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Can I? Yes. Although I cannot think of any appropriate reason to do so.
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I often compliment people on their dress choices, tattoos, or hair/ makeup/ jewerly. My Wife will often roll her eyes but I have had some very nice conversations from these openings.
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Education is not as important as intelligence. I completed more years of schooling than she did but she is far more practical. We have found our balances.
1.) Generally yes. I would have to be more careful about how I worded it if it were someone we knew, rather than a celebrity,or an anonymous model in an ad.
2.) Depends on how sexual. “Your hair is super cute today!” would be fine. “Nice rack,” not so much.
3.) Unimportant. She’s a nurse, which involves less education than a bachelor’s degree (unless she went back to school for her BSN). I have no degree at all, and get by on drive and skills. (With a healthy dose of luck and networking for jobs.)
^All of the above, except my wife is the one with more years of schooling.
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Yes. But we don’t the vast majority of the time, because we have no need to. And even then we’re usually just pointing out a particular part of someone’s body that is above and beyond, or when they’ve chosen clothing that shows themselves off particularly well. For instance, I’ve remarked on the fine-ness of our mutual friend’s calves, or the guy in college that had the most gorgeous pair of eyes I’ve ever seen in my whole life (“Mr. Perfect Eyes” is what I called him). Or on the beach when a woman’s picked out the perfect swimsuit for her figure. We don’t partake in crass stuff like, “That booty is fine! I would tap that if I were single!” where we talk about banging other people.
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Nope. We talk about men and women alike. Obviously he talks about the ladies more and I talk about the men more.
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A lack of higher education would imply to me that they lack ambition, intelligence, confidence, or even-headedness (rather, the ability to get through both things they like and dislike), all a turn-off. I wouldn’t write them off, but they’d have a much steeper hole to climb out of before I would consider them in the running. Theoretically they could do it.
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Yes. She will pick out girls that she knows I’ll think are hot, but since she thinks my style of girl is ugly (other than her? I guess? I dunno we’re weird) she’ll point em out then laugh at me
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I would doubt it, but it’s never come up actually.
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It’s important to me because I want to be able to carry on more intellectual conversations and just know that the person I’m with is educated. It works for us cuz we both have literally the same degree.
1.) Can you speak openly with your SO about the hotness of other people?
She’s Bi so she is always pointing out hot women to me and appreciates it when I do the same. It’s pretty cool actually.
2.) Would your SO mind at all if you complimented someone of the opposite sex (or if gay, same sex) on their appearance?
I’m an extreme[INDENT] introvert so she would probably give me a cookie if I worked up enough guts to address a member of either sex about their appearance.[/INDENT]
3.) How important is a higher education level in your SO?
Very strangely worded but I think I get the gist. Level of education is not important at all. intellectual curiosity and general intelligence is highly important./
Here are my answers.
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Yes- both of us do all the time. I think I have a better handle on what she finds attractive than vice-versa. Probably because I don’t have a ‘type’ exactly. We comment on that kind of thing all the time- even about people we both know.
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She wouldn’t have a problem with it at all, if it was appropriate and tasteful, and not out of the clear blue. By that, I mean if someone we knew was looking good, I’d be clear. If I was to make either an inappropriate comment to anyone, or an appropriate one to some random woman, I think she wouldn’t take that so well - kind of a “Why’s he making rude comments to women?” or “Why’s he complimenting that woman and not me?”
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I think in theory, it’s not that important to either of us as much as being actually intelligent, curious and quick, but in practice it’s a good starting point for that kind of assessment. So yes, it was important as a yardstick for culling people out.
1.) Can you speak openly with your SO about the hotness of other people?
Yes. I have to admit that seems like a silly question to me. IMO part of a loving trusting relationship is not being jealous over silly stuff. However, another part of being in a loving trusting relationship is not acting a pervy letch when you see a hot person. Like LSLGuy said in the first response. I point out guys I think that she’d thing was hot; she points out big boobs to me all the time. 
All in good fun.
2.) Would your SO mind at all if you complimented someone of the opposite sex (or if gay, same sex) on their appearance?
Good gosh no. AAMOF, I was at a wedding this past weekend and I told the bride she was the most beautiful bride ever. The bride corrected me and said except your wife, right? My wife thought it was funny.
3.) How important is a higher education level in your SO?
Not sure what you mean, but education must be important to both of us as we both have post grad degrees.
Now I have a question back to you… Why are you asking? Is there an interesting story as to why you want to know this?
The unwritten rule is we can comment openly on the hotness of celebrities. “Real Live” people we know is not done, out of mutual respect, but as we are both gay men who pretty much have the same taste in men, it’s pretty obvious when there’s a hottie around; we both get really quiet and mention everything but the hot dude! A compliment is not cool, unless it’s in relation to a job or task well done.
My SO is not as much of a geeky academe as I, and sometimes he doesn’t get my more obtuse comments, but it’s fine the way it is. A former lover was brilliant and most of our conversations were just competitions to declare our intelligence
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I could, but I don’t. Unless there’s a secondary reason for me to mention another woman’s looks, it sort of seems disrespectful to bring it up.
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She wouldn’t have a problem with it.
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Higher education is irrelevant as long as we’re otherwise compatible, which we are.