To start a thread or to not start a thread?

In My Humble Opinion
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Imagine you are involved with someone on this board - or any internet community similar to this one.

Before you hear anything about a problem or potential conflict - even a minor one - you see it on the computer for all the world to see.

Your SO was given a number to reach you at, so that’s not an excuse. No, she started a thread about your personal life, and in fact made the issue presented look like a huge deal to people who don’t know.

I tell you what, this would piss me off. And I’m a pretty open guy. I mean, I saw the public disputes of a couple of Dopers, and I thought it made them both look bad.

That’s just my opinion, of course. What’s yours?

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Ummm…is this about the strap-on, or is this about something else? Or is it just a hypothetical?

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Green Bean, you may find that it refers to this, which starts with

Given that, it may be good time to back away whilst keeping your palms in clear view.

On the other hand (tempting fate here), the comment:

is very funny.

picmr

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Thank you, picmr.

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Nonsense. As I said before, I am not about to start an argument on the board.

However, two things. Satan phoned me this morning, and during that conversation I told him about the thread. So he did NOT get his first indication of a problem while reading the board–trust me, he got his first indication of a problem during that conversation, when I was perfectly honest about starting the thread and my reasons for doing so. I won’t tell you of the phone conversation I got after he read the thread, though. If you can call it that.

The phone number I was given was to his father’s hotel room. It was given to me while I was closing the lab at work, and in between shutting down 40 computers and 5 printers in 20 minutes with students rushing back and forth asking me questions in a frantic attempt to get finished before I closed everything down, I forgot he sent it to me and closed the IM on my way out. Didn’t even remember it had the number in it until about 8:00 that evening. Either way, he’d said only to use it in case of an emergency, and I wasn’t about to call the room in the wee hours, waking up his father and potentially worrying him, just because I was worried.

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  • :: averts gaze and pretends to mumble a conversation to someone next to him, to avoid witnessing something personal and uncomfy between a couple …:: *
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Why is is that when people are scared, their immediate reaction after finding out that everything is okay is anger instead of relief?

Could it be that we’re all crazy?

I think so.

And why is it that when we’re the cause of that anger, we fight back?

Is it the insanity again?

Probably.

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Personally, I have never liked watching people air their dirty laundry on a public message base.

I have always found it in even poorer taste when a seperate thread is started with the specific intention of making the situation even uglier.

My lousy dime.

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I’d like to apologize, to Brian and everyone else here for bringing this on the boards. As I mentioned, I didn’t do it to say, “Look at what an asshole Brian is.” I did it to make sure I wasn’t crazy for acting the way I do. But regardless of my intent, it appears that I’ve hurt Brian by airing this publicly, and for that I apologize.

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And on that note, I’m locking this up.