This could be a problem. . .

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Since I moved back to the D.C. area I’ve started contacting old friends here, many of whom I haven’t spoken to in 5 years or more.

Last night welbywife and I met some friends of mine for drinks, a husband and wife, now known as H and W. I really like these people, and we were very good friends for many years before I moved. I went to college with W, met H through her, wound up standing with H at his wedding, and actually saved thier budding relationship at one point by keeping my dick in my pants and telling W not to blow a realtionship because she was mad at H. W and I never discussed it after that night, and it never affected our relationship. She’s smart enough to appreciate good advice, I guess, and knew that it was probably tough for me to tell her to stop and think for a minute.

We lost touch, more because of me than because of them, and we were really happy to see each other again. We picked up where we left off, just like good friends who hadn’t seen each other in a few days instead of a few years.

Problem? welbywife dislikes W, greatly. I think this may have something to do with me relating the story of W wanting to sleep with me, and me refusing. I can find no logical reason for this. I told the story because welbywife mentioned that she thought W was looking at me “longingly,” whatever that means, which I don’t think she was, and asked what our past relationship was. welbywife didn’t express her intense dislike for W until after I related the story. It’s not an amazing story. She was mad, wanted to get laid (H was out of town), and I was available. I said no. End of story.

This is bad. These are my friends. The many stories of times we gave each other support, friendship, and love are too long to go into, but suffice to say that I was happy to stand with H at his wedding, and happy for both of them when they decided to marry. These aren’t friends I intend to avoid for any reason, especially not one that appears to be a little misplaced jealousy.

This SUCKS.

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Why in the hell did you tell weblywife that story?? If there are many stories of support friendship and love why did you tell her the story of the wife wanting to have sex with you? It is almost like you wanted her to be jealous.

You are going to have to give it some time and hope weblywife gets over it. Otherwise the “couple friendship” is going to have to be over.

I am not a jealous person and I trust my husband. But, I wouldn’t want to hang out and be friends with a women I thought wanted to sleep with my husband.

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If Welbywife is the rational sort, and wants to be fair, tell her that you do not want to give up this friendship and agree to only see them as couples, making it impossible for W to put the make on you. That ought to sound reasonable to her.

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I don’t know, I hang out quite comfortably with women who’d been interested in my husband back in college - because that was then. Like in the case welby mentioned, they’re now involved in other relationships, and I’m comfortable with it. I trust my husband and his judgement of them, and now my friendships with them. They just happened to have had good taste in men, but I “won” on that front. :wink: I’d be even less concerned if it was purely a one-time physical thing like in this instance - if the woman had actually been in love with my husband, I’d be a lot worse off.

welby, I commend your wanting to be honest, but it looks like your wife might need some time to deal with this, which I’m sorry to hear.

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That is a good point Denise but mrs welby probably isn’t so sure “that was then”. The female friend was involved in that other relationship when she wanted to do the nasty with mr. welby. And she was looking “longingly” at him at dinner. That would put enough doubt in my mind that I would not want to be her friend. Sure, I know my husband wouldn’t do anything but that doesn’t mean I have to like her.

I wish welby would come back and tell us what he was thinking when he told his wife this story if he wanted them to be friends. Did you tell the male friend that his wife hit you?

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I don’t think she’s mad at you. She’s mad at W and doesn’t trust her.

Were you and your wife married at the time that W tried to seduce you?