It has been apparent to me that among the people invited at my best friend’s wedding are not one, not two, but three ex girlfriends.
#1 broke up mutually three years ago, then became friend’s with my best friend (the groom). Pissed off that she doesn’t get to be the Best Man (title went to me ). For several years I had simply put her out of my mind, but the topic of her, since she will be at his wedding, came up recently. My friend says she still hates my guts which caught me by surprise since we broke up THREE YEARS ago. Friend has promised to seat her far enough away from me to avoid cattiness/death threats.
#2 more of the jealous type, would be fine around me if I was single, miserable, and living under a rock but since the way things are looking right now its likely I’ll have a SO along for the wedding I’ll probably be dead to her even if she has a guy hanging on her. More wedding drama because the bride is #2’s ex-friend. When I broke up with #2 bride had introduced me to ex #3 which is one of her bridesmaids. #2 does not get to be a bridesmaid even though she was the one that introduced the bride and groom to each other. She burns with the rage of a thousand suns BUT there is an open bar so after a few Mai Tais I’m sure things will be fine :dubious:
#3 is a Bridesmaid, and her presence is why #2 is angry at both myself and the bride. Had a very weird relationship with her, she acted like everything was fine but constantly complained about how stupid/boring/unappealing I was. After we broke up she said she wanted to be friends, I said ok but I never heard from her again (oh well :rolleyes: ). Is very ‘BFF’ with the bride.
Sooooo as I said somewhere in this mess thank Og for an open bar! Talking to my friend both of us were laughing about it and jokingly discussing where we could seat ex-girlfriends for the least drama-prone arrangement (he too has an ex that will be there- ugh)
I got stuck in a place with 4 ex-boyfriends and a current once and after a few minutes of unbearable awkwardness they bonded with each other by telling embarrassing stories about me and teasing me as a group. It was a very long night but it could have been a lot worse. Luckily only one of them was bitter about our breakup.
My husband had a friend (still does) who insisted on being friends with all his exes–even if the ex didn’t want to. Don’t ask me how he did that. I know he still sent them bday cards and flowers etc–Dave is a strange person w/o the charm or good looks of Charles from 4WandF.
20 years on, I still kind of wonder about that. I think I was the only girl for awhile in our (then) set that hadn’t dated/slept with him. For this I am grateful.
Good Luck at the nuptials-keep your comments low key and don’t do too many PDAs with current girl; you should be all right.
I wondered the same thing. Why on earth would you want someone who’s mad at you and the best man at your wedding. If she were a blood relative, I could see inviting her for the sake of peace in the family, but that’s about the only reason. Then again there’s also no reason I’d go to the wedding of someone I disliked.
Good luck, man. It sounds like you’re going to need it!
). For several years I had simply put her out of my mind, but the topic of her, since she will be at his wedding, came up recently. My friend says she still hates my guts which caught me by surprise since we broke up THREE YEARS ago. Friend has promised to seat her far enough away from me to avoid cattiness/death threats.
