If I could take back the “official” thing, I totally would. By “official,” I guess I meant “recognized around the world.” Obviously, that answer did not exist. I’m a relatively smart person, and one of the reasons I was so bummed by some of the reactions I got to the original post is that I felt people were implying that I was dumb for even thinking there could be something “official.”
SirGalahad, I appreciate your gallantry (and general non-dickishness). I roll my eyes at those folks who are giving you a hard time for being nice. No one’s asking YOU to be nice, *snarky posters. But if someone DOES want to be nice, why do you have to give them a hard time for it?
*Apparantly I have my own definition of “snarky” (and “mean” too). No skin off my back if it doesn’t match up with yours.
And Loach, darling, I wasn’t “pouty because there was no official answer.” I have no idea where you got that from. I was pouty because I felt like people were being dickish to me (again, my own definition of “dickish” certainly differs from yours, and that’s OK).
By post 6 you had to clarify. You clarified by asking what the official answer was. Even by then it was obvious there was no universal answer. By then out of the 4 posts that were not yours you had 3 factual answers and one abrupt but not mean questioning of your meaning.
Two more joke answers followed but they were just chuckles not insults towards you. Then post 9 TB asks how you could think something like that would be official. Perfectly reasonable you reply with: “Wow, I was expecting straighter answers from General Questions.” Call it pouty or butthurt or maybe just an overreaction. You didn’t get the answer you liked so you stomped your feet there and here. 10 posts, 3 by you, 3 factual answers, 2 jokes not pointed at you and two comments on your confusing question.
See above. The overreaction came long before the snark.
By “Wow, I was expecting straighter answers from General Questions”, I meant that I was not expecting snark. It was totally OK in my eyes for people to ask me to clarify my question, and I did my best to do that. But I had been under the impression (and am obviously no longer) that GQ was a forum where people just, you know, answered questions. I got some factual responses and some snark. I was expressing my surprise at having gotten any snark at all – again, 'cause I that GQ was that kind of board. I’ve since learned otherwise.
But I’m seriously done with you. I don’t know what dog you have in this fight, but you seem really intent on defending actions and words that hurt my feelings. I don’t care if you don’t think they should have hurt my feelings, or if you thought people were totally justified in hurting my feelings.
Exactly. Before post 10 which you say is a complaint about the snark there was exactly zero snark. There were two mild jokes about the subject and none about about the poster. My dog in this fight is that you are annoying. You don’t get the answer you want the way you want it in the other thread and you whine about it. When your whining doesn’t get the reaction you want you open this thread to whine some more. When everyone doesn’t pat your head like you want you get condescending. Too bad. Pull up your big girl panties and get over yourself. Your thread did not go the way you wanted it to. It’s not a big deal. You are making it one.
Look, this is all too simple. The folks who think you should expect a little condescension with your criticism basically imply they are intellectually superior to you, and it’s your lot in life to put up with them. Also, they can dish it out, but they can’t take it. If you counter-punch every time someone acts like a juvenile boor, they may object, but they have to endure your reaction same as they feel you have to suffer them.
If snark is customarily served with answers, dish out a side of indignance; new menu … same price.
I’m with you, OP. A few times I’ve posted something just as happy as a lark, wanting to share some joy or ask a simple question. I got “Fuck you, hh” from both posters and mods.
Did you (for that matter, did ANYBODY) read post #2 in the thread? I think there were 3 or 4 which could be construed as snark (light to medium weight) by the time OP reposted in #10.
Of course I read #2. It was essentially a request for clarification of what was a nonsensical OP, as admitted by smaje1 herself later on. Maybe for some people, the OP made sense, but for many, it was stunningly obtuse.
Asking “Huh? Are you serious?” is a perfectly valid question to such a strange post. I didn’t detect snark in it, just a “what are you on about here? Is this a serious post, or are you putting us on?”
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