Yup. That’s what happened. Scary isn’t it?
Thanks. He does seem to be recovering.
I on the other hand, am suffering from guilty big sister syndrome. I feel totally helpless that I wasn’t able to protect him - its totally irrational I know, but I can’t help feeling it though.
SanibelMan - its more likely to get him couselling and special treatment, because he’s obviously not well. :rolleyes:
I am glad to hear that charges are being pressed. It irks me to no end when people drop charges on such horribly violent offences.
Some people say that pressing the charges will cause more problems in the long run. Maybe in some cases they are right. I, for one, would rather take my chances on teaching the empty scrotum of an amoebic dysentery protozoan a lesson he’ll not soon forget. “Cause and effect, motherfucker!” ymmv
Now that my righteous indignation has somewhat subsided, let offer my well wishes, too, to your brother. I know you were both excited to have him up there with you. Hopefully, the good experiences he gains will outweigh this one in the future.
All my Doper love,
-Steve-
Now, that’s a good insult.
My parents subscribe to this view as well. It was just so unjustifiably violent, that I think we’re all still in shock.
Thank you. I’ve said it before, and I will say it again - you guys are all great. I truly feel as if I am amongst good friends here. It means a lot to me that you all care as much as you do.
On second read, I see I missed the location of the attack. I was reading while angry, I guess. It wasn’t at your university. Silly me.
Still, all my words apply. And to you, dear, don’t be so hard on yourself. A normal reaction, yes. But, let the anger fall where it is deserved. On the shit, not on yourself.
Later…
Oh, I am, hence why I’m pitting the fucker as opposed to pitting myself for not being able to protect my brother. I know I couldn’t do anything about it, so I’m not really angry at myself.
I’m just really really saddened at the moment.
Here’s a fiver. Buy yourself a pint*. And keep the change. 
*or chocolates. or go to the cinema. or donate it to a worthy active galactic core.
Gotta run… muah
I’ve just been talking to my mum, and she’s been able to shed more light on things. Apparantly, the reason the fuckwit hasn’t been expelled is because fuckwit’s mother is a school governor, and she talked to the school Head, who thought it best not to jeapordise fuckwit’s future totally.
EXCUSE ME??? What about jeapordising my brother’s future? What about the fact he’s going to have to miss a hell of a lot of school, to have surgery? What about the fact that my brother’s so fucking disoriented he can barely stand up? What about all that?
Apparantly, the Headmaster of my brother’s school’s been trying to get my parents to not press charges, as it’ll ruin fuckwit’s entire life because of one incident.
Well I say, and this is what I told my mum on the phone as well, the Headmaster can fuck right off. If fuckwit was so bothered about his future, then he shouldn’t have fucking hit my brother, for sweet fuck all. Now, he’s going to have to face the consequences. You commited a crime, fuckwit, a fucking crime, and not just any old crime, but assault and actual bodily harm. If you were to be tried as an adult, which I seriously hope you are, it carries a custodial sentence. I don’t give a damn if its your first offence, what’s to say you won’t do it again to someone else? If, as your supporters are claiming, that you’re really worried about your future now, well, tough shit. You should have though about that before, shouldn’t you fuckwit?
And to the school Headmaster - a big hearty “fuck you”. Being the son of one of the governors should not get fuckwit special treatment at all, which is what he’s getting. And also, it will not protect him from the law.
Grrrr…
Ah, so the school policy says he ought to be expelled, but he isn’t because he the kid of a school governor. Call the local newspaper and tell them to do a story on universities’ response to student violence. Point out that little policy exception.
Well, I’m not certain if there is a policy, things appear to be decided on a case by case basis, and from the school’s website, sanctions are decided on a “case by case” basis with regards to anti-social behaviour. Hmmm… So, punching someone, so violently to cause this much injury merits only a week’s suspension… :dubious:
Good idea, Eats_Crayons. See how long that bitch’ll remain on the school governing thingie once the press casts her as abusing her power to help an accused violent criminal.
And Angua, excellent use of the word fuck. I hope your parents stick by their guns and press charges.
I’m sure the school newspaper would be just as (if not more) interested as the local paper.
Call everyone you can think of – television new stations, newspapers, radio, whatever. Get the word out on this young criminal. Fuck his fucking stupid mother. Obviously he’s never had to pay for a thing he’s done his entire life because of her. He needs to be taught a lesson now.
Save all paperwork. Do you have witnesses? They might help. Call a lawyer pronto and get this to court soon. Keep the local media advised on the situation.
Got a website? Do an offshoot and advertise it in his school. Really shove it in the administration’s face. Don’t let this lie – promise me! I hate seeing this sort of shit happen!
There isn’t one.
I am however, contemplating writing letters to the “Times Education Supplement”, which is the main educational newspaper over here, and the Guardian, which is one of the big daily national broadsheets, and would be very interested in this. My only worry is is that eventually, my brother will have to go back to finish his A-levels, and I don’t want to make things too difficult for him.
There were many witnesses to the incident - they’ve all given statements to the police. This is becoming a criminal case now, in regard to the ABH and assault charges at any rate.
I would love to have a chat with the headmaster, and ask him what, exactly, would warrant suspension? If my brother (a male Indian) had punched the fuckwit (white, middle class), would my brother have merely been suspended for a week? Or, because my parents aren’t school governors, would he have been suspended?
Sorry to hear about your brother, Angua. I hope he feels better soon.
Another course of action might be to make a presentation at a full meeting of your brother’s school’s board of governors. I’d think they’d want to hear how one of their own tried to use her position to intimidate your parents into dropping the charges. If your brother’s okay with it, make a PowerPoint demonstration with photos, medical reports, and the whole ball of wax so the entire board can see for themselves what this monster did.
