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Thanks, Cranky. Well spoken.
Sometimes these threads remind me about how wonderful my life really is. There is no such dissension in my life. Peace.
Ok, I stopped reading the thread at this point. You know why? I kind of sympathized with your OP. My in-laws are pretty much certifiable. It’s not just me who thinks this. My wife hates spending time with them as well, but the guilt trips and making a horrible enemy of them if she and the kids don’t visit them are worse than spending time with them occasionally. Personally I don’t see why she she continues to spend time with them. Most of them are at least emotionally abusive, all of them are manipulative. But, it’s what she feels she should do. So I help her, and I dry her tears each night when she comes home after being treated like crap by them again. I also don’t care much for holiday traditions. My family is starting some, we are voulenteering for local charities on Christmas and Thanksgiving. We’re donating blood each year at least once during the holiday season(we donate pretty often year round).
So, why do I have a problem with what you wrote? Simple, you defended it. This wasn’t a one-shot, “I’m pissed and I’m going to let it out” kind of thing. When people started saying, in essence, “That’s just wrong.” You responded saying that you could think and feel however the fuck you wanted about your wife and her family’s shitty traditions. Instead of taking that time to reflect and think about why you wrote such hateful things, you continued to preach about your right to feel pissed off. That is true, but the corrorolary to that is, other people can see it. And we’re allowed to call you on it. We’re even allowed to point out that your child, who spends much more time observing you than you are probably aware, can probably see it. Friction breeds friction. If you feel the need to defend your cruel opinions so viciously, then I feel no qualms about saying that it will probably have negative repercussions on your marriage and your child. Either deal with the issue, (Is anyone else suprised that it took six and a half years for him to get fed up with his in-laws Christmas traditions?) or continue to suppress it. Your choice, but don’t pretend you can say things like you did about the woman you purport to love without someone pointing out your hypocracy.
Steven