Just out of idle curiosity–do you have a son named Querl? Blond kid, always hanging out with his 22 best friends, favors purple jumpsuit and a yellow belt?
I take that approach in dating. Dating men, that is. I date solidly average guys. I have a presumption that handsome men should be avoided, because they’re used to getting women whenever they want, and don’t appreciate what they have when they have it. Spoiled, in a word. I’m friends with the pretty ones, but if one wanted to date me he’d face a huge uphill battle. The guys who don’t like it can just date one of the billions of other women out there.
As long as we’re referencing songs, I’d like to note that I wanna live with a cinnamon girl. I could be happy the rest of my life with a cinnamon girl.
Sure, I don’t know what one IS, but if there are any cinammon girls reading this, drop me a line.
Hmmm… the band name says “Cinnamon Girls” but they’re all smuggling kielbasas. That’s just not right!
+1
obviously the post is getting at the stereotype that an attractive person will grow up focusing on their own looks, their own interests and the flirty interactions they get because they are attractive, increasing the likelihood they’ll stray or at least be a cause for anxiety in their mates. While in general pretty people may sometimes behave like that, ANYone may behave like that. Similarly, some attractive people are incredibly well-grounded. And some are simply human, with the same foibles we all have, regardless of their physical beauty. I got me one of those, and I’m keeping her.
The right woman is the woman who looks beautiful to you.
Ok, simple but some truth. My wife is a beautiful woman “of size”. Would she look better slimmer? Yes, in a physical way, but my attraction to her is based on so much more than than simple physical beauty.
One one hand, I know beautiful women who are beautiful people. On the other hand, I know beautiful women who are vain & stuck up. There’s yet more hands with the other combinations.
IMO, if a woman is happy & comfortable with herself, not worrying about what others think of her appearance (positively or negatively), that’s what’ll help make a relationship with her better.
Self-confidence can be sexy.
I was just thinking this.
I have always been attracted to the “average” guy…perhaps slightly nerdy, very clever, good sense of humor…vs. the well-built, gym-attending, very generically “good-looking” guys.
It’s not a theory I’ve ever consciously put to the test, i.e., “He’s too good-looking so I won’t date him,” but in general I’m just not particularly attracted to really good-looking men. Other than admiring them from afar in a very idle, isn’t-that-nice kind of way.
For instance, my heart-throb of choice, given all of Hollywood on a platter, is David Duchovny. Hands down. slobbers Mark Ruffalo comes in second. Neither one is generally handsome, but they both totally do it for me…while the Brad Pitts, Tom Cruises, etc., just kind of bore me.
So I guess I couldn’t fault men for thinking along the same lines, even though I am aware that my preferences really don’t have a logical explanation.
Now, I would have issues with a guy or a girl who really liked someone of the opposite sex but refused to date/pursue them merely because they were good-looking, and “that kind don’t last” or some such absurdity.
First girl I ever held hands with as a young innocent teenager was named Cinnamon. She was a cutie.
At a going-away party for another friend, my then-girlfriend (now wife) heard the friend refer to Cinnamon, and kept looking around for the cat.
Daniel