Robin
Damn hamsters ate my post (I tried to post like over an hour ago and everyone beat me to it, but anyway).
Seriously, Angua, sic 'em for all they’re worth. Fuckwit’s mom needs to learn not to gloss over her son’s actions, and Fuckwit needs to learn that assaulting people for no reason is wrong. If Fuckwit doesn’t receive heavy enough punishment for what he did, I bet his mom will have real fun preserving Fuckwit’s future by covering up for him as the years go by.
Anyway, hugs and sympathy to you and your family, love. I hope your parents won’t back down on this.
Surely, they wouldn’t fucking dare give your brother a hard time.
The man is a psycho. A letter in the local paper is called for, so parents of bright, decent parents think twice about allowing there children go there. I know there’s bulling at all schools, but for fucks sake. This is beyond some silly mistake. I’m sure fuckwit’s mother would be the first baying for blood if some working class yob had hit her precious.
Oh yeah, and fuckwit’s mother should resign.
Hey, Angua, I only just got here. My thoughts are with you and your family.
First of all, I hope your brother recovers well and as quickly as can be expected. I’m sure he’s getting good care. These things are horrible to have to go through, but he’s a young guy and I’m sure he will, in time, make a full recovery and be OK. Take comfort in that, and in the meantime let him know that we’re all thinking of him and wishing him well. Is there some address where we can send him a card or a message or a box of chocolate bars or something?
Second of all, stick with that prosecution and let’s hope the psychopath gets all that’s coming to him. As for his mother, attempting to abuse her position of power to influence the school’s policy towards her psychopath’s behaviour, your local paper would love that story - together with a picture of your brother. You, or your parents, are also within your rights to call a Parent’s Meeting of the school governors to present your case. Just be sure you can prove everything you wish to allege. But do play careful here and play smart. I know this is emotionally upsetting, but revenge is a dangeorus game. What goes around comes around.
I’m sorry to hear that you feel helpless in a big-sisterly sort of way. That’s greatly to your credit, in one way, but in another way you need to make peace with yourself. You couldn’t have helped it at the time, and you’re not to blame, no matter how angry and upset you feel. The best thing you can do now is to be strong, for yourself and for your brother.
I am perplexed and disheartened by the strange recent turn of events. 
Is there any chance you would consider letting some of us write to the school board? I promise to keep it professional. No fuck-words. It would be on my business letterhead, too.
If you (and the mods) think this is a good idea, let us know. Then, we’ll e-mail each other for the particulars. (So The Dope has nothing to do with it. No SDMB involvement whatsoever.)
Anyone else want in, or got an even better idea?
btw, I hope your 'rents and bro stick to their guns, but I will still be 100% supportive in any circumstance.
Unfortunately, they probably would.
Unfortunately, in terms of academic achievement, its the best in the area. It’d put of some people, but not all.
I will do. He thinks we’re all insane, but he will definitely appreciate the kind thoughts.
Er, you could either send stuff to me and I’ll forward it on (with an explanation!) or you can post things directly to him - let me know which you’d rather do, and I’ll give you the relevant address.
I know, which is why I’m still contemplating letters to the press, rather than having written them already and sent them. As for a Parents’ Meeting, I’d probably have to be the one to call that, as I doubt that my parents would have the confidence to do such a thing - they’d be worried about the repercussions on my brother. We have evidence as to what happened - there were multiple witnesses.
NoClueBoy - its a nice idea, however, I think it may be best to see what the school does once charges are brought forward, and then take things from there.
This is not meant to be advice on how your brother and your family should handle this situation, but I went through something quite smiliar a while ago.
When I was 12 and my sister was 10, we were attacked by two older girls known around town as bullies at the town park. It was out of school hours, around 7 in the evening when this happened, so the school had ‘no standing’ to do anything regarding punishment for the attack. I say ‘attack’ and not fight because as we were walking through the park with a friend of ours, we were all three approached by the two of them. The ‘leader bully’ looked at catsis and catsix’s friend and said ‘Your brother is cool with us, so we’re gonna leave you alone.’ and then commenced to wailing on my sister and I. After being hit, punched, thrown on the ground and kicked, they finally left us there. Our friend had taken the opportunity to run to my house and alert my parents about what was happening, and they met us about two blocks from home. Dad knew the father of the ‘leader bully’ and had even had this man do work for us in the past, as they were sort of casual friends. I have never seen Catdad so angry in all his life.
He made two phone calls when we got back to the house. First, he called the police to have ‘leader bully’ and ‘sidekick bully’ arrested for assault, and second he called ‘leader bully dad’ and told him that as a coutersy he was informing him personally that he would be pressing charges against ‘leader bully’ and ‘sidekick bully’ for the unprovoked attack on his daughters. My mother asked him not to drag it into court, because she thought it would provoke the bully twins further. In the end, Catdad decided that one way or another, catsis and catsix would have to fight back. So we went to court, and catsis and I had to testify in front of the judge about what happened. ‘Leader bully’ and ‘sidekick’ plead not guilty to 2 counts of assault each, but were found guilty anyway and sentenced to a year of probation to be monitored by a probation officer. The judge told them to stay away from catsis and me.
It was the last time they laid word or finger on either of us.
Ironic as hell, and thirteen years later, ‘sidekick bully’ is now in my life again through the work I do. I have told my employer about the past actions and that I would prefer to never be put in a position of direct authority over her (Yep, the cliche is true. That’s one bully who now has to look up to the victim.) so that there’ll be no questions of my being partial or holding a grudge. Thirteen years later, and now when she looks at me, she quickly turns her head and stares at her feet.
I hope your brother will be OK, and that whatever your family decides to do, it will end his problems with this criminal piece of shit.