I had a mandatory sexual harassment seminar at the company HQ today. (I work in a satellite office, out of my home, in which I live alone. So if I sexually harass my co-workers, call The White Wagon. But I digress.)
The speaker works for corporate, and does these for newspapers in this particular publication chain all over the country. So I assume she is well-versed in what she is talking about.
Anyway, this is the scenario she presented us with. It’s kinda long, but bear with it. I found it interesting.:
Jill hires on with The Company. She finds out that the employees in her department go out for drinks at a nearby pub regularly after work on Fridays. So she goes.
There she strikes up a lengthy conversation with Jack, a guy who works next to her. Jack is being quite friendly, and seems interested in her romantically, and she is reciprocating in somewhat the same spirit. She thinks he’s cute.
The next day, Jack sends Jill an email at work, saying he had a great time, and they should do something similar together again sometime really soon. Jill responds with an email saying she agrees; that would be great.
Later that week, Jack sends Jill an email saying the regular Friday get-together is being switched to that night, and he hopes she can make it. Jill is really busy, and doesn’t get to confirm this with any other co-workers.
After work, she goes to the pub to find only Jack. He has set up a ruse to be with her alone. Jill is a little off-put by this, but she still kind of thinks the guy is cute, and she has a bite to eat and a drink with him.
That Friday, she gets roses sent to her at work. The card makes it clear they are from Jack. Jill has decided there are some things she doesn’t like about Jack, so she avoids eye-contact with him all day and tries to stay busy in a way that avoids conversing with him.
That weekend, she gets a phone message from Jack at home. She didn’t give him her number, but there are ways he could get it without extraordinary means.
He says, “I really want to see you again, and next time I’ll make a nice dinner at my place, and start a fire in the fireplace. It will be really romantic. By the way, you looked really hot in your outfit today. I hope I someday get to see what it looks like underneath.”
She continues to avoid Jack on Monday. He’s sending emails, wondering why he hasn’t heard from her.
Jill decides to go talk to her supervisor about moving her work station. When he asks why, she says, “Well, there’s a lot of traffic through there, a lot of distraction.” The boss says something like he’s not sure where would be a better place for her to move. She says, “Forget it. It’s fine.”
Is Jack guilty of sexual harassment? The person who put on the seminar said YES. That it was pervasive, repeated, and caused Jill an uncomfortable work environment.
I believe, at worst, Jack is guilty of being a clueless and somewhat obnoxious dork, that can’t seem to take a hint. That because he is still operating under the idea of their initial conversation and receptive email, he is not out-of-bounds in continuing to pursue a romantic interest with Jill until she tells him she’s not interested, or has someone else do it.
The seminar-conductor said, while in a perfect world clear communication would solve this much easier, Jill is not obligated to tell Jack to buzz off. She said similar cases have been tried and won by Jills, and companies found liable, even when the situation wasn’t made clear to superiors, as in the above scenario.
I couldn’t believe this. What do y’all think?