threatening neighbors

Factual Questions
21

From what I have heard, she talks on the phone outside and is loud, she is calling the owner and supposedly going to say I am harrassing her by doing the banging. If only they could hear it is her, but a recorder won’t help with that. I am amazed.

22

My sympathy goes out to the police and landlords who have to deal with issues like these.

23

How about something more civil? Propose a truce. Then offer to listen to the noises each other could possibly hear. Maybe there’s some soundproofing that could be done. Maybe it’s just a matter of re-arranging rooms so that noise sources aren’t near/against shared walls.

It’s just that enough is enough with the petty bullshit back and forth.

If that doesn’t work, how about arbitration?

24

I don’t see how she can be reasoned with. She bangs so hard on the bathroom, our toilet shakes. Just for me turning on the light switch. People like that cannot be reasoned with.

25

So a lady with four kids in her house bangs on the wall when your light switch clicks?

My bullshit meter just pegged.

Tamara+, I think that you are much louder than you think you are. Maybe radio or exercising etc. o you live with anyone else? Maybe your conversation from room to room carries through the wall.

Also, are you active till early morning hours? You said she bangs on the wall till 3am. Are you up till then with a TV or music on?:

26

Nope, no bullshit. I am up til 3, reading books or online.
Hard as it is to beleive, I still can’t, she does bang as hard as possible on the bathroom wall every time I flick the switch on to go, or cough, even once I sneezed. Yep, truth.

27

Is there a feud started from something else? Like a previous run in with her kids?

I guess the bathroom can amplify sound but I’m still mystified that with four kids in her place she gets worked up over noise from the neighbor.

I didn’t mean to sound disrespectful and don’t want you to take this wrong but it sounds like one or both of you are a little bit loony.

I say this because I’m honestly trying to assess the problem and not take sides even though the only account I have of this situation is yours.

Think real hard as to what the source is and when this started. All I can throw out are probable causes like -

  1. Neighbor is mentally off

  2. You are mentally off

  3. You really are noisy and just don’t know it. Example You shout to your living mate that you’re just getting up to use the bathroom. You slam a door and then as you flick on the bathroom switch the neighbor bangs the wall. To you the switch set her off when actually it was noise before that.

  4. The neighbor bangs on the wall to get even for some real or perceived issue between the two of you in the past.

  5. The house has some kind of amazing construction that amplifies your household sounds into the next unit.

  6. Every time the neighbor’s kids make noise they convince her that it was really you.

I feel for the police. This feud has them involved and they don’t have enough evidence to tell which of you are overreacting. Without evidence they can cite neither the neighbor nor you.

28

I slam no doors when using the bathroom, I am quiet always. I have had to call on her blasting music in the past, of which the police told her to turn it down.
This has apparently set her off and decided to harrass me for it.
I guess number 4 would be correct.