Thoughts and prayers wanted.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Bear with me if this is a little confused, because I’m in a great deal of shock right now.

One of my best friends (we’ve been friends since we were 3) is having a rough year.

In January, her brother died. In May she left for Texas to her fiance…who, to be perfectly honest, treats her like shit and runs around on her. But of course when her friends tried to explain to her what was going on, she broke all ties with us and went to him.

Today, her father killed himself. The grief of his son dying, his daughter leaving, and his coworkers getting killed in the line of action (3 policemen were murdered here by a guy I went to high school with–please understand, I live in a small town, things like this never happen), everything, was just too much for him.

He left behind a daughter, a wife, a daughter-in-law, and a three year old grandson that still doesn’t understand why Daddy is dead, much less Granddaddy.

He, of course, was not perfect. He had a lot of problems…an addiction to pain medication, and he treated his daughter (my friend) like shit, pure shit, which is one of the reasons she left. But I can’t find it in my heart to hate him.

I cannot hate the man who greeted me warmly whenever I was in his house. Who teased me about my boyfriends. Who made me a dreamcatcher by hand (we both shared Native American heritage).

I instead feel great sorrow for him, his wife, their daughter my friend, their daughter in law, and their grandson.

Thoughts and prayers please? I’ve been having a rough year myself, but it’s nothing on this. Thanks in advance.

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I will pray for all

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Our prayers are with you, your friend, and her family.

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My thoughts are with you and your friend, Nocturne.

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I’m sorry for your friend, and her family. Are you able to be in touch with her? If so, do so; it really doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to say.

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What a sad situation. I’m very sorry.

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I am so sorry, too. Nocturne, may healing love begin now, and surround you and the others with comfort.
Ringo is so right, reach out to her, it won’t matter if you can’t find words.
Prayers sent now and continuing…

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Nocturne, I’m going to a Dopefest tomorrow. A number of us will be having dinner together. I don’t know all their religious(or not) backgrounds. But before we break up I may ask for everyone to “raise their glasses”, and think of all those Dopers who are in need of kindness.

I’d say I’ll remember you name tomorrow morning in church but I’m having to skip to go to the fest. But I will pray for you tonight anyway.

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How tragic! Please extend my condolences to your friend and her family. So much sadness in such a small town, I can only imagine the way this has shaken everyone. I’m pouring a toast of Scotch Whisky in their memory the moment I finish posting this.

Email me with a mailing address and I’ll do my best to put together a package for the three year old. He must be wondering where everybody went.

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Thank you all who have responded so far.

Zenster, if you don’t mind, you could send the package to me and I could take it to the three year old. I think the family would be a little freaked out…no offense…from getting a package from a stranger right now.

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Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry for your friend and her losses. I’ll keep them in my thoughts.

F_X

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My thoughts and prayers are with everyone involved.

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You have them.

One of the most horrible aspects of suffering is how it ripples outward in self-feeding cycles. Just try and breathe and be mindful of the beauty that’s in the world as well, and it does much to break those feedback loops.

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I’ve just finished saying a prayer for your friend, and her family.

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My thoughts and prayers are with them; I am so sorry.

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You got it <b>Nocturne</b>! I’ve lost several friends that committed suicide. I’ve often wondered if they ever realized the over-whelming pain on those of us left in the wake of selfishness? I know that the pain for me was terrible.

Stay strong and I’ll pray for strength for the family too.

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I’m very sorry, Noccy - my thoughts are with you and them.

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How sad! Healing prayers and peaceful thoughts heading out for you and your friend.

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And as somewhat of an update…

Three more people from my childhood are dead, another one killing himself, the other two from massive heart attacks.

I really don’t know how well I can handle this.

Also: my friend’s fiance has been recently diagnosed with epilepsy, which is why he can’t come to her father’s funeral.

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Oh, Noc, how horrible.

It always seems like the “bad stuff” comes in lumps, doesn’t it? sigh

You are in my prayers.