life. Without the break-up and the singlehood that followed, I wouldn’t be in this healthier and better relationship.
Singlehood is great. I’m glad I enjoyed it while I did, because if this relationship keeps going the way it’s going so far, it’ll be a long, long time before I’m single again.
Sorry you are feeling low about being alone QuickSilver. 
However, I recommend that you wait until you are comfortable with it to find someone new. Otherwise you may settle for someone who is wrong for you simply so that you will no longer be alone.
For myself, I’m used to being alone. Some days I’m lonely, some days I’m glad to be alone. The days are almost split down the middle.
Sending supporting thoughts your way! 
Me [to girlfriend]: I’m so lucky. If I wasn’t with you, I’d probably be drinking too much, staying out late, picking up skanks in bars and getting into all kinds of trouble. I’d have nothing to do but sit around watching TV and eating take out every night.
Friend [to me]: What are you up to?
Me: Not much. Girlfriends out of town so I don’t have to do shit but watch TV all day and eat takeout.
Friend: Sweet!! Do you want to go out drinking tonight? I know this place where we can meet some girls and probably get into all kinds of trouble!
Me: YEAH!!! 
Holy crap, Quicksilver…enjoy being single!!! I loved it…never having to make dinner if I didn’t want to, I could turn the stereo up (AC/DC or Trans Siberia preferred) full blast, sit in the bathtub with a bottle of wine all night long, walk up to the nearest pub and have dinner and a pint (or two) with a very expensive, over the top, lots of stuff I’d never do or wear magazine. just because I could!
Take some time to do the things you enjoy…betcha meet someone doing the same thing!
Cheers!!! (that’ll be three olives in the martini, thanks!) 
I feel sorry for your girlfriend.
Sorry-that should have been I feel sorry for msmith537’s girlfriend.
Touche twickster.
Oh, it’s not all bad. I’m probably making it sound worse than it seems. I do enjoy my own company much of the time. This is more of an exercise in trying to understand something that seems so obvious to so many people but quite frankly has always puzzled me.
Ah. But you know you will be single again. Interesting.
Yeah, that’s about my ratio.
Well, I guess I’m a freak, because I love being single.
In fact, I find the notion of starting any sort of romantic relationship right now vaguely repellant.
Go figure.
I’m just kidding about the pickup up girls in a bar. Other than that, I guess you just have a problem with good-looking, funny guys with decent jobs and active social lives.
The point is that it’s nice to be able to do what you want when you want without someone nagging you to pick up after yourself or for coming in late.
msmith537-sorry, didn’t realize you were joking. And yes, that’s one of the reasons I like being single. I get to selfishly do what I want and no one says anything. I enjoy my singleness, mostly. Being with someone can be wonderful, but when it turns to the not-so-great side, life can really suck. When you care greatly for another person they have enormous power to make you miserable.
Were you also joking about being good-looking?
No problem, that’s what I’m here for: a comic slap-in-the-face from reality.
I say we start getting together in some sort of Singles Support Group or something. We meet at the bar at 5:30 daily.
Tripler
Now that’s my kind of support!
Great! I’ll go from feeling needy to needing detox.
Hey it’s the Internet. As far as you know I’m Brad Pitt.
I do have a live-in girlfriend though. The thing about me though is that I really don’t need a girlfriend (although I like the one I have most of the time). I would be perfectly content to live in Manhattan, have my network of friends and drinking buddies and just occassionally date random girls I never plan to get serious with like every other miserable New York single in their 20s-40s. What sucks is when you have no one to hang out with and have to do everything by yourself.
Put me in the love being single camp along with alice, Priceguy and the others who have posted here. I have previously been married and at the time I enjoyed the experience but on finding myself single again, embraced it wholeheartedly. I have never understood the desperate need most people have for a partner. But then I don’t have the need for company in general so it’s probably much easier for some of us to be on our own than it is for others.
I know many people both men and women around my age who are on their own and are quite content with the situation, so it is not ingrained in all of us to be part of a couple as trublmakr suggested.
What I’ve never understood is people who are completely happy being single thinking that those of us who find no great joy in being single feel that way because we “need” a partner. Desperately, even (:rolleyes:, btw). When did “want” and “need” become synonyms? Why is it ok to want to be single, but not ok to not want to be? I don’t need anyone; I want someone. It doesn’t mean that I’m unhappy, or unable to be by myself, if just means that I think I could be even happier with someone.
If I’ve overreacted to your statement, I apologize: I just get sick and tired of hearing things like “I have never understood the desperate need most people have for a partner” in response to situations where all anyone has said is that they see nothing particularly noble or great about being single. There’s nothing particularly noble or great about not being single, either, but it’s gotten to the point where someone like me – a female in her 30s who lives alone – automatically gets written off as “needy” if I dare to admit that, all other things being equal, I’d rather not be single.
Grr.
I think everyone should watch Chriss Rocks HBO special. He goes on for an hour about relationships and marriage and whatnot.
Basically, you are either in a relationship and bored or single and lonely. When you’re in a relationship, you want to kill your partner. When your single, you want to kill yourself. Well…better her than me.