Ahhh, I think the reason for wolfman’s sensitivity on this subject is starting to be revealed here.
Wolfman, did you have to wear your big sister’s dress to school?
Sure, throwing away clothes is stupid. However, not all clothes are suitable for the workplace. When clothes get too worn or stained for the job, you wear them to garden or paint or do other messy chores.
I never got bullied for wearing hand-me-downs. Got bullied for other reasons, but not that. My mother had a friend who had daughters who were a couple of years older than I was, and I grew up in hand-me-downs.
If you gaze into the pit of judgmental douchebags, the pit of judgmental douchebags will gaze into you.
And I’m calling the period police.
Oh my God, not them!! They are always so damn cranky!! Sometimes even for a week or so BEFORE you call them.
By tossing a pen in your wash?
My head’s always been in the clouds, so regular everyday stuff like dressing nice and keeping organized never mattered much to me. I’ve always thought society’s emphasis on appearances is overrated. That being said, growing up I’ve found people give me more respect when I dress nice, and while I’ve never really cared what people thought of me either, these days I like to go through my days without getting stares or people telling me I have a stain in all the shirts I’ve been wearing. If you could afford it, I’d buy new clothes for work just so you can get along with your day without stupid stares, people telling you that dude you have these stains…I’d find that annoying myself. If you really don’t care though and you’re not going to be fired (I dunno if u can know that for sure though, particularly in this economy…but you’d know better than me, it’s your life), it’s up to you, your life.
FWIW I agree with you though that a lot of dopers are exceedingly cynical. I’ve learned that if I’m having a problem that is of my own making or I’ve run into some bad luck (see here and here) to not post about it anymore, even if I admit my own faults in the OP. People will just look to tell you how wrong and awful you are, and who needs that? They say it’s the “truth.” Well, in middle school I thought the truth was the only thing that mattered too, but now that I’m 26 years old, I’ve learned about something called “manners;” IMHO if you’re giving somebody advice, you try to relate to the person and give them your opinion, not shame them with angry rhetoric. Some dopers just seem hellbent on upsetting others. It’s sad for them, but screw that, life’s too short to worry about random shmoes on the Internet,
On the other hand, if you post a thread on the internet (or even pose a question in real life) asking people for an opinion, it’s kind of stupid to be surprised if you get opinions that are not like yours.
Bad phrasing. Before somebody looks to point this out, yes, I had bad luck at the post office yesterday and pitted the post office.
What I meant here wasn’t “bad luck” per se, but if I’m having having an issue which others would realistically think was entirely my fault because it happens abnormally often, and I might well have done something wrong, but it really isn’t entirely my fault.
That’s true, but fwiw I’ve noticed sometimes here you’ll ask a question, and people will instead of answering the question just look to make a person feel bad.
This has not been my experience here. However, I have noticed that if someone asks for advice and then expresses displeasure when it is given, then what you describe will often happen. As in the original thread.
If this is true (not sure because I mostly chill in GQ), that’s more an Internet thing than an SMDB thing.
I dunno. I recently joined Reddit, and while trying to understand the site, I checked out their subreddits dedicated to venting. I haven’t posted in any of them, but they seemed more empathetic to me.
It’s cool, I’ve learned SDMB is clearly not about empathy, it’s about people swapping facts and opinions. That’s fine. And personally, I received some good advice here. But I’ve just found some regulars to be overly cold in the tone of their replies to those who ask for opinions or advice and like I said, sometimes just look to sneer about how awful the OP is.
Pretty much exactly. Because you’re wrong, and you’re stupid, about wearing stained clothes to work. And also because no one at all has advocated bullying kids wearing hand-me-downs–hell, I wore hand-me-downs, but surprise surprise mine were always clean and patched, because my family is not a bunch of mountain lions or social incompetents with a chip on their shoulder.
I wholehearedly agree with this.
Interesting, because Reddit is pretty famous for being exactly the opposite, except on the rare occasions that they rally around a given user. I never spent a lot of time there, so I only speak from reputation!
“Beware of any enterprise that requires new clothes.” - Henry David Thoreau
No one said to throw them away. They just said not to wear them to work. As for your second point, I have no comment, as it seems completely irrelevant.
But I agree with you. Who cares if they have stains. Wear them anyways. If anybody says anything, well they’re a hypocritical douchebag. But if they do, you better not say, “Oh yeah I stained them by accident in the wash.” You better come out and tell them the truth, that you don’t care and that you think they’re a hypocritical douchebag for even mentioning it.
Or you could just buy some new clothes.
I can understand wolfman’s frustration. I was quite surprised when I read the replies in his other thread. Apparently, even intellectuals can be shallow and petty.
Fire an employee over inked clothes? Seriously? Getting worked up over someone else’s clothes like a bunch of 14-years-old schoolgirls? Grow up already.
What “frustration”, Apollon? wolfman asks for opinions, and gets them. Can’t see much “frustration” there - except that nobody awarded him a badge of honour for going to work dressed like a 14-year-old schoolgirl after her first ink splatter class.
And I think your “grow up already” comment is rather misdirected. Justify wearing stained clothes to your full time place of work? Grow up already! When nobody agrees with your asinine reasoning, they’re all wankers and douchebags? Grow up already!