Okay, I have seen quite a few people, who, having spread their feces all over the board, and then have it rubbed back in their faces, make a HUGE fuss over how they’re leaving and never ever ever coming back here.
And then they show up a week later. And the cycle continues.
I personally find this to be trolling, or at the very least, Being a Jerk.
I think we should get some clarification on this, as it is so obviously done to get a reaction.
Those reactions are tanamount to “I’m taking my toys out of the sandbox and going home”, only to return to said sandbox next time it’s a nice day.
Tantrums happen, and the tantrum thrower shatters their credibility. If they would prefer to act like children, until and unless they make amends, they should simply be tolerated. I don’t want to say ignored, but their opinions should not be given that much weight.
One problem with that, Guin. If you have a rule saying that “Posters who have temper tantrums and stomp off in a snit will be considered Jerks and not be allowed to come back”, where does that leave the twin concepts of “Apologies” and “Forgiveness”?
I can think of a few lesser (hobbyist) message boards around the Internet that I’ve run across that have a “Well, if they don’t want us, then we certainly don’t want them” policy, and lemme tell you, some people think the SDMB is a clique, well, they ain’t seen nuthin’ compared to these.
I think the main problem is who or what determines “spreading feces”.
Do you have a specific link that you would like to mention? I think this cat and mouse game is not going to solve anything. If someone is pissing you off, you’re a big enough girl to pit them directly, no?
This whole somebody is doing something wrong stuff doesn’t cut it for me. Usually the person in reference has no clue you mean them. You know…it’s somebody else…
I say ignore the poster and be done with it. Sheesh, it’s this kind of stuff that reminds me of girls in high school. <<looking around>> There is no way in sam hill that everyone is going to go along and get along on this message board. Just don’t answer posters who drive you nuts! Is that so hard to do?
Anyone else here think that this board has lately gone bonkers with an excess of anger, hostility and sheer venom? Or is it, sadly, my low tolerance level for crap?
Guinastasia, you could ban them you know. Oh, wait, you have to be an Administrator to do that. Since that’s the case, why not talk to the powers that be about becoming an Administrator, you would then have the power to fix this.
It’s cyclical. Last year about this time exactly the same question as yours was asked by someone else, and I imagine the same thing the year before that.
I don’t think it’s deliberate trolling, at least not usually. I think they probably mean it when they say it, but then…a couple of weeks later, they calm down, they come back and they hope everybody will forget about it.
I really don’t think it’s a banning offense, but maybe it’s a pitworthy offense if they make a habit of it.
Basically, it was inspired by His4ever, who only a week or so previously, said she’s done with this place, (For like the fifth time), then once again, feels compelled to pop back up when one of her buddies is spewing crap again. Or how she hasn’t posted in ages, but suddenly appeared when Dr.Chuckie started his homophobic rants.
I’m tired of her always threatening to leave, then saying that she’s done with us, won’t discuss anymore-only to come back and pull the same fucking crap. It’s annoying and I think she’s just doing it to get us to beg her to stay. Or for more martyrdom.
shrugs
I guess I didn’t want to fuel her martyrdom further by mentioning her name.
I’m not talking about a tantrum-remember, I had one back in January, and took a little break. I mean constantly threatening to leave, and then coming back and doing the same things, which get the same reactions, then whining about it…viscious circle jerk, blah blah blah.
If someone says they’re leaving, they should not be surprised if they end up not being allowed to come back. While we do not feel required to enforce self-bans, if we do I don’t see how anyone has the right to complain. If they want back under the same name they can petition for their return same as any other banned poster.
You’re accusing His4Ever of participating in a circle-jerk? Wouldn’t she be surprised!
Seriously, I know what you mean, Guin. In the end, I’m in agreement with Casey1505… posters who threaten to leave repeatedly, then stick around, are only fucking their own credibility. His4Ever has already fucked herself, over and over again.
I had a great post written, I went to hit the “reply” button…and the power went off here. Just came back on.
So…anyway, what was I saying? I left here once. It wasn’t solely for Board reasons. But I was afraid to say so, because at the time (early 2001), there had been so many people saying “I’m leaving! You’ll never see me again!” and stomping off in a huff. I was afraid of being tarred with the same brush, so I didn’t say anything. When I came back a few months later, nobody recognized me or really realized I’d gone.
There are posters who legitimately want to take a break from the Board. I wouldn’t want their return inconvenienced because of the behavior of a few fucktards.
Maybe it’s spring fever?
I have noticed some of the people around me IRL that are getting crabbier.
It’s getting nicer around here and there’s not much to do yet.
“Hey guys, this is a great place, but due to unfortunate circumstances in real life (what’s that again?) I need to take a bit of a breather. I’ll be back when I can.”
Scenario B:
“u call me ahn asashole, but it u who are the real assholes!!! im leavinbg and im never coming back so screw u all!!!”
I wouldn’t worry too much about people confusing the two scenarios.