See, and I’m all confused. When I picture someone quaffing wine, I picture someone downing that sucker with relish. Yet smam seems to be saying that I am a foo-foo pedantic cosmopolitan or something. I just don’t see such a person quaffing anything. But there I go stereotyping again.
One does not quaff wine, one sips wine. Quaffing a beverage means to drink deeply, preferably accompanied with spillage, smacking of the lips, and belching. One quaffs flagons of beer (if one is a Viking), for example, but one does not quaff wine, which is one of those drinks that are meant to be savored rather than guzzled.
Re: the OP; it is a little sad that your munchkin has picked up on that cultural poison. However, it sounds as if you used the opportunity to educate and, at the end of the day, as the parent you are still going to have more influence on his moral character. Good job, and applause.
Oh, that’s what “quaffing” is. Sorry, Binarydrone, I have accused people of quaffing, but it is unrelated to my aforementioned inferiority complex.
Sooooo, that’s not how one should drink wine, then? Gotcha.
JuanitaTech, taking notes.
Ok, but now I must know what you thought it meant!
I heart you! 
Oops.
‘freakin’ gay or not, doesn’t it strike you a little inappropriate to be chasing an 8 yr old boy?
Dude, it’s not “inappropriate,” it’s fuckin’ wrong! And while an 8-year-old can not be expected to differentiate between a gay guy and a pedophile, one would think that Dopers would exercise a little more subtlety.
And if you people continue to confabulate gay people with child molesters, I will start referrring to hetero offenders as “freakin’ straight guys.”
Like Kobe Bryant. Freakin’ straight guys like to molest teenage girls.
Well if you’re dining with Sven Bluetooth and Lars, Cleaver of Heads, by the light of a burning Irish village and one of them offers you a fine merlot, you may quaff to your heart’s content.
ouisey I am sorry to be taking this thread in a direction you never intended it to. IMO the OP does not have anything in it which people should get angry about and I cannot see how anger would help the situation anyway. This thread should maybe have best been served by posting it in IMHO where I am sure the dicussion would be more productive.
When I was in primary one I fancied girls so perhaps your son does also at his young age and despite what his friend said maybe he was just telling you he was not gay because he does not think he is gay.
And gobear When did someone confabulate gay people with child molesters? Is that in this thread?
I would consider it a compliment if someone expressed their uncertainty as to my sexuality in just the same way as I have felt it to be a compliment when people have mistaken my gender (this happened online of course, IRL the beard is a bit of a giveaway).
Saying "I can’t tell whether you are male or female’ is kind of the opposite of saying “That is such a fucking typically ‘male’ thing to say” - I would hope that it indicates a certain amount of fairmindedness.
Gratified? Why? Assuming that the only difference as someone so politically correct as you would deduce between gays and straights was what they got up to sex-wise why would you take it as a compliment that someone said they thought you slept with men? Not that there is anything wrong with it but really I can’t see the benefit here of being mistaken for a homosexual.
So you have a stereotyped view of straight men. You don’t think that the worst habits and personalities in heterosexuals are not available to gay men? How childish is that attitude? You don’t get assholes nowadays that happen to be gay?
Perhaps you would take it as a compliment if a blind man thought you were black because blacks have a reputaion for being hard workers.
Dude you are too eager to not offend anyone it’s insane.
When I asked you why you took it as a compliment you could have said that in your circle of friends the ones that happen to be gay seem to you to be more happy well rounded individuals or perhaps that if a guy assumes you were gay then he really wants to know if you are because the guy might find you attractive. And everybody likes to know they are attractive right?
But no, your reply only showed that you had not thought this through at all and I showed you how your argument could be seen to stereotype gays. Then you argue that in your next post by stereotyping gays again by implying that they are immune to the worst habits of mainstream heterosexuals.
And please stop saying " For the record", your 1st post which you put onto vinyl flopped like Gary Barlows solo album (which incidentaly was not pressed to vinyl but thats progress for you).
Why are you trying to argue with me. Please tell me exactly what you think I did wrong with my first post. I don’t think you know because the fact is all I did was crack a joke, I did not take a stance on anything. I think you just assumed I was going to get dumped on by the whole board so you thought you would also do your bit by posting your drivel.
btw I know that gays don’t really accuse men of being gay in the spirit that an army would catapult a diseased cow-carcass over a city’s wall. Hell I just saw an opportunity to post a controversial one-liner, if only to get some pit action going. Otherwise the topic would have sinked like a stone because it was in the wrong place and the OP was not written in anger or gave us a target to aim anger at. So given that, what the hell is/was (because it could have changed depending on the mood of the general demographic) your point anyway binarydrome?
There’s a word for that you know…
Yeah, I took it as a joke, but one that relied on the acceptance of a stereotype of the gay members of SDMB.
If making lame jokes is reason to be flamed then the whole of SDMB would be one great big fireball, but when jokes fail (as yours did) by appealing to “shared” stereotypes that aren’t in fact shared (as yours did), they can look like snide attacks. I’m sure I’ve done the exact same thing, textual media are so rarefied that such is always a possibility.
For my part I feel a little bad about the hijacking of the thread, but when I was eight I knew there was a “stigma” to being “gay” (even if I didn’t know what it was), same goes for being non-white, or “posh”, or geeky, or disabled, or poor, etc., etc. As others have pointed out, Dillon is fortunate to have a mom prepared and able to provide grounding feedback and a non-playground-mentality ethical perspectives. It’s a little sad too, but nothing new, and certainly nothing to be scared of.
I am sure you could see it more charitably, say, smam was just trying to keep the conversation lively.
You buffoon. You would be quaffing high quality mead in that instance. Perhaps you should read Olga, wench of Olaf the Destroyer’s excellent guide to Viking manners “Beat My Guest”.
Not all straight men have sex with STRAIGHT women. I’m bisexual TYVFM and my hubby has sex with me. Get your facts straight ass.
As for the OP… Dont you wish they would save that kind of news for AFTER the wee ones go to bed or school? Then again it’s a good thing because now you have had that conversation with your son and he knows your stance on the situation. I had a like conversation with my niece when she was that age as well. I think it’s a normal age for that type conversation. (Altho, with my oldest I didn’t find out till he was 15 that he was gay and YES he knew what he was talking about) I think it’s sad that we (as a people) are raising another generation of homophobes and that so few people are actually educating our children on the wrongness of bigotry.
I wasn’t trying to be snidey but you are right it wasn’t my funniest work, I don’t think I even laughed at it. Och well.