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Although staying in an angry state is generally bad for your health, so is pent up rage. There are times when it’s very good for your mental health to deal with your feelings up front.
Liberal, I once stopped using the word fundies because you objected to it. Now I have a return favor to ask. Would you consider not using words that refer to women to insult someone? It’s not a major issue for me, but sometimes it distracts from what you are saying.
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[QUOTE=MrDibble]
I’d just like to say that I think trying to get everyone to play nice in the Pit is a monumentally fucking stupid idea that would be bad for the Board as a whole - the Pit serves as a safety valve for all the tensions generated on the rest of the Board, without it, smaller-scale nastiness would be even more prevalent in every forum from GQ to MPSIMS. And GD would be a lot worse.
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That’s basically what I was trying to say. I think the Pit serves a very valid function here, and if you don’t like it…stay out of it. It’s so easy to ignore if you want to. And boards that don’t have this kind of valve end up running like Kindergarten, where people are always running to the mods, whining about mean people…it’s really lame.
[QUOTE=Measure for Measure]
Oh, and arguments about the pit stretch way back. There are plenty of posters who don’t derive an ought from an is permitted to
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This is also true. There is a wide range of styles that you see even among those who participate in the Pit. From what I have seen, the more vitriolic the post, the more likely it will be to be flamed back. Which, ironically, is what happened to Quiddity. Her post was a flame, and it ignited flames. So it seems a little hypocritical to say that it’s everyone else’s problem and it ought to be changed. Nothing like leading by example.
[QUOTE=Measure for Measure]
At any rate, everybody enjoys a good car crash every now and then.
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True, but it’s seldom enjoyed by the people in the car. I really don’t think Quid is calling on people to be nice in the Pit so much as she is calling on people not to be cruel. It doesn’t have to be a choice between tea and crumpets or gouging out eyeballs.
[QUOTE=Zoe]
Would you consider not using words that refer to women to insult someone?
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I would, but you’ll need to be more specific. I can imagine certain words that you might object to, but certain others are more ambiguous. “Cunt”, for example, is clearly on your list. But “whore” refers by one definition to women, and yet by another sense it is used in expressions like “thread whore” which can be a man or woman. Am I thinking the way you mean?
[QUOTE=Left Hand of Dorkness]
If you’re really worried about feeling damned, here’s a suggestion, in two parts:
Issue the apology. Don’t hypothetically issue it contingent on her acceptance. Issue it without reservations.
Go and sin no more. At least, do not write any more nastygrams in the Pit, no matter how deserved they may be. Don’t refrain from doing so for a week, or a month, or a year: refrain permanently from doing so. If you really must write the nastygrams, write them in a Word document and save them to your hard drive.
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Nothing to argue with there.
EddyTeddyFreddy, I’m sorry for my recent scathing post. But even more, I’m sorry for the grudge that seeded it, and the long road of enmity between us that led to it. This apology is heartfelt, and offered without any reservation or condition of any kind.
EddyTeddyFreddy, I’m sorry for my recent scathing post. But even more, I’m sorry for the grudge that seeded it, and the long road of enmity between us that led to it. This apology is heartfelt, and offered without any reservation or condition of any kind.
Thanks, Left Hand of Dorkness.
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Accepted. And I apologize for launching attacks on you out of anger fueled by my perceptions of this journey.
Truce? We ain’t never gonna be buddies, but we can spike the guns. More I don’t ask.
LHOD offers, by the way, a wise and helpful suggestion, one which I myself should take up more often: When infuriated with someone, write out all the rage and vitriol into a Word doc or unsent email or Notepad, whatever, and let it marinate in its bile. Then when you’re calmer, trash it. That releases the inner demons without allowing them to savage others. The Pit is an occasion of sin for you (and plenty of others), Lib.
[QUOTE=EddyTeddyFreddy] LHOD offers, by the way, a wise and helpful suggestion, one which I myself should take up more often: When infuriated with someone, write out all the rage and vitriol into a Word doc or unsent email or Notepad, whatever, and let it marinate in its bile. Then when you’re calmer, trash it. That releases the inner demons without allowing them to savage others. The Pit is an occasion of sin for you (and plenty of others), Lib.
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I had a boss who used to say “write the letter…don’t send the letter.” It’s very cathartic to write it out, but sometimes not so wise to actually let the target read it! I always thought that was good advice.
[QUOTE=Sarahfeena]
I had a boss who used to say “write the letter…don’t send the letter.” It’s very cathartic to write it out, but sometimes not so wise to actually let the target read it! I always thought that was good advice.
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Writing a letter you don’t intend to send is an activity I often suggest to people. I should probably do so myself a little more often, especially here.
Aw, rayh, don’t be that way. Let’s bury the hatchet and make nice. I’m sorry for all the things I said and did and I really mean it this time for sure. I promise to be the bestest nicest poster ever and I won’t call you dirty names or make jokes about your mother or anything.
So what do you say? Friends? Buddies? Amigos? Maybe we could even go for coffee? And who knows - if everything goes right - blushes spooning?
[QUOTE=Trion]
So what do you say? Friends? Buddies? Amigos? Maybe we could even go for coffee? And who knows - if everything goes right - blushes spooning?
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Steer clear of him. He welshes on bets.
As a brand-new poster here, I can say that my opinion of this Libertarian poster is that he has way too much time on his hands. The first time he addressed me was to research all my posts and compare them to the posts of someone he paid to go away, and try and find correspondances to prove that I was that same person (at least I think that’s what he was trying to do.) Otherwise since then he’s been nice to me, I don’t know if it’s just a front to try and entrap me or what. But he definitely seems a little bizarre.
[QUOTE=Quentin S. Smith]
As a brand-new poster here, I can say that my opinion of this Libertarian poster is that he has way too much time on his hands. The first time he addressed me was to research all my posts and compare them to the posts of someone he paid to go away, and try and find correspondances to prove that I was that same person (at least I think that’s what he was trying to do.) Otherwise since then he’s been nice to me, I don’t know if it’s just a front to try and entrap me or what. But he definitely seems a little bizarre.
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Why do you continue to call him by the wrong name?
[QUOTE=Quentin S. Smith]
As a brand-new poster here, I can say that my opinion of this Libertarian poster is that he has way too much time on his hands. The first time he addressed me was to research all my posts and compare them to the posts of someone he paid to go away, and try and find correspondances to prove that I was that same person (at least I think that’s what he was trying to do.) Otherwise since then he’s been nice to me, I don’t know if it’s just a front to try and entrap me or what. But he definitely seems a little bizarre.
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Your referring to him as “Libertarian” gives an immediate lie to your protestations of being brand-new. In fact, this entire post has more than a whiff of being posted from under a bridge. No doubt a mod will be along presently to smack you around for calling him Libertarian – and to investigate whether you are in fact the trollish sock puppet you appear to be.
[QUOTE=Qadgop the Mercotan]
Well, if nothing else, this thread achieved something positive.
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The Pit is a wondrous and remarkable place at times.
Mostly it’s just a fetid swamp, though. But it’s so entertaining to watch the waterskiers colliding with the Jetskiers and splashing into the muck.
[QUOTE=Jodi]
No doubt a mod will be along presently to smack you around for calling him Libertarian…
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There is no rule against addressing a poster by a previous username. You’re thinking of a very specific prohibition directed toward one specific poster, whose name escapes me at the moment. Anyone else is perfectly free to call him Libertarian, and in the Pit, any other name he wishes.
Woo hoo! (And thanks.)