First, yes my name is from the Metallica song. My beloved is mlc, here on the boards, for misery loves company.
Second, I don’t mind the occasional glances of men. I find it flattering. I just mind when yucky, always on my nerves, open mouth chewer coworkers discuss the fine points of accounting with my tits, nipples hard or not. I was not making a “guys are bad” statement, I was merely letting off some “I really need a day away from this cockwad” steam.
So, for those of you that appreciate a nice set of tits, by all means, enjoy a glance. mlc would also be flattered. Just don’t ogle with half chewed carrots stuck in your teeth day after fucking day.
As for replying to his genitalia, the thought of his penis makes me want to hurl. But not a bad thought for future reference.
Ya know, I feel a bit bad – this whole thread was like a setup. I agree with you totally.
I can just imagine you you in a conference room with a bunch of guys, making an important point, only to realize that they’re all drooling and looking at your breasts (well maybe it’s the way you spin those tassels on the ends… :o sorry, couldn’t resist). Doesn’t matter what you say – it’s lost in the haze of testosterone.
On the other side of the coin, there are certainly people on the other end of the spectrum who… make it difficult to concentrate through actions (and outfits) of their own. They’re deserving of their own rant as well.
Now if you’ll excuse me that image of tassels spinning has distracted me too much, and I’ve lost my train of thought…
This month’s Maxim magazine states that a 6 degree drop in temperature at the office is generally enough to…er…bring the gals to attention, as it were. Anyone work in an office with a thermostat who cares to try and prove the thoery?
I have to confess - I’m a complete dork. When I saw the thread title, my first thought was pipe fittings. Brass nipples. Yeah, that explains my social life.
Weirddave - six degree drop from what? I’d think nipple erections are affected more by absolute temperature than changes thereof.
Speaking as a guy, I don’t understand “staring is sexual harassment.” I try not to stare, but I admit that on occasion I’ve checked out a female, and such. What I don’t understand is how my using my eye muscles to move my pupils in a certain spot is suddenly a crime with serious repercussions. Sure, you shouldn’t have to deal with this on a regular basis in a perfect, and the guy is pretty low browed, but just don’t give him something to stare at and everything will be fine.
As for the - change how you dress - argument… I am generally a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl. I don’t walk around waiting for guys to notice my tits, and then complain about it. As I said before, I don’t really mind people noticing.
And I don’t think that this coworker of mine is guilty of sexual harrasment just because he stares at my tits. He has never made a comment about them. It’s just that having had noticeable breasts since 5th grade, I miss eye contact. If the eyes are the window to the soul, Cockwad coworker has never given me the chance to see his soul, because his eyes never make contact with mine. I think his major problem is that he has no internal sensor that tells him that it is not appropriate to constantly direct his attention to my tits.
I agree with the posters who say to call the guy on it. Just say, “My face is up here, buddy.” Maybe you could embarass him into proper behavior.
Ever get a chance to meet his wife? You could ask her, “Does he stare at your chest when he talks to you? He always stares at my chest when he talks to me.” That might help.
To the guys: We had two signals -
“Headlights are on high beam”
“Is it just me, or is it the air conditioning?”
Well, I can hardly blame the guy for looking, as they are very nice breasts, IIRC. But I think I agree with the suggestion that the next time you catch him doing it, just come out and ask him to stop. That level of embarassment should be sufficient deterrent. If it isn’t, then maybe you should mention a sexual harrasment claim. Technically, it does qualify, even if it is way out on the edge of realistic in a lot of places. Just my $0.02.
Ya know, I tried to ignore this post. But I just can’t do it.
Why not go one further? Why not invite the “open mouth chewer” to her appartment one night. Then she could seduce him, have sex with him, (I know it sounds gross, but stick with me here,) and then, after he leaves, call the cops and accuse him of raping her. I bet that would solve her problem. Show him for looking in her general direction!
In my mind, women who use accusations of sexual harrasment in order to hurt someone are no better than those who would cry rape.
So the guy aimed his eyes at her breasts. He should lose his fucking job for it? SHAKES, you aren’t evil. You are stupid.
But I think I agree with the suggestion that the next time you catch him doing it, just come out and ask him to stop. That level of embarassment should be sufficient deterrent. If it isn’t, then maybe you should mention a sexual harrasment claim. Technically, it does qualify, even if it is way out on the edge of realistic in a lot of places. Just my $0.02.